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My point was, can we not talk only about flirtation, looks, and such.
Average surface temperature of the Earth has only increased by one degree Celsius in the last hundred years. Al Gore said we would all be underwater by 2015. We need to focus on pollution, which is tangible, and stop scaring people with promises of climate catastrophe.
You don't even want to hear me start going off about religion and politics.
And like I said, I was in a childlike state of cheerful apathy until I turned 26, I gave no ♥♥♥♥♥ about anything. Then it was like one day my brain turned on.
I've searched for someone interesting for like 5 years. But it always ended up nowhere eigher from my side or theirs. Which doesn't matter actually, because the reason is the same in both cases. It was internet, some dating sites, random encounters irl.
But then I kinda gave up and started to socialize in groups I actually interested in. Half a year later I've got married. In these groups there were only a few women, compared to litereally hundreds in other places.
Looking back, sincerely saying thanks to God that He protected me from being involved in something more serious with all these people I've met before - my life could've been ruined, literally.
For example, somebody asks for something, I kindly decline several times but that person just keep asking. Or , somebody talks about something, I try to avoid it by talking about something totally different or reply so late everytime the topic is brought up (if im texting) but that person doesn't understand the hint or doesnt care. Or accepting difference opinions. This is what you think? Sure I respect that but this how I view it. These small things that I personally feel are so immature and annoy me always.
These are just few examples that a lot around me do and usually by younger people.
I just sometimes feel I struggle to talk to others whether online or RL. Since I like understanding people, those who dont keep persisting on things I already decline, those who respect different opinions and dont mind talking about them rather than (im right you are wrong), those who like to talk about so different topics from video games, tv show to space. Make jokes about not memes 24/7.
But I'm sadly around opposite type. No respect for when I say No. Keep asking same thing after a billion no. Their convo is always you are cute, when can we meet (if online), flirting, only video games convos if they stoo flirting. No understanding that people have different opinions although we are from same country and go to same university. I can rant about this forever 😅and still find it hard to explain how I truly feel about it.
And its not easy to befriend older guys. So 'just talk to older guys' isnt an easy solution. But its the only solution I see currently.
It's okay if we all disagree. I'm just interested to know your opinion about it and to share mine. It's not about who's correct. I don't mind people correcting me or try to change how I see things. Its part of the fun of talking about different things.
The thing to do is change your environment and so on.
If you're hanging around in places where ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ tend to hang around, then you're going to get the same sort of crap.
Many years ago, in the 1980s and 1990s, when I used to DJ (especially when doing club stuff), I would get girl friends who would bemoan to me why they can't find decent guys yet they come to all my do's.
I said that's your problem. People are coming to clubs pissed up, and after scoring. What do you expect? I simply sai that if she wants to find longer term relationships more serious, then she could do a couple of things different.
She shoudl go elsewhere where people AREN'T pissed up so much, or if she is getting interested in someone at a club, give them a barrier to show they're serious - give them your phone number and if they truly are interested, once they've sobered up see if they remember the number and ring you. Then arrange your meeting on YOUR terms.
it ain't rocket science
Been there myself several times. From either end.
I commonly love getting to meet new people (it's one of the major reasons I do violuntary work anyway). And yeah, sometimes you can attract the "wrong" sort of attention, however well meaning they might be.
I guess all you can do is try to make any situation come round to YOUR terms. Whether it means walking away, or meaning you can get someone in a more populated environment so you have an "out", if you get what I mean.
Yeah som people do indeed do it for no other reasons than to fill a hole. My missus has a friend who is an occasional friend. She regularly feels she must have SOMEONE as a partner in her life, though she never seems satisfied with anyone, which probably speaks volumes.
So yeah, basically remember YOU control things and you do things on your terms regardless of what you want out of it.
Best of luck.
Think carefully about what you want to say before you say it.
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