how to stop colonists from asking eachother out

[POTAT]

My colonists are getting -20 debuff from it please help

[Fried Noodles]

Sterilize them all?

[mulletkopf]

Less Stupid Romance Attempt

[EmLyMe]

yeah, the only real option is to get mods, or prevent free time. It will automatically happen throughout the game, as little events.

[St3amfails]

disfigure them, ugly people get less action

[vortex_13]

Originally posted by St3amfails:

disfigure them, ugly people get less action

That just makes it worse. They'll still try but get turned down more often.

[Astasia]

Remove their tongues.

[Doomdrvk]

You can change their recreation schedule though they may still interact while eating.

[St3amfails]

I think you misunderstood. Disfigure them ALL. They will proposition ugly people far less often.

[J]

Use character editor and make them all asexual. I don't know if it it would work, but it's worth a try. The game might be configured so that asexual = aromantic

[Morkonan]

Originally posted by Potat:

My colonists are getting -20 debuff from it please help

IMO, provided this isn't a terribly frequent issue caused by a mod/bug, this is "intended game mechanic."

Though, the -20 debuff is a steep penalty for very serious social issues:

https://rimworldwiki.com/wiki/Mood

If only one such instance, it would be from Cheating/Divorce, not simply being rebuffed. (See "Social)

If it's going on rampantly, causing multiple pawns to quickly stack up rebuffed penalties, then... there's something else going on, there, I think. (Bug/mod)


Yes, it's sometimes annoying, even disastrous. BUT... all those relationship buffs/debuffs help to flavor play. It's a primary component of what Rimworld is all about. It inspires players to build on other morale issues to help offset those sorts of penalties.

It is, however, "your game." If you don't want those, I'm fully supportive of that. I just think that it's an interesting part of the evolving game and helps support some pretty creative play. /shrug

Mods exist and that's available to you. I would, however, suggest you use more lightweight solutions than heavy-handed ones.

(Note: Strictly considering the wiki entries. I don't recall the debuff value from in-game experience atm.)

[Legion]

There is a mod specifically for romance that- if you use Ideology- makes it to where you have to force pawns to engage with one another romantically whether it's flirting, asking out, marrying, breaking up, etc. It sets them as "arranged".

[CloudSeeker]

https://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1499843448&searchtext=rules

Use that and set up a rule that do not allow the pawns to court each other. It helps a lot when you do not want slaves to court clonists.