Easy ways of gaining power/influence/control?

[Eternal Jamie]

Having a bit of trouble raising both of these amongst my family, starting to get influence up through some military stuff but power and especially control just won't budge. Any sugggestions on how to get it up a bit?

[Mr.George]

Gather influence over a few turns and use the "Gather Support" action (lower right corner of the family tree view).

[Eternal Jamie]

Ah thank you, missed that somehow

[kpt. Wodzionka]

Right, each time I try to gain control I either loose it or I gain it through a decission (which costs some influence or sth. like that) and then I loose even more control as a backclash of this decision. wtf?

[✪ Battle Fox ✪]

Don't use infuence. Keep it and try and let it accumulate.
How to get more? Generals in battle, governers in office or in positions of power such as companion judge etc. Spouses also are valuable as they get influence.

I make sure to acquire a good amount 50+ before you consider using it. Always have influence on your leader higher than anyone else or face a loyalty penalty. Your leader also needs influence for random decisions. Use his wife or other family members to strengthen the faction through support, gain loyalty or marry/kill rival nobles.

Also remember to have plenty spare. Don't get a person with 25 influence to make someone loyal. If there is a conundrum you'll be faced with options that require you to have influence to solve the issue or "forget it" and lose control.

[Jonnus]

Also - try appointing the opposition to positions of power within the promotion hierarchy. Each promotion costs influence and dominion is a representation of your share of total influence. Nerf your opposition by promoting them and watch the winds of power shift!

[AlyG69]

theres a few guides in the guide section that helped me out really well so well I made my own guide using their tactics (check it out)