Why Do Guys Miss Hints?

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BunnieBealla (Заблокований) 26 трав. 2024 о 21:24

I was wondering about this after remembering my friend telling me a couple months ago he just now realised a female friend of his was hardcore flirting with him in high school, and then later seeing a meme of a guy missing a girls flirty joke, why does this seem like a regular occurrence? also, if it's because women aren't more direct, what is the best way of signalling better uwu

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Both men and woman in general are just terrible at communications and not just flirting so what chance do most teens have? It is like telling a joke to an audience if you do not know your audience your bound to make more mistakes than hear laughter. So you have to understand the person on a base level before flirting with them if your trying to get a date that is.

If a flirt, compliment or tease turns into a conversation than your doing something right and if not than your doing things wrong or the other person is not interested enough or at all what you have to say. That is as simple as I can explain it. The longer you can hold the conversation and both parties contribute the more likely you have a connection or know you do not have one.

If that happens the best thing to do is just be honest rip the band-aid say you like him, her. If the answer back is they do not feel the same way you know where you stand. If the person makes fun of it you just dodged a bullet same if there way of talking with you changes. And if the person is uncertain well either give them time or move on. If you are not interested enough in them for that in which case you might want to re-evaluate when to flirt.

But you have to learn to communicate feelings or any attempt at a healthy relation be it friendly or romantic is doomed to fail.

The girl should just at that point have taken your friend apart from the group and told him straight in the face what she was doing and that she liked him or simply stopped flirting and move on. And he should have taken that as a hint to actually listen to the person they hang out with and consider if he also liked her if he was mature enough for starting a healthy relationship.

But that is something you learn later in life *hopefully* because for all the education we get simple communications is rarely part of it. You have more change of someone giving basic sex education than good communication advice in general. Which is weird because almost any dispute ever or situation needs to be handled with communications so if there is a skill anyone should be good at it should be this. And sadly the state of the world in general perfectly reflects how bad we are at communicating with each other.

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Chaosolous 26 трав. 2024 о 21:25

I think it's because we're solution focused so nuance is lost on us.

If you want a man to get a hint, spell it out for him. Then read it to him. Then ask him to say it back to you.

76561199094198998 26 трав. 2024 о 21:26

women have a kind of brain damage called growing up female, and men ahve the opposite brain damage.

because of this women will leave hints forever, because they're too scared to be themselves.

DarkCrystalMethod 26 трав. 2024 о 21:30

Some guys notice ALL the hints but must remain strong to finish the task at hand. We think of it afterward even if we don't say anything.

oréo基特维兹. 26 трав. 2024 о 21:33

because most of times females joke does suck really hard to a point where they don't different between being fun and invading someone's personal space, man is straight forward and open flat minded doesn't take six million process to understand, when you think you are funny and you touch him with some words it won't make his upset but instead triggered into being violent, in men's head department they want everything to be straight forward like if you want to give me A I will give you B, but instead woman go like give me D I give you an CK to that D, man will be like NO C comes before D, what are you doing, so on.
sometimes, also man think that everything does the woman to him means that she wants him or flirting with him. either ways man need something forward for him because sadly man is just a big baby in the end of the day.

em_t_hed 26 трав. 2024 о 21:33

are you trying to hint at something with this post

miakisfan 26 трав. 2024 о 21:34

If you really want someone that bad just come out and say it. Not all of us guys are used to women hitting on us. Besides it isn't wise to assume something is what you think it may be.

Things would be a lot easier if some folks just came out and said how they felt and took the chance. I've done it before and failed. Yeah, it sucked but it was a lesson learned. It doesn't help that some people don't like to fail even though learning to be a good loser makes you a better winner when you do.

A guy missing a hint is a guy who wasn't told straight up and became a missed opportunity. The fault lies with both people at that point in time.

Accept the part you played in it too and maybe you'll learn a lesson too.

BunnieBealla (Заблокований) 26 трав. 2024 о 21:36

Цитата допису em_t_hed:
are you trying to hint at something with this post

hint at what uwu

em_t_hed 26 трав. 2024 о 21:39

Цитата допису BunnieBealla:
Цитата допису em_t_hed:
are you trying to hint at something with this post

hint at what uwu

what is this... stop being coy... what are you hinting at...

DarkCrystalMethod 26 трав. 2024 о 21:41

Unfortunately there's a certain percentage who would prefer the bear...

Sir Dookface McFerretballs 26 трав. 2024 о 21:43

After decades of telling men they shouldn't hit on women, flirt with women, catcall women, look at women, or make the first move...

It shouldn't be any surprise they don't catch a "hint".

You want a guy to know you are into them you say, "Hey dude! I like you! Wanna meet up with me sometime?"

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Chaosolous 26 трав. 2024 о 21:44

One time while at a small party at a friend's house, I was getting ready to leave and said "Well, I gotta get going, my bedroom's calling." and the girl I was hanging out with that night was like "Oh, I'd love to know what your room looks like." so I was like "What? That's weird." and described it to her and then left not long after.

In my defense I was pretty ♥♥♥♥♥♥ up, but I'm also making excuses so there's that. The next day my buddy was just like "Bruh."

I'm sure there's plenty of far more subtle hints that I, and many men, never pick up on.

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BunnieBealla (Заблокований) 26 трав. 2024 о 21:57

Цитата допису em_t_hed:
Цитата допису BunnieBealla:

hint at what uwu

what is this... stop being coy... what are you hinting at...

nothing
I just wanted to ask uwu

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Refurbished Cream Cheese 26 трав. 2024 о 22:04

Maybe he's just not that attracted to her? so to him it's just "talk", and not a flirt.

a better way of "signaling" would also be to be physically attracted to them? idk...

There's more than just flirting that connects a couple.

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DarkCrystalMethod 26 трав. 2024 о 22:08

Цитата допису Chaosolous:
One time while at a small party at a friend's house, I was getting ready to leave and said "Well, I gotta get going, my bedroom's calling." and the girl I was hanging out with that night was like "Oh, I'd love to know what your room looks like." so I was like "What? That's weird." and described it to her and then left not long after.

In my defense I was pretty ♥♥♥♥♥♥ up, but I'm also making excuses so there's that. The next day my buddy was just like "Bruh."

I'm sure there's plenty of far more subtle hints that I, and many men, never pick up on.

I don't see the problem here. Next time bring pictures to the party.

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