Does heartbreak hurt less with experience?

[✪ Jim Lahey]

This might seem like a silly question, and it's probably a different answer for everyone but for you personally does the pain hurt less each time on average?

A little over half a year ago I got dumped for the first time and it was a lengthy relationship and I was in a lot of pain, but I don't think I could ever be hurt that bad again by anyone, I feel like I've grown and I'm stronger.. or maybe just more numb to it? Or I could be completely wrong and it might hurt just as bad the next time (also depends on the person to of course)

What's everyones experience with this if you've been broken up with a few times? Does it hurt less each time?

[Richard I]

I've never gone through a breakup, lucky me!

[God, owner of the Universe]

Pork Eating Crusader eredeti hozzászólása:

Are you telling me, that normal men are as emotional as women?

Ms. Jack Bauer eredeti hozzászólása:

We basically teach men that their feelings are invalid or shouldn't exist.

PEC, you use the argument of hormones. Women's bodies are certainly more capable (e.g. kind of cell-division on full body scale), therefore relatively high-maintenance, and their bodies' complex activity/biorhythms cause a stronger and more dynamic feedback on their brains. On the one hand, they are built for this, so it's just routine. On the other hand, the greater dynamic makes keeping the mental balance (A task both sexes otherwise equally have.) more challenging and should therefore statistically cause more failures of proper balance.

But just like a man's animalistic drive to bond for the purpose of sex is a challenge that can lastingly be overcome (A necessity and therefore probable achievement that I can not resist to point out Islamic societies explicitly try to not look in the eye.), a woman's biological challenges can also be abstracted to the degree of complete routine.

Conquering the animal with the mind, that is the task we start dealing with the moment we leave the womb. As the example of addictions (e.g. smoking) and overcoming them shows, the degrees to which individuals achieve this are different, and so is their success in being a person.

The following will seem unfounded or even wrong because mankind has only considered the problem of the purity of will (which e.g. applies in the case of overcoming addictions) to a culpably limited degree, but due to the relevance, I'll say it anyway:

When you decide to not go through with a will because you realize that it's wrong - how are you ultimately making that decision? Who is making it? I'm trying to say that there is something like a last level of decision, and the truth is that even this last level is ultimately an emotional decider. Regarding the mind, we are only will, and that is the same thing as emotion. It's all just will (emotion), except on different scales. And when we conquer the body with the mind, as we should, then we become physical emotion.

Men and women are nothing but emotion, except there's also the animal component if their inhabitant hasn't yet overcome (Actually, assimilated.) it. Who's more emotional, a man or a woman? The one with the bigger mind has the bigger emotion.

When people talk about differences in emotionalness between men and women, they are really only talking about the degree of animalistic irrationality infused in the emotion, which is not a question of sex but a question of the quality of the person, of how much the person has eaten their body with their brain.

But what's just as important is to realize that judging others is highly tricky, and the amount of damage done in the world by wrong judgment is gigantic enough that it should let everybody stop in their tracks when they are about to judge someone, let alone act on their judgment.

[Johnny-Boy]

KailnoSpaces eredeti hozzászólása:

Ketchup eredeti hozzászólása:

More than 80% of those are out of your agespan, assuming you are heterosexual, about 1/10 won't work for you if they are homosexual, half of them are already in a relationship or don't want one, roughly 70% of remaining are not enough attractive, about half of the remaining are either psykopaths or just weird in the head and for most people; 90% of all humans are just too far away.
(note: all said above applies to me and alot of others but should also roughly 'work' for everyone)
Well, I don't know the exact chances but they are not near the word "high" if you are
looking for The True One.

Even with all of that I just ran the math. Still 93,240,000 people to choose from. Not exactly slim pickings.

Don't even know where you go those numbers from anyway.

My funny brain, and I pulled "80% this, 90% that" out of me butt.
Though these parameters goes either up or down according to ones own preference.
And then you have to make sure the other part wants someone like you, and that should erase
near 99,99,99% of all of them. Just scratch that. skkrr-swhoop.
For me I'm just- .... well, I don't believe there are more than a 100 that works for me.
I'm gonna have icecream now.

[Kailally]

Ketchup eredeti hozzászólása:

KailnoSpaces eredeti hozzászólása:

Even with all of that I just ran the math. Still 93,240,000 people to choose from. Not exactly slim pickings.

Don't even know where you go those numbers from anyway.

My funny brain, and I pulled "80% this, 90% that" out of me butt.
Though these parameters goes either up or down according to ones own preference.
And then you have to make sure the other part wants someone like you, and that should erase
near 99,99,99% of all of them. Just scratch that. skkrr-swhoop.
For me I'm just- .... well, I don't believe there are more than a 100 that works for me.
I'm gonna have icecream now.

Come see me some time buddy ;)

[Myrmicon]

Ketchup eredeti hozzászólása:

And I'm also saying "there might be aliens out there" which is about the same thing here.
Getting someone new to love isn't the same as being fired and going for the next job; sometimes
you just quit. Most people either do, or slowly loses their hope about it.
My first answer i gave in this thread was directed to the OP, who doesn't seem like the kind of
type who just shrugs a broken relationship like it wasn't sh*t.
I mean, you are probably right that like one out a thousand might still keep the same(identical) idiotic enthusiasm after 10 failed relationships. I kinda wanna give them a hug, but then again,
at THAT point ....... I feel that they almost deserve it....

