Relations keep going down

[Daonar]

I'm a king to myself. Every day or so, I see a message or two such as "your relations with Lord XXX deteorated by 3-4 points".

What is the reason? Also I'm holding a feast, but nobody seems to be attending (except for their wives) or going to attend.

[Miiiiiiiiiiiiike]

People are probably upset that you give someone else a fief when they feel they should have got it.

I've never been a leader of a faction, so I can't speak from experience.

[Total War King]

because lords that dont have a fief will slowly go down in relation.

[DROPbear]

its good to be the king.

[CarloV3r]

If you equally devide your fiefs over your vassals there should be no problem. But every time you give a fief to someone else, your relation with the lords that didn't recieve the fief will go down.

[Trent]

If nobody is coming to your feast, then they are most likely on a military campaign.

[Beautiful Banjo]

Do the Lords that's relation deterioating have a fief? If not, that's the problem. Lords without fiefs relation will deteriate every 2 days or so.

[os]

Maybe the food at your feasts taste bad.

[Daonar]

Originally posted by Miiiiiiiiiiiiike:

People are probably upset that you give someone else a fief when they feel they should have got it.

I've never been a leader of a faction, so I can't speak from experience.

Upset? The fiefs I have are conquered in one of the two ways:
1) I alone besiege and conquer it; nobody helping. (80% of fiefs)
2) I besiege the fief, with the same 2 lords helping. This case fief goes to one of those two

So why would those lazy bastards be upset? Because I didn't give them towns/castles that I conquered alone?!

[Daonar]

Just read later comments. So you're saying I'm supposed to give lands to those lazy idiots who prefer sitting in my throne room instead of winning battles?

Is there a mod that allows you to torture your vassal lords?

[Beautiful Banjo]

Originally posted by Daonar:

Just read later comments. So you're saying I'm supposed to give lands to those lazy idiots who prefer sitting in my throne room instead of winning battles?

Is there a mod that allows you to torture your vassal lords?

Yeah, pretty much. If you want your relationship to stop deteriating. If you hate them that much, you can just induct them for treason, which kicks them out of your kingdom and strips them of their fiefs(if they had any.)

As for that mod, there's probably one out there somewhere.

[Reno Story]

It is important to have land to give all your lords, and even more important not to have too many lords either, because it becomes impossible to make everyone happy.. How big is your kingdom? How many lords are in it?

When a lord flees to your kingdom, you don't HAVE to take them under your wing. They will gladly stay in your captial for years and years without so much as a peep, which is a good tactic to deny power to other kingdoms as your power grows. I probably had 10 lords just sitting in my capital during my time as king, and only around 4-5 active lords in service.