How do people make friends here?

[Highwind]

I play the game mostly off steam btw so don't mind the hours.
But I've watched a lot of videos from 2 streamers I like and Meoni and they say that the game has a great community and this and that.

But I got the game forever ago and said I'd like to try and RP, so I got recommended to go to Balmung instead. So I managed to make a character there and has been there now for around 8 weeks and still my friendslist is dry. Haven't met anyone that wants to RP, except for a few but their lvl 1 alts and only wanna be there for the "lood" then vanish.

I also gotten multiple classes to 80, and done the Nier Raids and such with lots of suffering as I have to queue alone and I still haven't met anyone to do content or RP with. The 3 people who signed my thing doesn't even log on and when I tried to join an FC I got kicked since I was an EU player.

I don't know how to socialize in this game x.x

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I play on Omega (EU server) since nearly 3 years now (transitioned in december from ps4 to pc -> lack of hours on steam). I was lvling a pld from at first and was having a blast from first dungeon until now. At the beginning i was also really struggling hard with ff14 and asked really, really all kinds of questions and i still do that because i still dont know certain things after 2 years of playing. probably because of this mindset i have met dozens of really nice players amd will certainly meet in future as i pass my knowledge on to new players who are as struggling as i was.

Also Omega is excellent choice in funny/silly RP, also bit lewd but hey, we got a lala bonk police in limsa for no more horny.

[Highwind]

Sorry for not replying much, just don't know what to say. But to address some things mentioned.

When it comes to "Just find an FC" I've already tried multiple and they never worked out. Hence why I have my own solo fc so I can at least get the exp boosts and whatnot.

Second, thank you everyone that invites me to their server/data center. Sadly transfers costs money and I don't have a lot of motivation to make new characters. I made 1 alt and boosted them to 70 to play with someone I met on an FF14 discord server but they ended up never playing with me, not even once so that alt is still there idling forever.

And when it comes to Omega to address the last comment, I tried Omega when the server was first created but I was banned from the Omega RP discord on day 1 for unknown reasons and that made it impossible for me to find RP events and similar so I never found myself motivated to go back to Omega.

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Escrito originalmente por Highwind:

Sorry for not replying much, just don't know what to say. But to address some things mentioned.

When it comes to "Just find an FC" I've already tried multiple and they never worked out. Hence why I have my own solo fc so I can at least get the exp boosts and whatnot.

Second, thank you everyone that invites me to their server/data center. Sadly transfers costs money and I don't have a lot of motivation to make new characters. I made 1 alt and boosted them to 70 to play with someone I met on an FF14 discord server but they ended up never playing with me, not even once so that alt is still there idling forever.

And when it comes to Omega to address the last comment, I tried Omega when the server was first created but I was banned from the Omega RP discord on day 1 for unknown reasons and that made it impossible for me to find RP events and similar so I never found myself motivated to go back to Omega.

RP discord?
Never heard/used that. I usually walk around in limsa until i see a wild group of eorzeans RPing and i mix in with myself, literally inventing ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ funny stuff on the go. Also is pretty cool oppurtunity to ask for doing e.g. lvling duties together after the "RP-phase" wears off.

The good thing in that is that people remember you pretty fast:

1) if you manage to not fall out of RP (even if you do noone really takes it THAt seriously, i mean its RP)

2) if you are good at your job ppl will be eager to play with you again

Damn that sucks for that lvl 70 char. did the same thing on a wow tbc p-server (played so much wow i didnt wanna waste time doing wow vanilla stuff grinding again) and legends say the char is still waiting for that login.

[Dorkwing]

A little late to the party... but here goes the blunt truth:

I started this game back during the Heavenward xPAC, I've done it all at this point... savage raiding, relics, EVERY class at 80 with gear, running my own FC with a large mansion, engaging in commodity wars on the trade board, yadda yadda yadda.

The hard reality is that this game's community is terrible, especially the people that have been clumped together on the data center that BALMUNG is a part of. I started on Balmung, and during stormblood took the chance to migrate myself and everything I owned over to Zalera because it was MUCH quieter at the time. I now regret that move wholeheartedly because Zalera and Balmung are now in a distinctly 'RP centric' data center that is apart from Gilgamesh and the more 'Raiding centric' players. What this means is that random ques take longer unless you are a healer (sometimes a tank). The average skill level of players is much lower overall. The players you see making PF groups will almost ALWAYS add 'no salt' to their listings which is essentially code for "yes we are pretty bad at these runs and will mess up but dont point that out to us" and you can actually get BANNED FROM THE GAME for harassment if you try to tell people how they could improve at playing their class in a random dungeon run that ends up taking 30-40 minutes instead of 10-20.

