How do i play this game right? what guide do i need

[Noel]

I bought this game at full price with excitement long ago, but it ended up sitting in my library for a year. I feel emptiness and fatigue while exploring the world, which I don't experience with similiar games like dark souls, monster hunter, nioh etc. please help, I want to enjoy elden ring

[Key]

If the problem is exploring, don't explore, it isn't required. Just go where the grace points you.

[deno]

My advice is to keep track of every boss/dungeon you clear. Write it down somewhere.

[Archdeacon Monseigneur]

to explore the early game, obviously the map fragments will help you out big time.

first map fragment (west limgrave) is found in the ruins near the front of stormveil outer gates. (the location is revealed on the map even when the map itself is not revealed - its directly north from the church of elleh).
the second map fragment is found in southern mistwood (east limgrave) where you can also find a merchant.

after picking these up, go to the mistwood ruins (you will hear a wolf howling, this is Blaidd) and trigger Blaidd's questline (avoid the rune bears for now).
head back to the merchant (Kaleh in church of elleh), learn the finger snap emote, go back to mistwood ruins and use it to get Blaidd to come down, he will ask you to help him kill the hound knight which gives you a very good starter sword (good weapon art and it procs bleed).

once you've done that, head south from the evergaol and go to weeping peninsula (look for the map fragments) and clear it all out for some decent exp and items, go clear out castle morne and then head back to limgrave and start exploring the map there.

oh, one more thing; on your way to the stormveil gate ruins (assuming you've got the horse) head left into the gates and run up the hill until you get to a shack where you can find a golden seed near an erdtree sprout, go into the shack and talk to roderika, exhaust her dialogue and she too will drop a golden seed once you "reload" the game by sitting at the nearby grace.

she will also give you a decent spirit ash (jellyfish).
if you haven't got the spirit caller bell yet, head back to the church of elleh every now and then to see if Ranni (the blue doll) has shown up - she will give you the spirit caller's bell and wolf spirit ashes.

in order to trigger Ranni to show up, you first need to get the horse from Melina (ranni will ask you if you got ability to summon 'the spectral steed known as torrent' hit "yes" and exhaust her dialogue and she gives you the bell+wolves)