Marriage Mod - To Have & To Hold
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amjones2000 Oct 6 @ 7:09pm 
so i got a mod (more marriable girls) and my current wife, who i married through that mod, won't let me move to a new home... i don't want to kill her so i'm gonna try this mod to get a divorce
CPG Tidus Oct 1 @ 10:57pm 
maybe add multiple marriages at once?
emil_olai Sep 25 @ 5:24pm 
I get stuck in an eternal loading screen when I try to enter Temple of Mara to attend my weading ceremony. Does anyone know og a fix?
Baal Sep 23 @ 3:54pm 
it's a dirty mod. before using it, clean it with tes5edit. that will help to avoid problems.
The Gum of Others Sep 22 @ 9:35pm 
I had this mod work flawlessly on an old save, but i attempted to marry jordis the sword maiden on a new one and the marriage cerimony keeps failing even if i stay in the temple all night
Llamanati Confirmed Sep 22 @ 3:12pm 
I cant tell my spouse where to live!?!?
shoryshy Sep 19 @ 9:27pm 
Well, sorry about those multiple posts, apparently I had more to say than 1000 characters.

I have used this mod for months and it works quite well. Just thought I could offer some answers to questions and ended up feeling like I was spam city.

Always save at different steps during the wedding process so you can always load back-up the previous save. Review your notes and test again. It does work, I assure you...

I do have additional information ready if you would like to see posted. Don't want to over post unless requested.

Nostre The Giant Sep 13 @ 12:50pm
does this make klepper's daughter from markarth marriable.

I don't believe so, you may want to check other mods for her. She is rather popular and I have seen other mods, however I don't use any of them.
shoryshy Sep 19 @ 9:16pm 
1) To divorce the spouse, remove the wedding rings from both of you then speak to your soon-to-be ex again. You should see the divorce option in the dialogue box.
2) I can't confirm if you are able to remarry a divorced spouse but can verify they do get pretty upset and won't talk to you when the divorce is final. It is my understanding though that after a period of time, they will forgive and forget allowing for another chance at marriage.
shoryshy Sep 19 @ 9:15pm 
Marriage Partners
1) This mod works good with other mods that increase the available number of marriage partners. I use Marriageable Nord Males by Altbert (here on Steam) and he offers a variety of marriageable NPC mods for males and females.
shoryshy Sep 19 @ 9:12pm 
Adapter for Heartfire
1) Another important mod for Heartfire users is Adapter Marriage Mod to Hearthfire by Ilhe

Marriage Mod - To Have and To Hold

From the author of Adapter Marriage Mod to Hearthfire by Ilhe

In load order must be right after Marriage Mod.

File names:
MarriageMod - HF.esp
MarriageMod - HF.bsa

Known bugs.
If you are already married and then decide to include this Adapter into your game, it's somewhat unstable. I ran a few tests, one time the spouse works correctly, and another time he/she breaks. Remarrying your spouse would likely fix this issue. As soon as I figure out why it happens, I'll either fix it, or tell how to avoid it. For now - I'd recommend use it with care if you are already married, if you are not married - everything should be ok.
shoryshy Sep 19 @ 9:08pm 
@Helen.Baq Aug 27 @ 9:01pm
This mod turned my dark elf female's body into a male orc.

I would not think this mod caused that issue, as the files don't touch the meshes or textures folders. Only scripts and sound files are showing in the .bsa file. Might try looking at what other player modification mods you have installed.
shoryshy Sep 19 @ 9:08pm 
Darkeness. Sep 8 @ 4:30pm
Hello, I -attempted- to marry the Argonian, Shavee. The quest popped up saying 'speak to your spouse during the ceremony' but when I did, all I could ask is her vanila dialogue and asking her to move in her house. Any ideas?

My understanding is you should go to her house first then if triggers the other move options. It also set the Lover's Comfort rest effect you receive when sleeping with each other. Try that first then see what happens.
Nostre The Giant Sep 13 @ 12:50pm 
does this make klepper's daughter from markarth marriable.
Darkeness. Sep 8 @ 4:30pm 
Hello, I -attempted- to marry the Argonian, Shavee. The quest popped up saying 'speak to your spouse during the ceremony' but when I did, all I could ask is her vanila dialogue and asking her to move in her house. Any ideas?
jaderive Sep 7 @ 3:02am 
Anyone know if the author JoeThinkStudio's is still active ? and working on the mods, I havent seen any replies from htem at all, I know rl can be very busy, went 5-6 threads back and no reply ?
jaderive Sep 7 @ 2:55am 
@ Maple, I do beleive teh video mentions you can divource you current spouse for someone else o.o, did you want to video
jaderive Sep 7 @ 2:53am 
I love teh whole idea of this mod on whole, just one thing when watching the video, the new npc's that are opened up for marriage, hhhmmm seem to All females ;p , will you be adding couple of males for women, the men on the wiki for availbility, "cough" rough choice, , while there are quite a few male follower / marriageable mods, just you know if This mod, hint hint, had like one or 2 , as with the females for availibility... o.o :p
Cycriss Aug 31 @ 2:13pm 
It won't let me talk to the Aspect. I get the prompt but nothing happens
VultureTim Aug 29 @ 8:34pm 
is there a divorce system?
柏崎星奈 Aug 29 @ 6:45am 
Helen.Baq Aug 27 @ 9:01pm 
This mod turned my dark elf female's body into a male orc.
Ms. Stranger Aug 26 @ 4:07pm 
Hey, in order to get the Spouces Enhanced mod to work with this, it's best to be single and then marry the person.
I just wanna let other people know.
Also, is it possible to remarry someone that you divorce?
DragonsBlood 11:11 Aug 26 @ 6:01am 
Didnt work for me.That sucks!Theres many a woman in skyrim i want to marry.Cant just stop at one.Oh well,ill just stick to divorce and re-marry with the console.
MartinBoc Aug 26 @ 2:29am 
I wanna marriage people of same gender (lesbians :3 )
Nimnir Aug 24 @ 4:40pm 
I assume the mod will work for any characters i "force" into liking me through cc. And not only for those that are available in vanilla.

