My father Hate Me because i drop out from college

[Disclosure]

he said that i can't do sh*t and he act like my life is over when i don't have any degree .
he rarely talk to me after that . our relationship is breaking down .
he doesn't care about how stressful and how depressed i am in college .

[THIICUMS]

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

[White Knight]

Too bad you didn't seek out his advice before you decided to drop out? If he felt that strongly about it, surely he would have some good advice for you to consider before making such a life-altering decision?

Of course, if you didn't bother to ask for help and just dropped out the moment things started to become difficult...then I can't really see how else to call it? I certainly expect more than that from my daughter who just started post-secondary school.

I put myself through school and I'm paying for her to attend classes too. She better have the sense to come to me before deciding to drop out!

I'd be pissed too.

Having said that, not all people are cut-out for higher education. It's not about your parents having money - you have to do be willing to do the work required.

I'd be willing to bet that he'd be open to the possibility of you starting some other type of career...as long as that isn't limited to "YouTube Star" or "Famous video game developer" or the like?

[GetToTheTop]

Is he mad at your reasons for dropping out or dropping out in general? Regardless I'm sorry you're going through this and hope life eventually looks up for you.

[Sir Dookface McFerretballs]

Okay...

And?

There is no requirement you be close to your parents.

There is no law saying you have to be friends with your parents.

There is no requirement to do what your parents want you to do... You are your own person, you can take or leave their advice.

If a parent is a jerk, and you aren't living with them, and are over 18 in most states/countries, then tell said jerk parent to f-the-hell-off.

College isn't worth it any more if you have to take out loans or picked a stupid major.

Go to a trade school and learn a proper trade instead, as most tradesmen are making multiple times more than many people with Master's Degrees.

I have a friend with a plumbing company he started out of a single "Roto-Rooter" van that is making him over $500k a year now.

I have another friend that started out as a roofing laborer 15 years ago, he now owns the company he worked for and made just under $800k last year.

I got another friend that has only been doing large HVAC Airconditioning installation and repair for about 6 years now and hes making $60k and had started at $30k

I also have multiple friends with bachelor's and master's degrees that are barely able to get secretary or waiter/waitress work above minimum wage.

[Winnie]

unless you have a backup plan. ofc he'd mad at you. I'll do the same.

college aint mandatory but boy sure as hell degree helps

[luciferous]

College really isn't that important. I have a higher position in where I work than coworkers who did go to college. It's all about how you use your skills. If you go into college as a moron, you'll still be a moron when you graduate.

[JDumbz]

Honestly, I'm assuming you are over 18, it's your choice regardless. He needs to understand that College isn't for everyone, and does not turn out how you/he think it is.

For example, I recently dropped out of College for the time being because I just felt no spark in my education, plus I was paying so much in classes that weren't even teaching me in my field. Doing Math, English, etc all over again from High School. It was becoming not enjoyable and was not sparking my interests (IT Field I was going into Support Specialist.) I was dumping so much $$$ my Adviser wanted me to take out Student Loan, after Loan, going into debt.

However, dropping out, I am not done, not close. I still plan to get an education but in a different field. Which is why I'm going into different Work Areas and see if I can find some other things that can expand my interests. At a young age, I'm at 21 and explained to my Step Father, and mother about my decision. They support it because It was my decision, and told them I need more time to find out what I want to get into. I do plan to go towards a Trade school, unfortunately there aren't any around me, so I have to plan this out more.

With your situation I would suggest leaving each other some space, he might come around, he was more than likely expecting you to complete college like my step father did. He was disappointed, however, accepted it. He just wants you to succeed is all.

There are plenty of alternative jobs that you start from the bottom and work your way to the top, which I agree to this statement:

Originally posted by CuddlesWithSatan:

College really isn't that important. I have a higher position in where I work than coworkers who did go to college. It's all about how you use your skills. If you go into college as a moron, you'll still be a moron when you graduate.

