Pairing citizens?

[DeathScyther]

Does anyone know how to fix the pairing mechanic, since it is really mess up. I mean, how the ♥♥♥♥ an 11 boy can pair with a 30 woman, or a 12 girl pairs with a 29 guys? Does this game encourage pedophiles or something else? Why can't they pair with the same years old or close ages?

[ebrumby]

Banished is a game. In the game, at age 10 you either go to school or you become an adult, pair up and have kids. Stop trying to compare it to the real world and you'll be happier.

[DeathScyther]

Sorry I can't. It's just that I feel it so wrong.

[pdoan8]

Originally posted by ImLiar:

Does anyone know how to fix the pairing mechanic, since it is really mess up. I mean, how the ♥♥♥♥ an 11 boy can pair with a 30 woman, or a 12 girl pairs with a 29 guys? Does this game encourage pedophiles or something else? Why can't they pair with the same years old or close ages?

Are you sure that they are a pair?

29 is old enough to have 12 years old kid with a 30 years old wife.

[El Presidente]

I think Loretta Lynn (The Coal miners daghter) was around 12 when she got married to her first husband. The U.S.A. didn't have those laws until the last half of the 20th century. This is a game that obviously takes place long before laws were made to enable kids to be kids until they got older.

[DeathScyther]

I know that some cases, mostly, in history there were a lot of kids who got marriaged at a very young age. In my country, there was a queen who marriaged when she was just 8. But seriously, I can't take it so I asked if there is something that can change the game's pairing mechanic.

Originally posted by pdoan8:

Originally posted by ImLiar:

Does anyone know how to fix the pairing mechanic, since it is really mess up. I mean, how the ♥♥♥♥ an 11 boy can pair with a 30 woman, or a 12 girl pairs with a 29 guys? Does this game encourage pedophiles or something else? Why can't they pair with the same years old or close ages?

Are you sure that they are a pair?

29 is old enough to have 12 years old kid with a 30 years old wife.

Yup, I can be sure of it. I built a house and a couple of 11 boy and 29 woman jumped in.

[pdoan8]

I asked because couple can split up if you have more houses than couples.

Anyway, if thing really matter, you can mod the age or find a mod that increase adulthood age. (Mod will disable achievements).

[DeathScyther]

Yeah, I think so. Thanks, anyway.

[ROFLpl0x]

Originally posted by ImLiar:

I know that some cases, mostly, in history there were a lot of kids who got marriaged at a very young age. In my country, there was a queen who marriaged when she was just 8. But seriously, I can't take it so I asked if there is something that can change the game's pairing mechanic.

Originally posted by pdoan8:

Are you sure that they are a pair?

29 is old enough to have 12 years old kid with a 30 years old wife.

Yup, I can be sure of it. I built a house and a couple of 11 boy and 29 woman jumped in.

The age gap between pairs is there to prevent too many pre-existing houses from opening up in a short span of time due to the pairs living in them all dieing of old age at almost the same time. This could cause some big problems in larger, older towns with lots of houses and lots of old people living in them, especially if you're already on the bleeding edge of your families:houses ratio. Staggering the ages of who pairs with who slows down how fast houses become unoccupied and helps keep unintended, potentially dangerous, population growth and pair splitting in check.

The age gap might not need to be as big as it is for it to work but trust me, you don't want to do away with it entirely.

[ebrumby]

Probably should avoid using an Adam and Eve start. bwahahaha

[Joe Coffee]

Originally posted by ImLiar:

Does anyone know how to fix the pairing mechanic, since it is really mess up. I mean, how the ♥♥♥♥ an 11 boy can pair with a 30 woman, or a 12 girl pairs with a 29 guys? Does this game encourage pedophiles or something else? Why can't they pair with the same years old or close ages?

Doesn't always happen. I've seen some males be a year older than their spouse.

Plus, you never know if death knocked over the male parent so you might be seeing the female and her only son in the same house. Not that creepy when you reason behind it. Does older female younger male families show? Absolutely. Not creeped out by that at all and in certain societies - especially matriarchal ones - wouldn't be suprised in women being heads of households.

[NetPCDoc]

Originally posted by ImLiar:

Does anyone know how to fix the pairing mechanic, since it is really mess up. I mean, how the ♥♥♥♥ an 11 boy can pair with a 30 woman, or a 12 girl pairs with a 29 guys? Does this game encourage pedophiles or something else? Why can't they pair with the same years old or close ages?

