Why is making eye contact so hard?

[🔥MasterLord🔥]

Like people stare into my soul, when I try to look at them.

[Volfogg]

Uhh... Then don't make that contact or focus on that idea, otherwise it might result in developing an unhealthy desire to claw someone's eyes out. Talking from experience.

[Pierce Dalton]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από 🔥MasterLord🔥:

Like people stare into my soul, when I try to look at them.

You're afraid of people (strangers at least), that's why it's hard to maintain eye contact. You gotta stop caring, they're just humans and according to my database the majority of humans is not very smart.

[Shodan]

It just bothers me when it's at an awkwardly small distance.

[skOsH♥]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από unturorum:

It just bothers me when it's at an awkwardly small distance.

Same. I had one person get up so close to me that it was within the "intimate zone" and they just stared into my eyes. I couldn't remember anything that they said because my eyes were like, well, guess we'll just have to look back uncomfortably....felt way too personal. I did not like it.

Glad I am bad with names and faces, thank goodness. It's so much easier to just not do that kind of stuff. I guess I am attracted to intelligence, so really, I'm more interested in studying and doing creative stuff

[Shodan]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από d¢:

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από unturorum:

It just bothers me when it's at an awkwardly small distance.

Same. I had one person get up so close to me that it was within the "intimate zone" and they just stared into my eyes. I couldn't remember anything that they said because my eyes were like, well, guess we'll just have to look back uncomfortably....felt way too personal. I did not like it.

Glad I am bad with names and faces, thank goodness. It's so much easier to just not do that kind of stuff. I guess I am attracted to intelligence, so really, I'm more interested in studying and doing creative stuff

Exactly. Like when I'm sitting right next to someone on a bus, I'll face forward and occasionally look them in the eyes, I won't just face them and stare at them, that just seems so awkward to me at that distance. Or if I'm walking along with someone, I'll walk forward and see where I'm walking instead of constantly staring at them.

[Q-T_3.14.exe]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από Huh?:

It's really not, you just lack self-esteem and confidence

Why me reading this hurt me? Fascinating. *takes notes*

[[N]ebsun]

eye contact makes you use a ton of brain processing power trying to interpret what they are thinking, feeling, ect... and all the while also making you conscious that they are trying to figure you out too.

[WhineDeer(BlackWarrior)]

i farted

[Psycho]

it's really easy and natural after doing it for so long. there's a balance you have to find with eye contact, you can't make constant eye contact and stare at someone all the time, but you can't avoid looking at them all together.. you gotta find the right amount of it

[swillfly]

because peeple are fffgugly?

[TwisterCat]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από 🔥MasterLord🔥:

Like people stare into my soul, when I try to look at them.

Not sure about others, but that's the sole reason I do it. It commands a hint of attention, a good stare, don't it? Looking directly at people is a good solution for the problem of being ignored, and it's even better if you're good with words.

I've found that even the best things I've had to say aren't heard when my eyes aren't gripping, and the most mundane subjects given consideration just by looking at somebody.

[vexviron]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από 🔥MasterLord🔥:

Like people stare into my soul, when I try to look at them.

It's not hard, just do it. You make it harder than it really is, but the reality of the situation is that you are merely looking at another person. It's that simple. If you can stare at anything, then you can stare at a human.

[Shiro♌]

I have Asperger's, and although making new friends is bothersome and really difficult for me, eye contacts have never been an issue for me, I guess..
I think, Asperger's is about to be seen and treated like autism nowadays, because, apparently, doctors have felt too under pressure and couldn't properly manage their job, which is gonna result in the inappropriate and rough treatment for people like me, but that's just the way it is, I guess. Literally, that's what a wilderness is.
Strong eat weak, and weak get eaten by stronger.

All I can suggest is not to think about it too much.
You should eventually make eye contacts, because It'll feel natural to you, and as have others mentioned before me, there's a few things to keep in mind, like to never stare at somebody's eyes for long periods of time, etcetera.

Anyway, I do like the way you've described it, because that's exactly what it is.
By looking people in the eyes, you can tell when they're lying, honest, happy, sad.. It tells you really a lot of informations about that person.
I, unfortunately, can't really tell when a person is lying or sad, I guess.
I've been trying to tell a few years ago when I was still attending a highschool, but based on the received feedback from them, I was so wrong that I've wanted to die outta shame and embarrassment, or they weren't willing to open up to me just yet.
Even to this day I don't know the answer, but all I need to know is that I do take them as real friends, and I'd be willing to bet that they can feel it.

I don't think, I can be of any help, as all I'd suggest would be to try and force yourself to do it and look people in the eyes.
You can see doctors, talk to your friends and ask them, but their answer is very likely going to be the same as mine.
Like I've said, you just gotta do what you gotta do. As long as you do have a reason and a bit of hope to push yourself forward, you shall eventually find the way.. And make an eye contact with other people with ease. You'll even laugh about it once you get older, even though it's not a matter that's of a lightweight.. It's pretty important.

[lightwo]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από 🔥MasterLord🔥:

Why is making eye contact so hard?
Like people stare into my soul, when I try to look at them.

Then, don't.

[Netaris]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από 🔥MasterLord🔥:

Like people stare into my soul, when I try to look at them.

It's hard because you overestimate peoples, nobody gonna read in your soul or anything like that.

A little help to understand how much peoples are close to nothing : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02Kgf9dCgME