Why can't you marry off your children if they're not in your court?

[Aaelar]

I understand the fact that they're not in your court, but they ARE still your children. I had the oppertunity to marry off my male heir to the queen of England in a regular marriage, but decided to give him some provinces first. The invitation was then declined, and I was unable to marry him to anyone outside of my realm (I think).

Yes I'm salty about that and I could've played around it, but still why does sending your children out of your court forbid you from marrying them off?

[pplr1]

You have a degree of control over characters in the game not because they are your children but because they are in your court.

If your children are born in a different character's court he or she has some control over them.

I can suggest inviting a character who is pregnant with your character's child to join your court if you wantt more influence over your children.

[Meewec]

once he's landed you any marrage negotiations take place between him and the other party in the negotiation. since that was you the available pool of partners for him is what's in your court.

landing your heir is almost never a good idea, they'll inevitably ♥♥♥♥ things up for your future plans. i really wish there was something in the game to go "is this bad for me in the future once i get this title" and prevented them from doing certain actions

[Aaelar]

Originally posted by Meewec:

landing your heir is almost never a good idea

Oh ok good to know, I usually give a good amount of land to my heir so I know I'll reaquire it after death but this makes a lot of sense.

[al_x_ator2411]

Haven't they added "restriction of marriage" for close relatives in the base game during the latest patch?

[Meewec]

Originally posted by Aaelar:

Originally posted by Meewec:

landing your heir is almost never a good idea

Oh ok good to know, I usually give a good amount of land to my heir so I know I'll reaquire it after death but this makes a lot of sense.

this will be an extreme example but in one of my brother's games as byzantine emperor he landed his heir who ended up declaring war on another duke and got captured. his enemy then castrated him which removed him from the line of sucession. this changed my brother's heir to his next son who had been captured by the abbasids with whom my brother was at war with so he almost instantly lost when that happened.

only time i really ever land my heir is when i'm playing muslim and want to pick which son is inheriting. otherwise they tend to get maimed or killed, or do things that when you eventually get control you're like "why the hell did the ai do this?"

[Aaelar]

Originally posted by al_x_ator2411:

Haven't they added "restriction of marriage" for close relatives in the base game during the latest patch?

They do but I still can't marry them off. I can prevent them from marrying though, which makes even less sense why one can't choose who they marry if you can choose that they CAN'T marry.

[al_x_ator2411]

If your son's marriage is still restricted you can still propose the same or another marriage to him. Press the gold rings icon and when you see a suitable girl, right click her portrait. She doesn't have to be in your court if you do it like that.

[Liberty Prime]

Some of my best heirs have been ruined after being landed. Eventually you learn not to do it unless you're Muslim and to only give away baronies when you have to land heirs because there is less room for screw ups.

[Panicsferd]

Originally posted by butters:

Some of my best heirs have been ruined after being landed. Eventually you learn not to do it unless you're Muslim and to only give away baronies when you have to land heirs because there is less room for screw ups.

Yeah that is what I noticed myself throughout my playthroughs, but it normally only screwed me up so when my main heir would die from ilness (I have reaper's due) and then I would have my next heir take over that would have been landed, that is why I normally don't land heirs, or at least not the first two in the case the main one dies.

I also normally don't marry my heir until I play as them as well so I can easily control who they merry, but sometimes I bite the bullet and merry them to a king/emperor if I want their controlled country to be part of mine when I become my grandson ill be the king/emperor of the two countries.