Venting your problems, to your friends.

[Ohrank]

Does anybody else have the feeling in the back of their mind just wondering if you're annoying/bothering the hell out of your friends whenever you vent to them about stuff going on in your life? Not that any of them are showing signs of annoyance, or anything. But it's a subconscious thought. I can't help it.

[Good Night Owl]

Well, if all you're ever doing with a particular friend is venting, it's not much of a friendship. I'd cut ties with someone who does that to me.

So I would definitely want to make sure there's some positive things in the relationship.

[TGC> The Games Collector]

Yes?

Nobody wants to hear about my problems, they already got problems enough of their own.

[Dracoco OwO]

I don't vent about most of the stuff i think about to anyone close to me, i don't want to cause problems.

[Dracoco OwO]

Originally posted by Meme:

You want the truth? I'm just brutal about it these days. All of your friends actually AREN'T your friends. Nobody is actually hearing anything we say to them. They don't care about us or love us. I'm not projecting. It's the truth. People are so wrapped up in their own minds and egos and stories they have told themselves.

Also this i feel there is no point, nobody actually cares.

[WhineDeer(Beatmeup)]

Nah luckily we are all wild and jittery and we could go all day and night saying the most random out of the place ♥♥♥♥ and get a laugh out of it where most people would probably be uncomfortable. And we always talk about our life situations and what has happen today

[Ohrank]

Originally posted by Meme:

You want the truth? I'm just brutal about it these days. All of your friends actually AREN'T your friends. Nobody is actually hearing anything we say to them. They don't care about us or love us. I'm not projecting. It's the truth. People are so wrapped up in their own minds and egos and stories they have told themselves.

That's kind of what I'm thinkin'.

[Ohrank]

Originally posted by ?20moredays(WhineDeer):

Nah luckily we are all wild and jittery and we could go all day and night saying the most random out of the place ♥♥♥♥ and get a laugh out of it where most people would probably be uncomfortable

I wish I had friend's like that.

[Ohrank]

Originally posted by TGC> The Games Collector:

Yes?

Nobody wants to hear about my problems, they already got problems enough of their own.

Yeah, I get that. But I personally love my friends coming to me, and venting. Vent back. It's a gateway. I feel like in most occasions, makes a friendship stronger. Shows that you care, and are listening.

[Ohrank]

Originally posted by Good Night Owl:

Well, if all your ever doing with a particular friend is venting, it's not much of a friendship. I'd cut ties with someone who does that to me.

So I would definitely want to make sure there's some positive things in the relationship.

Well I don't vent constantly obviously lol. I just mean whenever I do happen too I feel like im annoying. They never mention it, or show signs of annoyance. But its a subconscious thought. I cant help it

[Triple G]

I usually solve my problems myself. But yes - there are people who are all about problems. I´m more on the side who listens, and tries to give advice - if i know that the person wouldn´t make up another problem, only to have something to talk about.

[WhineDeer(Beatmeup)]

Originally posted by Ohrank:

Originally posted by TGC> The Games Collector:

Yes?

Nobody wants to hear about my problems, they already got problems enough of their own.

Yeah, I get that. But I personally love my friends coming to me, and venting. Vent back. It's a gateway. I feel like in most occasions, makes a friendship stronger. Shows that you care, and are listening.

I do love a good vent but sometimes the venting gets to intense that we end up blocking each other then seeing each other again after like 3 months or so or a year depending.

[Hobbit XIII]

Something I find is people who I thought were my friends / close to me were only using me for their vents.
I would listen to them moan none stop about it all.
I vent my thoughts or problems literally absolute most 5% of what they do and voila you realise it is not a two way thing.

Or your really too tired to listen to another hour plus moaning of theirs which you hear every time you see them and 'come on lets just talk about something that is 'ok ' oh dear, arent you the evil one Corvus XIII how dare you listen to all the crap totalling 100 plus hours and just want to be chilled out or happy for once.

Theres mutual venting and then theres just griping as people do and then theres the pit of despair and you are the one unfortunate to listen to it all.

Gran Torino Barbers and builders, = healthy.
Watch it.

Beyond that = too heavy for every time.

[Cinnamoon_dragon]

Real friendships are extremely rare. Besides, all people are different, so you should always be mindful of what you say to others. The moment you reveal your pain, some act as if it’s infectious, quickly retreating from your life. Then there are the ones who can't keep your private matters private. Treasure the people you can trust; such connections are invaluable. Don't waste energy searching for people who'll solve your problems - seek those who won't add to them

[kbiz]

I try not to be a Debby Downer around my friends. Instead, just pretend they said what you wanted to hear.

[Rio]

Its okay to vent, if you also let your friend vent to you.

Within reason. But if your friend purposely tries to trigger you to vent all the time, they are a bad person. Because that stress can hurt your health, specially as you get older, it could even lead to stroke or other such.