All of this is general gameplay gripes though... in terms of meeting new people, and building a friends list? Your best bet is to try and join groups in the Party Finder, and if you HAPPEN to group up with people from your server, AND they happen to be decent humans, then boom, you made a friend. As someone with more than 4k hours invested on steam and years of my life spent bouncing across various 'communities' I can tell you in no uncertain terms that the chances of you finding 'REAL' RP on Balmung is extremely slim, especially as an EU player. There IS actually an EU datacenter where you will likely have much better luck finding people that match your time zone. I will also share that the number 1 reason I left Balmung, is how utterly toxic the people I met across several years were, without exception (and I met quite a few through raiding and various FC activities).

The FF community, at its core, is barely any better than the COD community, but at least COD gamers are bluntly honest about not liking you when you destroy them in a match instead of using fake 'RP' personas and snide innuendo to try and throw out insults as if they were candy at a halloween party.

Why am I commenting on this post if I have so much negativity inside me? Probably because I happened to be on for my monthly "save the house" day and a wave of nostalgia urged me to check the boards for a moment.

Good luck on your search, save your sanity, and move to the EU data center before its too late... Balmung has a reputation for 'lewd behavior' for a very good reason.

Edit: That FC you joined that wanted to you be a stripper is a SUPER common situation. The next step beyond being a stripper would be getting paid to do cybersex. Essentially... virtual prostitution based on the never ending demand and people's willingness to trade gil for lewd text conversations.

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Edit: That FC you joined that wanted to you be a stripper is a SUPER common situation. The next step beyond being a stripper would be getting paid to do cybersex. Essentially... virtual prostitution based on the never ending demand and people's willingness to trade gil for lewd text conversations. [/quote]

wait what?? that real??

is balmung actually the wow p-server "goldshire" community in disguise?

Edit: server was called "Moonguard"

[The Catman]

Escrito originalmente por Highwind:

Sorry for not replying much, just don't know what to say. But to address some things mentioned.

When it comes to "Just find an FC" I've already tried multiple and they never worked out. Hence why I have my own solo fc so I can at least get the exp boosts and whatnot.

Second, thank you everyone that invites me to their server/data center. Sadly transfers costs money and I don't have a lot of motivation to make new characters. I made 1 alt and boosted them to 70 to play with someone I met on an FF14 discord server but they ended up never playing with me, not even once so that alt is still there idling forever.

And when it comes to Omega to address the last comment, I tried Omega when the server was first created but I was banned from the Omega RP discord on day 1 for unknown reasons and that made it impossible for me to find RP events and similar so I never found myself motivated to go back to Omega.

If you have no motivation is absolutely understandable. You really had a bad experience.

I don't know other servers, I only played on Ragnarok, and the people are really decent on that. Never seen one player mistreat another without every other player jumping in to help the victim. Even when I played reeeeeeaaaally bad, and someone started harrassing me, the rest of the party of completely unknown people (back then) ganged up IN MY DEFENSE (and I assure you I was a bad tank that day).
To me...the stripper situation is not common at all...and even if it was common, it wouldn't make it less despicable. It was a bad situation and you have every right to lose trust and interest in the game, in the community, and in whatever else.
It is your free time, and you should never feel distressed WHILE PLAYING A GAME.

If you ever change your mind, the offer still stands, and will forever stand.
Otherwise, my best wishes for everything

[rxantos]

As in real life. Friends are usually made by doing activities in common and keeping your word. From there you start chatting and talking about each other interests.

One thing you can do is to ask for advice and give advice when asked. Anything to start the talk.

[BrokenG3ars]

Honestly if you're STRICTLY interested in FF14 for RP purposes there are MMO's out there with much better communities, RP included. Heck I'd even go so far as to say that WoW has a less toxic RP community then FF14, but to be fair I don't have a ton of experience with it.

Some MMO's with good communities though are games like ESO (Which also has a fantastic and hardcore RP community from what I know and the 1 time I've seen them at work), GW2 (Not sure about RP), SWTOR has a decent community and heck even BDO in my experience has a much better and easier to get into community.