Again, that is your guess. Which again, is more than likely pretty wrong. And that doesn't have anything to do with enthusiasm at all, nor with if OP shrugs of a broken relationship or not. Which makes it pretty pointless to bring it up, same with your 'aliens' babbeling, Just seems like you have no idea what to say.
I am just telling you, that you should say 'that is what I guess' at the end of your statment. Because if you don't it looks like you say what you say is a fact, which it definitly isn't. If you feel like, if someone ever broke up with you, you would be a less emotional next time, and that you won't feel as much the next time you like someone that is pretty sad. That is just my personal opinion tho. Anyways, what you are basically saying is that with each time you love someone and you break up, your feelings become less and less next time, wich again is more than wrong unless you say 'for some people'.
I will repeat it niiceee and sloowwlyy again for you since you seem to not get that your generalization you are doing here is kinda messed up.: Everrrryyoneee iss differennnttt and eevverrryonee reacts differently to breakkkuppss. Soooo you can't just sayyyy that 1 in a 1000 thinks your generalization isssss wrooonngg. You cannnn onllyy sayy you 'assume' some peopleeee will feeel lesss and less the moreee relationshippss they've haddd. Beeecauusee everyone is different and you cannot say that forrr surreee.

You should think more about how to bring your point across accuratly, instead of saying stuff without thinking ( if you actually thought about what you wrote ... whew) and that basically reads 'This is how it is, because I say so.'

[Teasel]

Pork Eating Crusader eredeti hozzászólása:

Fusion eredeti hozzászólása:

I guess Mr. Manly Mann doesn't have anything more to add to the discussion. Oh dear how terribly disappointing. :hammerheadsnark:

Don't worry, the real man is here.

Fusion eredeti hozzászólása:

Where did I make said claim? :buddy_boulder:

Fusion eredeti hozzászólása:

On a case by case basis that doesn't apply.

It's still all about hormones, hence why the majority of men aren't as emotional as women.

Men are far more emotional than women. Men get so emotional they level whole countries.

[Bykeshgoly]

Fusion eredeti hozzászólása:

Ketchup eredeti hozzászólása:

It's simple logic. If you heard in the news that people win money out of a lottery ticket and you buy one, and you hit a blank one, you go for another... and maybe another...
but eventually you learn that you might not make it this time, so you don't keep as much hype in the next ticket, which could very well be 'the one'.
If you still keep that Flanders optimism after your 400th failed relationship, you're not only
gullible, you're wack in the sack, yo.
Some- no, ALOT of people ruin a relationship because they dare not drop their guard after their 5th-10th-20th relationship because they don't believe in it anymore but they still want someone, so they don't bring their best...

Love isn't a numbers game. There are so many more factors and variables that come into play that you're ignoring.
- The quality of the relationship
- How it ended
- etc

I thought that love was more of a human impulse and the body takes action by realising chemicals like dopamine to the brain to then get the reaction known as "love". It seems measurable and quantified to me.

[Kailally]

Fusion eredeti hozzászólása:

Ketchup eredeti hozzászólása:

It's simple logic. If you heard in the news that people win money out of a lottery ticket and you buy one, and you hit a blank one, you go for another... and maybe another...
but eventually you learn that you might not make it this time, so you don't keep as much hype in the next ticket, which could very well be 'the one'.
If you still keep that Flanders optimism after your 400th failed relationship, you're not only
gullible, you're wack in the sack, yo.
Some- no, ALOT of people ruin a relationship because they dare not drop their guard after their 5th-10th-20th relationship because they don't believe in it anymore but they still want someone, so they don't bring their best...

Love isn't a numbers game. There are so many more factors and variables that come into play that you're ignoring.
- The quality of the relationship
- How it ended
- etc

So easy solution then. Don't get attached.

[Myrmicon]

KailnoSpaces eredeti hozzászólása:

Fusion eredeti hozzászólása:

Love isn't a numbers game. There are so many more factors and variables that come into play that you're ignoring.
- The quality of the relationship
- How it ended
- etc

So easy solution then. Don't get attached.

That's Boring as ♥♥♥♥ then.

[Kailally]

Myrmicon eredeti hozzászólása:

KailnoSpaces eredeti hozzászólása:

So easy solution then. Don't get attached.

That's Boring as ♥♥♥♥ then. :wat_creep:

I'm never attached and I want to kill myself.

♥♥♥♥. I see your point.

[Bykeshgoly]

KailnoSpaces eredeti hozzászólása:

Myrmicon eredeti hozzászólása:

That's Boring as ♥♥♥♥ then. :wat_creep:

I'm never attached and I want to kill myself.

♥♥♥♥. I see your point.

Won't you just want to die then if it brakes off?

[Myrmicon]

KailnoSpaces eredeti hozzászólása:

Myrmicon eredeti hozzászólása:

That's Boring as ♥♥♥♥ then.

I'm never attached and I want to kill myself.

♥♥♥♥. I see your point.

Whatever keeps the man alive.

[Myrmicon]

N3MO. eredeti hozzászólása:

KailnoSpaces eredeti hozzászólása:

I'm never attached and I want to kill myself.

♥♥♥♥. I see your point.

Won't you just want to die then if it gets breaked off?

At least worth a try then. Either it works or it's gonna make no difference.

[Bykeshgoly]

Fusion eredeti hozzászólása:

N3MO. eredeti hozzászólása:

I thought that love was more of a human impulse and the body takes action by realising chemicals like dopamine to the brain to then get the reaction known as "love". It seems measurable and quantified to me.

Not to the point where you can predict exactly how everything is going to turn out.

But that's no fun.

[Kailally]

Oh wait, solution two! Ellen Baker is my waifu, and I know she'll never leave me. 2D > 3D.