Do you ever accidentally have a borderline romantic moment with a friend

[Apteryx]

Idk why but whenever I hang out with my friends, we usually end up doing something that could easily be a romantic moment if we were dating. For example, last night we watched a thunderstorm churn on the horizon, enjoying the show of the lightning, and one of my friends was sitting really close to me for warmth because it was a cold night. Do you ever find yourself in moments like this or is it just me?

[76561199675916033]

Well, you are gender-special. So that will logically lead to blurred lines.

[Apteryx]

引用自 nordic：

Well, you are gender-special. So that would logically lead to blurred lines.

Well, he already has a girlfriend so that probably isn't why. He told me he was just cold which made sense since storms usually cool the air around them

[76561199675916033]

引用自 Apteryx：

引用自 nordic：

Well, you are gender-special. So that would logically lead to blurred lines.

Well, he already has a girlfriend so that probably isn't why. He told me he was just cold which made sense since storms usually cool the air around them

It isn't about him, it's about you. If the lines are clear, you reject the thought if it would come up.

[Angel]

I have a few times but my friends are mostly women. They're all attractive and it crossed my mind at the time but deep down we knew it's best to stay friends only.

[AerSilver ♞]

Uhhh no not really. Most of my friends are sweaty gymbros and military veterans. Bromance, maybe. Just not the kind you described.

[sleeps]

kinda. that moment leaved me a week to question stuff. but it's gone... for some reasons

like jaiden said, she may get fixated by whoever see sees but they're just cool and nothing more

[Mina]

Situations are avoided before hand and not during a realization in the moment, for various reasons

[a]

I don't have friends so the answer is no

[dyinggg]

Back when I had friends this was a normal thing. We used to love using weather conditions to modify our experiences testing the limits of reality. Sometimes we would light up and run around in the fog until we were lost. Other times we would watch the lightning cuddled up on the roof or in the garage listening to the rain drops hit the window with the soft orange glow of an old light from the 80s. It was a better time, very romantic. Ugh heartache. Less distance between us all.

[TGC> The Games Collector]

No, not really.

All of it was very intentional.

[jahpeg]

what the ♥♥♥♥

[Raelic]

Your feelings are natural and has nothing to do with what you've said about yourself in your profile. It's called attraction. You can either communicate it to your friend or set boundaries for yourself that if they cross, you will revisit later with communication or if you need to put the friendship on the back burner.

I'm cis and a grown man. When I was young I'd have those feelings all the time toward people. What comes to mind are bus rides for school trips or movies.

Have fun and enjoy it. Those feelings get fewer and fewer as you get older. It's perfectly natural and something I wish people got more often.

[Morkonan]

引用自 Apteryx：

Idk why but whenever I hang out with my friends, we usually end up doing something that could easily be a romantic moment if we were dating. For example, last night we watched a thunderstorm churn on the horizon, enjoying the show of the lightning, and one of my friends was sitting really close to me for warmth because it was a cold night. Do you ever find yourself in moments like this or is it just me?

This sounds like you're describing your own fantasy.

No, I have never sat outside with a friend, watching a thunderstorm churn on the horizon, and huddled together for warmth because it was a cold night with any "friend" I had no romantic interest in.

I don't know if such activity is common among "friends" these days, but it's not something I ever heard of any friends of mine ever doing that didn't also have at least one member of the duo romantically interested in the other.

(Correction - I have put my arm around female friends, on request, in cold weather when they were cold, but that would be relatively brief moments in public spaces.)

I have huddled together with friends during below-freezing temperatures in order to keep from getting frostbite in a survival situation where learning how to survive in cold conditions was the whole point. Those extreme conditions are probably the only reason I or any of they would ever do that.

[Soap]

Probably lots if I think about it. Like one time I was hanging out with two girls not thinking there was any attraction going on, and they wanted to watch a horror movie. We were all sitting in different places in the room. Then at some point, one of them told me I was supposed to go hold the other one because she was scared. And she said it in a way as if to make me feel like I'd done something wrong. Creepiest thing of the day. There's a little more to the story but I think that's enough to convey it.

I guess some people start relationships that way. To each their own, but to me that's weird as ♥♥♥♥. They were both pretty, and fine friends for the short time I knew them, but in that moment they were treating me like some object. As if they had some plan to manipulate me. I couldn't think of anything I'd done to give anyone the wrong impression. It was just an all around awkward moment.

I'm sure if I had done what she said, then it would've become some romantic gossip story like, "oh it was so sweet she was scared and Soap went and held her. We totally didn't try any manipulation tactics or anything. Awe."

I don't remember exactly what I said in response, but they did drop the issue and things went right back to normal. I don't mean to make them sound bad, but that moment definitely was. Like I said, there was a little more to it too. But I don't think that was a typical thing for either of them to do.

[Birds]

yes I can't read such signals very well, and my instinct is to just say yes and let people do what they want.

I think people are in denial about how close they get with their friends a lot of the time, and just how romantic their relationships really are.

doesn't help my entire experience with love is as an amnesiac interacting with peopel I've been with before, without knowing that that was the case.