Okay, already, BUILD A SCHOOL! While this may not totally fix your issue, it will be a step in the correct direction. On another hand, you could provide enough housing that you have all young pairs (that grow old together); rather than an older unpaired adult looking to marry.

FYI: In olden days (or less developed parts of the world), in real life, -once puberty set in- one was/is considered enough of an adult to marry. Only more modern times and medically developed parts of the world recognize the value of waiting a few more years before attempting to begat childern.

[ROFLpl0x]

Originally posted by NetPCDoc:

Originally posted by ImLiar:

Does anyone know how to fix the pairing mechanic, since it is really mess up. I mean, how the ♥♥♥♥ an 11 boy can pair with a 30 woman, or a 12 girl pairs with a 29 guys? Does this game encourage pedophiles or something else? Why can't they pair with the same years old or close ages?

Okay, already, BUILD A SCHOOL! While this may not totally fix your issue, it will be a step in the correct direction. On another hand, you could provide enough housing that you have all young pairs (that grow old together); rather than an older unpaired adult looking to marry.

FYI: In olden days (or less developed parts of the world), in real life, -once puberty set in- one was/is considered enough of an adult to marry. Only more modern times and medically developed parts of the world recognize the value of waiting a few more years before attempting to begat childern.

The game sets up this age difference of pairs on purpose and makes it unavoidable. If you pay close attention to your births you'll see that the game periodically alternates several years of births overwhelmingly of one sex or the other. You may be able to build enough houses to stop it from happening in the short term but in the long term you're eventually going to run out of pairs and still have several single people growing older and older that the game is going to pair later on with much younger people.

That's the game forcing it to happen after you house your starting population. Nevermind whatever nomads you take in that have a built in age gap themselves and who's children the game will consistently pair off with your existing populaton with very large age gaps, even when it doesn't have to.

Then there is the fact that even if your existing population has several people of the opposite sex all roughly the same age across a wide range of ages, the game still pairs them off with a large age gap instead of with people their own age. And I can tell you with certainty that it does not just pick any two random people to move into an open house. Pairs are determined long before they have a house of their own and it is possible (using my top secret breakthrough method available for $4.99) to narrow down to a maximum of just a few people who Bostoney or Maebelle is already paired with before they ever move in together.

[DeathScyther]

At the start of the game, I don't know if I should focus on building a school first or not. But I'll give it a try, anyway.

And I would like to know how do you deal with the unbalance gender. For example, you have 50 citizens but 30-35 of them are female, or male.

[ROFLpl0x]

Originally posted by ImLiar:

At the start of the game, I don't know if I should focus on building a school first or not. But I'll give it a try, anyway.

And I would like to know how do you deal with the unbalance gender. For example, you have 50 citizens but 30-35 of them are female, or male.

Build a school when you're confident that everything is running well enough that the next generation of kids can spend a number of years as students before they enter the workforce. If you did a medium start you shouldn't have a problem being able to safely build a school within the first five years of a town, ten years at most. You just have to play it by ear but one thing is certain: you're better off to delay building a school longer than you need to than you are to build one too soon.

Even if you do build one too soon, you can just stop work there if you desperately need new workers or new families. All the eligible students will become adults but they can never revert back to students if you reopen the school. That generation has to stay dumb and you try again with the next batch of rug rats.

The unbalanced genders isn't anything that needs to be dealt with, at least by the player. Just build them houses at a proper rate and everything will work itself out. It does look odd, even broken, when you click through your houses and nearly all the children in them are either boys or girls but the game knows what it's doing.

[NetPCDoc]

Originally posted by ImLiar:

Does anyone know how to fix the pairing mechanic, since it is really mess up. I mean, how the ♥♥♥♥ an 11 boy can pair with a 30 woman, or a 12 girl pairs with a 29 guys? Does this game encourage pedophiles or something else? Why can't they pair with the same years old or close ages?

Without Mods:

I just realized -
• Displayed value ~ Actual value
• 11 seasons ~ 4 3.75 years
• 30 seasons ~ 7 7.50 years
• 12 seasons ~ 4 4.00 years
• 29 seasons ~ 7 7.25 years
• 40 seasons ~ 10 10.00 years

So a ten (10) year old female is too old to have a baby?
And a 4 year old is old enough to marry?

When one stops to actually think about it - this does sound just a bit skewed!