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i usualy wait til someone else gives me a gift to add them to my gift list tho
But sadly they don't have funds to give me anything back usually.
I don't mind.
I don't understand where you got that from, but ok.
Yeah I'd say it's totally fine, give gifts to whoever you want. I'd be wary if you have a girlfriend though, she may or may not be comfortable with that. It really depends on the friendship.
Don't worry; I'm not trying to be your boyfriend or anything.
I've told you time and time again I find you very, very unattractive. Happy Birthday!
No, you're worried about leading them on, and I'd be willing to bet you've had this problem with ladies before. I'd also bet you're intoverted and highly empathetic, not to mention a clever sort.
If that is the case, you are right to be worried. Even if not 100% of it is accurate, there is still cause for concern. People tend to see what they want to see, some more than others, and about five-hundred times more so if you seem approachable. A gift CAN be seen as an invite to a relationship.
So what's to be done? Well, first, let me explain exactly what you should NOT do and what you are probably already doing. I bet a shy-guy like yourself tried to act like he saw nothing, and that made the problem worse, didn't it?
My friend, women look for men to complete them, just as we look to them to complete us. Once a lady sees what she wants, the absolute LAST thing you want to do is act like a gullible, blind fool. You're practically giving her an invitation to step into a super-suit that will endow her with all the powers she never had. This is how shy-guys end up with harridans for wives.
That is not the soul of a relationship, people shouldn't be looking for others to complete them. It's just the soul of breeding and it lasts about as long.
The key to a good romantic relationship is for each person to be a complete person in and of themselves, full and ready to face the world with all they have to offer. When two people like that come together, they select a partner, they don't depend on one, and they can build something better than the pair combined: a life, even a progeny, that is the finest of both.
That is how you deal with the friends you value too much to directly turn away, but don't want a romantic relationship with. You already have the words and the empathy, all you need to do is put them together in your own form, and use them to help somebody else become a better person on their own. It's what they really needed, what they really wanted, and what you wanted for them.
Give your gifts in that context, with that personality, and I swear to you, no woman is going to mistake your intent, nor will she be worse-off for it.
What you may have problems with, down the line, is the occassional psycho who thought you meant that she needed to prove herself to you. If that happens, you should be honored. And then you should repeat the lesson she clearly didn't get the first time. And if that doesn't work, let me know, I'm an extrovert, I specialize in dealing with outwardly-projected desires.