If you're playing FF because you actually like the core game though then your best bet is to simply do as many group activities as you can and chat as much as you can, even if you have to say Hi first.

It's really not easy though, most people in FF14 are incredibly fake as has been mentioned.

[Nightowl]

For me personally most of the world is just crazy. It takes a lot of work and some good luck to find people you can actually enjoy being around or talking to, and unfortunately most mmos today don't really encourage social play. Just keep trying, be friendly and talk to ppl. Maybe eventually you will find someone who you click with.

[Caitiff]

Great community my ass. I was also tricked into buying this game and sure I had fun solo but when it came to group play or anything with other players i was toxic and no one was ever helpful. They are veteran players playing at lower level dungeons just to flex on new players and being ♥♥♥♥♥ and leaving when we dont know the dungeon. Never again.

[Cuponoodle]

I find if you're helpful and kind people will want to be around you. However that isn't the issue here. The issue is likely that for most there isn't much of a reason to communicate as the modern western mmo doesn't really want people to be social anymore. The mmos that require social are usually shunned. Modern western gamers want to hop into a game, instantly level, become OP within 2hrs, and move on to the next shiny game that catches their eye. The smallest amount of grind or requirements are meant with anger and rage. Dungeon finders make this 100x worse since rep no longer matters. Sadly any mmo that hits western soil gets molded like this.

There are resources, Discord, here I guess, Reddit etc if you want people to play with. The problems you describe aren't exclusive to ffxiv tho :(

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Escrito originalmente por Cuponoodle:

I find if you're helpful and kind people will want to be around you. However that isn't the issue here. The issue is likely that for most there isn't much of a reason to communicate as the modern western mmo doesn't really want people to be social anymore. The mmos that require social are usually shunned. Modern western gamers want to hop into a game, instantly level, become OP within 2hrs, and move on to the next shiny game that catches their eye. The smallest amount of grind or requirements are meant with anger and rage. Dungeon finders make this 100x worse since rep no longer matters. Sadly any mmo that hits western soil gets molded like this.

There are resources, Discord, here I guess, Reddit etc if you want people to play with. The problems you describe aren't exclusive to ffxiv tho :(

Not quite true tho.

Bozjan relic farming is very popular and very, very grindy and tons of players do it.

Social activities imo are more important if you want to play savage/ultimate content as you will need a proper static. Biggest problem here is the variaty of players in the community itself: Some are more dedicated and some less BUT every new player starts more or less with the same skill lvl and from then you need to improve yourself.

@Snackcident: nice troll lol, with high lvl players in lower dungeons as those join with duty roulette leveling function. No high lvl player want to get in those

[Cuponoodle]

Escrito originalmente por (⌐■_■):

Escrito originalmente por Cuponoodle:

I find if you're helpful and kind people will want to be around you. However that isn't the issue here. The issue is likely that for most there isn't much of a reason to communicate as the modern western mmo doesn't really want people to be social anymore. The mmos that require social are usually shunned. Modern western gamers want to hop into a game, instantly level, become OP within 2hrs, and move on to the next shiny game that catches their eye. The smallest amount of grind or requirements are meant with anger and rage. Dungeon finders make this 100x worse since rep no longer matters. Sadly any mmo that hits western soil gets molded like this.

There are resources, Discord, here I guess, Reddit etc if you want people to play with. The problems you describe aren't exclusive to ffxiv tho :(

Not quite true tho.

Bozjan relic farming is very popular and very, very grindy and tons of players do it.

Social activities imo are more important if you want to play savage/ultimate content as you will need a proper static. Biggest problem here is the variaty of players in the community itself: Some are more dedicated and some less BUT every new player starts more or less with the same skill lvl and from then you need to improve yourself.

@Snackcident: nice troll lol, with high lvl players in lower dungeons as those join with duty roulette leveling function. No high lvl player want to get in those

Grindy is based on player view. I do not consider anything in this game grind because I enjoy it so much so in my mind it's progression. But the social aspect isn't something people want on western soil or any amount of min grind. Wow and FFXIV popularity is a good example.

everything else you said is spot on :)

[Grahf]

This game has a pretty weird community.

[PY5RA]

The FC I'm in (on Balmung) are active daily. Many in the FC do RP regularly on schedule. Lemme know if you're stilling looking around. We got some peeps from EU timezone here as well as someone from Asia, tho majority from NA.

Discord: Pyrastrasza#7584