why do people focus so hard on escapism instead of actually helping themselves

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Diposting pertama kali oleh 8bitbeard:

Why assume that everyone who engages in escapism is trying to cope with something?

nowhere did i say that

[Defective Dopamine Pez Dispenser]

As with all else in life, this depends on the definitions and dialectic you're working with. What does "escapism" mean in this context? What does "helping oneself" mean? What are the goals of "helping oneself?" Is one of them to improve the quality of one's life? What does that constitute?

Who determines that? By what criteria are those determinations made? Who decides said criteria? What are the most meaningful experiences and dynamics in life? And why are some forms of lived experience ostensibly more meaningful than others?

You'll get different answers to each of those questions depending upon who you ask. And any attempt to quantify or ascribe absolute, objective value to said experiences and dynamics will in actuality be highly subjective and variable. People's metrics, standards, and situations (including, lest people forget, since they always tend to... medical circumstances, disabilities, levels of function, etc.) differ wildly.

People's time in this world is finite and precious. People choose to spend it how they wish (if they are fortunate enough to have a broad degree of freedom with respect to that choice, which not everyone does, it must be said.)

At the end of our lives, awareness permitting, we get the opportunity to look back on our years and consider what we might have done differently. Those who do so with zero regrets are rare or self-deluded in my experience. Generally, those with "no regrets" simply lack self-reflection. A life without error is not a life honestly reflected upon or confronted.

A mirror of the question this topic asks could easily be: why do people who presumably have their own houses in order choose to focus on how their fellow destined-to-die mortal beings spend their limited time in this world, rather than helping those whose houses are ostensibly not in order in their eyes?

[jahpeg]

Diposting pertama kali oleh Jej:

There are things in life that just can't be fixed no matter how much elbow grease and pep one puts in it.

Escapism helps with giving peace even for a little bit.

makes sense and now i'm realizing i sort of projected my personal experience onto others with the way i worded the thread; when ♥♥♥♥ is ♥♥♥♥♥♥ i don't want anything to do with escapism because it feels like ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ filler and makes everything feel worse somehow. the only thing that can calm me down is solutions and i become obsessive when there are none, so escapism for me has always been more of a thing to do in a better mood

tl;dr didn't understand escapism as a coping strategy because i don't know how to unwind apparently. ♥♥♥♥

[Captain Morgan]

Escapism = helping yourself. Struggling to earn/achieve something is rarely cost-effective, if at all pheasible. And even if you manage, if your victory is short-lived or the situation reversed later, things are going to become much worse, fast. Always measure carefully, the RiskAndReward factor and act accordingly. Sometimes inaction, letting things be and take their natural set course without your intervention, is best. One does not simply toys with Destiny; better play with toys, instead.

[TwisterCat]

It's a good question, but where does one draw the line between escapism, and real world? I like tennis, but is tennis escapism if I'm exercising? What about a board game, or a novel, if I'm making friends, or enhancing my language capabilities? What about farming simulator? They're simulating a job, so is that really escapism?

My take is that escapism and reality are two in the same, industrialism has just taken the soul out of nearly every man, woman and child in this nation, by stuffing them into offices and braindrain schools. Helping yourself is doing what's physically and emotionally good for you, but it just so happens that most countries and companies are against you in that regard, so escaping from that toxic environment is what we call "escapism."

[skOsH♥]

Diposting pertama kali oleh Captain Morgan:

Escapism = helping yourself. Struggling to earn/achieve something is rarely cost-effective, if at all pheasible. And even if you manage, if your victory is short-lived or the situation reversed later, things are going to become much worse, fast. Always measure carefully, the RiskAndReward factor and act accordingly. Sometimes inaction, letting things be and take their natural set course without your intervention, is best. One does not simply toys with Destiny; better play with toys, instead.

Couldn't have said it better myself. Good take.

[TJSlipperman]

Maybe because there are factors that keep the ability or opportunities to help ourselves out of reach?

[Barney, from Black Mesa.]

Because escaping is easier rather than confronting the problems and creating solutions to the things that continues to lower their quality of life. Most people nowadays are either too arrogant or stubborn for their own good as they lack the backbone to step out of that comfort zone and confront their problems with a bit of necessary hardship and much-needed changes.

Such people have long lived a comfortable life of escapism and distractions so rather instead they would rather pick what is most convenient and familiar to them rather than what would be best for them. Convenience is the goal of society and through it breeds weakness and susceptibility.

[lightwo]

Real life is the last thing I'm interested in. Escaping reality is much better.

[【ボス B o s s】]

Sometimes you need fantasy to escape real life.

And sometimes, you need real life to escape fantasy.

[Edward Von Worms]

you only really have control over yourself but even that requires a degree of discipline and willpower, you dont really have power over other people unless you use force or manipulation but doing that means you think you know someone better than they do or you just dont care and you want that person to be a certain thing which maybe is not what they want.

Not everyone can be strong all the time, thats just being human we are sometimes flawed sometimes weak, sometimes we make mistakes we can't fix and sometimes we get stuck on things, a lack of confidence or self esteem is not as easy to deal with as some people think, when you find yourself in this situation sometimes fantasy is better than reality, reality can just be too painful sometimes, anyway what do you care if i exile myself from the human race it's just one more life among the horde of humanity, how much is human life really worth in the greater scheme of things.

i think humans greatly over value themselves.

[Kiddiec͕̤̱͋̿͑͠at 🃏]

Diposting pertama kali oleh scudgel:

why do people focus so hard on escapism instead of actually helping themselves

Sometimes it's out of spite, because Marche Radiuju[www.google.com] can't stop all of us!

[Ruckman_Void]

Time out is necessary in order to effectively and resiliently help themselves, maybe
Very few superhumans truly exist

[MinionJoe]

Want to make sure everyone here knows the dictionary definition:

es·cap·ism

/əˈskāpˌizəm/
noun
the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.

Whether anyone chooses to use that definition or not is entirely up to them. Like how some people use the dictionary definition for "feminism" but use their own definition for "woman".

[Ruckman_Void]

Diposting pertama kali oleh MinionJoe:

Want to make sure everyone here knows the dictionary definition:

es·cap·ism

/əˈskāpˌizəm/
noun
the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.

Whether anyone chooses to use that definition or not is entirely up to them. Like how some people use the dictionary definition for "feminism" but use their own definition for "woman".

"Escapism" for you, is a reminder that you have some issues with feminists? You need to seek some distraction and relief from unpleasant realities!