Wife wont sleep in same bed.

[Mr.Arch777 - FTLOTG]

I know there have been other posts on this but I havn't found a real answer yet.

I married Lydia and moved into the Whiterun breezehome, but whenever she sleeps she will go into the next room with the one person bed, is there a way to set her to sleep in the same room as if she was actually married to my character? its not like she cant get there cause she will randomly go in there just to sit but thats it.

also please dont make joking posts, I made my own thread to get a serious answer from people due to not finding any in others posts.

[You takin notes]

Kill her and put her corpse in the bed

[Rocket]

wow creep

[B-2]

You want your wife to sleep in the same bed with you? Yeah? Thassss gooooodddd mannn, dasss realll goood maynnnnn.

Editing Serious Answer in: Ask her to do something for you look at the bed, I think sleep here should pop up, if not try getting that overhauls follower commands.

[Zharkiy011]

use sexlab

[Easter]

Maybe you should be worried about why you're real life won't sleep in the same bed as you, not the virtual one.

lmfao jk Do what Mr. Bowtie said.

[Mr.Arch777 - FTLOTG]

tried telling her to sleep but when you exit out of the command mode she gets up.

[bobczes]

If you move your spouse directly into your own home, the Lover's Comfort effect may not activate correctly on sleeping. This can be fixed by asking them to move back to their original home (you should get a "Visit your spouse's house" journal update at this point, if things are working properly) and sleeping there to activate the effect, then telling them you want to move to whichever house you actually want to live in. Alternatively, you can enable Lover's Comfort by using startquest relationshipmarriagefin and setstage relationshipmarriagefin 20 in the console, then either completing the quest as normal or using setstage relationshipmarriagefin 25 (there is no need for the spouse to move into their house, nor to for you to sleep there, so this also works in the event of the Hearthfire bug listed below). Spouses who stayed at inns before marriage may not actually sleep in those places, but Lover's Comfort should activate if you pay to spend a night at that inn.

*****This is especially broken if you marry your Housecarl. Telling e.g. Lydia that you should live in your house in Whiterun will not fix this bug: you have to use the conversation option for "their" house, even though it's the same place.*****

http://www.uesp.net/wiki/Skyrim:Marriage

[Mr.Arch777 - FTLOTG]

Originally posted by bobczes:

If you move your spouse directly into your own home, the Lover's Comfort effect may not activate correctly on sleeping. This can be fixed by asking them to move back to their original home (you should get a "Visit your spouse's house" journal update at this point, if things are working properly) and sleeping there to activate the effect, then telling them you want to move to whichever house you actually want to live in. Alternatively, you can enable Lover's Comfort by using startquest relationshipmarriagefin and setstage relationshipmarriagefin 20 in the console, then either completing the quest as normal or using setstage relationshipmarriagefin 25 (there is no need for the spouse to move into their house, nor to for you to sleep there, so this also works in the event of the Hearthfire bug listed below). Spouses who stayed at inns before marriage may not actually sleep in those places, but Lover's Comfort should activate if you pay to spend a night at that inn.

*****This is especially broken if you marry your Housecarl. Telling e.g. Lydia that you should live in your house in Whiterun will not fix this bug: you have to use the conversation option for "their" house, even though it's the same place.*****

http://www.uesp.net/wiki/Skyrim:Marriage

I tried typing those things in console and it didn't seem to do anything. unless im just doing it wrong.

[bobczes]

Ask them to move back to their original home (you should get a "Visit your spouse's house" journal update at this point, if things are working properly) and sleeping there to activate the effect, then telling them you want to move to whichever house you actually want to live in.

[Mr.Arch777 - FTLOTG]

Originally posted by bobczes:

Ask them to move back to their original home (you should get a "Visit your spouse's house" journal update at this point, if things are working properly) and sleeping there to activate the effect, then telling them you want to move to whichever house you actually want to live in.

I tried to tell her to move to her old place, and she says she will pack, but nothing happens, the very first time i think it told me to visit her but it took me to my house again.

[Rocket]

u need approval from the inlaws first

[bobczes]

Originally posted by †F†-MIKE1618:

Originally posted by bobczes:

Ask them to move back to their original home (you should get a "Visit your spouse's house" journal update at this point, if things are working properly) and sleeping there to activate the effect, then telling them you want to move to whichever house you actually want to live in.

I tried to tell her to move to her old place, and she says she will pack, but nothing happens, the very first time i think it told me to visit her but it took me to my house again.

Lydia's house is Breezehome,

[kdodds]

Tell her it's time to move, then tell her to move to Whiterun. Since she's also the housecarl of Breezehome, it bugs out since your home IS her home. If this is not a menu option, moving to a separate location altogether may fix it.

[ForevaNoob Wonemorturn]

You didn't say whose's wife...

[gnewna]

Originally posted by †F†-MIKE1618:

tried telling her to sleep but when you exit out of the command mode she gets up.

Have you tried counting to twenty or so after she lies down? Sometimes if you back out too soon it cancels the command. Also, do you have the Unofficial Skyrim Patch (plus relevant patches for any DLC)? Another thing you could try is adding a mod like Amazing Follower Tweaks (which is NOT compatible with Interesting NPCs so don't install it if you have that - I generally prefer Extensible Follower Framework which is comptible with INPCs, but I don't *think* it has this particular function) which has a specific "sleep" command in the dialogue tree, although I think she'll just pick a nearby bed.

Only other thing I can think of, is using Jaxonz Positioner to remove the other bed, or add the Breezehome Fully Upgradeable mod (read the full mod description to check for compatibility issues and REMOVE ANYTHING YOU HAVE STORED IN BREEZEHOME before doing this as the interior of the house will basically be replaced, so anything you were keeping in there will be deleted) which moves Lydia's room to the basement (it adds the basement) and see if she'll use the marital bed now.