[AdahnGorion]

Originally posted by ✪ Disclosure:

he said that i can't do sh*t and he act like my life is over when i don't have any degree .
he rarely talk to me after that . our relationship is breaking down .
he doesn't care about how stressful and how depressed i am in college .

The real thing here is. Why are you depressed and stressed in college? That should be your focus and in my opinion you should seek professional help. (not because you have to do college, who cares, do what you want) but because if enviroments like college stress and depress you, then you might have need strategies to cope with it. Because no matter what (college degree or not) you will be in the same situation over and over again in your life.

Seek professional help. Tell your father openly about your feelings and issues (if he does not care about that, then don't waste your time, father or not)

[Disclosure]

the truth is , when i go to college , he never ask me about how's college or how's your day and something like that , never give me any advice in my entire life . he only want to see his son successful but doesn't care about the process , wanted his son to be a man he wanted to be but doesn't care about how hard it is . i mean , he knows life better than me and he think it's easy.

[AdahnGorion]

Originally posted by ✪ Disclosure:

the truth is , when i go to college , he never ask me about how's college or how's your day and something like that , never give me any advice in my entire life . he only want to see his son successful but doesn't care about the process , wanted his son to be a man he wanted to be but doesn't care about how hard it is . i mean , he knows life better than me and he think it's easy.

In my opinion you have to figurer out what you want (not everybody else) and who you are. That is the process you are in now young man.
I would still seek advice by professionals if you think ie social interactions stress/depress you or if you are just tired of the system. There are many roads to rome.

Do what you want

[Chemistara]

You make this sounds like everything is your father's fault, have you even tried to be successful? Ease that stress and depression? Dont give me that "Oh no i fail, this is my father's fault", I've known people who experience depression, stress, and lacks of support from their family, yet they still manage to be successful (and to compare, graduate from college)

[chiefputsilao✖️ping]

while your father has the best intention, it is your life , your choice.

..now go back into the mines and bring me more gold ingots. pronto!

[(N☆G) Jackal ★JJ★]

Originally posted by CuddlesWithSatan:

College really isn't that important. I have a higher position in where I work than coworkers who did go to college. It's all about how you use your skills. If you go into college as a moron, you'll still be a moron when you graduate.

Yeah, but how long have they been in the company? How long have you been in the company?
Did you 'know' people?

College matters for career advancement and higher chances to get a job in most cases.

College doesn't matter for people who go and do their own thing.
Every time you see a video or article discussing how college is not important, those people usually did their own thing, cut people with great ideas out and taking the idea from themselves, and a plethora of other things.

Realistically though. You can easily make 50-70K without a college degree and that will be more than a good life in a lot of places.

Don't stress out about college, if it isn't for you, it isn't for you.
Just make sure that you don't ditch out on bigger things due to stress.

As for your relation ship with your father OP, ♥♥♥♥ 'em.
Family shouldn't be what you care about most in this world unless its your spouse and 'your' family. Be thankful for all the things your family did for you even if they are horrid like mine, but don't go out of your way to make them happy.

Be your own person. Hell, I have extremely happy friends who make only around 30K a year. Its what you make of it and its what you put into it.

[Zekiran]

Originally posted by Sir Dookface McFerretballs:

Okay...

And?

ALL of this post, all of it. Good advice.

I mean, okay, dad probably footed the bill for college? But did he ask YOU what YOU were going to do? And did he understand that ... a teenager isn't capable of making that kind of life decision no matter how many idiots on youtube say so?

It's your life.

Don't keep toxic people in it. Get yourself a job, experience, and THEN maybe at some point, if you're interested in a degree of some kind, go BACK to school when you're ready.

[AdahnGorion]

Originally posted by chiefputsilao✖️ping:

while your father has the best intention, it is your life , your choice.

..now go back into the mines and bring me more gold ingots. pronto!

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We all have a role to play in the great cog. Is it unfair ? yes very.. Should we be more equal? sure.. But that is not how things are atm.. The fact still is that we could not live without OP, nor you for that matter