(If so, Mark.20 and all you others wondering what command to use:
addtofaction 19809 1
setrelationshiprank player 4 )
Mark.20 Aug 21 @ 2:41pm 
one my save i was married to aela and wondered what it would be like to marry lydia. after the devorce and marrying again i realised being with lydia wasnt working for me, but now aela wont talk to me so we cant get back together and my last save of us together is along time ago. is there a way for aela to marry me again because i really dont want to have to go back the my last save :( PLEASE HELP!!!!
EPICDUCK623 Aug 20 @ 7:43am 
i want to live in a house i made in with hearthfire, but it won't giv me that house as an option. Is it a glitch or is this mod not compatiable with hearthfire?
A Rather Spooky Blihk™ Aug 18 @ 7:54pm 
the quest speak to ____ during the reception never gets completed no matter how many times i speak to them, and if i return to the house i told them to go to the marker for the previously mentioned quest ends up somewhere near ivarstead... plz help
lordtemplar17 Aug 18 @ 12:40pm 
how about adding a quest to invite any one you want
EKA101 Aug 15 @ 7:51am 
very good mod.
King Murrlin Aug 14 @ 1:38am 
so how do you marry multiple wivesat the same time, the aspect wont let me talk to it
Tainted Smegma Aug 14 @ 12:40am 
to make the aspect re-appear just pray at the mara altar
Captain Kraken Aug 13 @ 3:24pm 
I give the Aspect the money, propose to new wife, but then it keeps saying 'attend your wedding' no matter how much I wait. I am not sure whether its an incompatiblity issue cause I have a multi-follower, marriable serena and two other marriable NPC's. Help please.
nochoman37 Aug 11 @ 3:40pm 
how do you get anouther wife? it doesnt give me the option after i married someone
Deathbringer Aug 11 @ 2:17pm 
The quest keeps failing and i'm doing everything it's wants me to what do i do?
Captain Kraken Aug 11 @ 3:11am 
@joeThinksStudios The Aspect of Love isn't at the Temple of Mara, I have moved it to the top and the bottom of my mod list, but it doesn't work. What I am doing wrong?
Tadrain Man Of The Wolves Aug 9 @ 8:39am 
Idk how to do the quest find out where [...] has gone~Who am I finding?~please respond quickly~
phenixon Aug 9 @ 1:14am 
Hello everyone, I'd like to know if this mod and it's hearthfire update is compatible with the mod "Spouse enhanced"
matthunter76 Aug 7 @ 12:29pm 
needs fixing
Nyan Meister Aug 3 @ 7:49pm 
Why can't I talk to the aspect he appears and when it says e to talk it doesn't work please help
matthunter76 Aug 2 @ 2:57pm 
When I Attend The Wedding Ceremony It says I failed and the wedding doesnt happen. Help??????????
Sir Pwnsalot Jul 31 @ 10:11am 
Its an good mod, but it need a bit of work, just install it, you will forget it, it will be worked on and eventually you will remember and then you want to never get rid of it again
kc7lzk Jul 31 @ 9:00am 
After reading all this i am going to hold off downloading this mod for now.
Sir Pwnsalot Jul 31 @ 6:14am 
How does the Aspect of Love appear?
Big Jul 28 @ 10:38am 
The Aspect of Love appeared only once, and when i brought the money he dont appear. I try to put alpha v.esp to the lowest active mod in the skyrim launcher, but unsuccessfully.
Baryonyx Jul 28 @ 9:24am 
I have a problem with this: I talked to the aspect and was able to propse to a second wife and she accepted. Now the questlog tells me to go to Maramal but he does not have any appropriate dialog option. So I'm stuck. Anyone knows some help?
Toughmule Jul 23 @ 10:51pm 
mbrou same here I got my 5th wife and then on my 6th I couldn't attend the marriage and I am using dawngaurd dragonborn and hearthfre
tpowell647 Jul 19 @ 10:02am 
sorry to bother you, but i was at the alter of mara talking to the ghost when i was rudley inturrupped and when i got back he was gone, i tried seveal times to reconnect but he does not talk to me . i've even deleted and started over but still no words
what do you suggest
mbrou87 Jul 17 @ 12:33pm 
Im having the same problem. i find a wife and wait for the marriage but no matter how or where i wait, it fails the "attend your marriage" and i cant marry any npc. ive tried everything. i have my custom clothes, what am i doing wrong? this mod isnt working
acmedad Jul 16 @ 11:24am 
Has anyone seen a mod that expands the dialog with one's spouse? able to bring home gifts to the spouse? ...enables to the spouse to change outfits? And so on...