Is Astarion Really okay with polyamory

[RebeccaTheSoulless]

Little Spoiler Warning I suppose

If anyone could help with this, it would be nice. I’m romancing Astarion and also started a relationship on the side with Halsin, thinking Astarion was okay with the whole thing. After seeing some lines from other people’s playthroughs, I am worried he might have just said yes in fear that he’d lose the player character as a partner. I’m just concerned because I wouldn’t have agreed to everything with Halsin if that were the case. I feel bad and wanted to ask if anyone has any idea if he’s actually okay with it or not :c

[Ольга Крематорий]

I think not, but he loves Tav so much that he agreed with polyamory

[Non-binary Tiddies]

He will agree to it, but given his question "Is it because we haven't in a while?" makes me think that he's more uncomfortable with it than he puts on. I went through with it, but I probably won't do it in another playthrough.

[Caerbannog]

No, he's not. He already told you he wants something special between the two of you.

Spoilers, too:

For 200 years, he never had anything, much less a relationship, that was just his. He had to give it all to Cazador. He wants to make you happy, so he agrees, but he's not okay with it, not really. I'm not looking into things that aren't there, either. There's subtle hints. The Drow Twins scene, for example.

Originally posted by Non-binary Tiddies:

He will agree to it, but given his question "Is it because we haven't in a while?" makes me think that he's more uncomfortable with it than he puts on. I went through with it, but I probably won't do it in another playthrough.

This is what made me realize that I should reject Halsin in that playthrough. Which reminds, me, I still haven't romanced Halsin.

[eves_faith]

I think its really a shame there isn't a perception check on this. I mean, his whole demeanor gives insecurity, yes. But once he's ascended, he's still fine with it. And from there he just doesn't really give a f*** about Tav's emotions. And he comes across all jealous about the Mizora night, too. Then again, he said no to the Drow Twins, so I am conflicted if he just isn't able to deny you this or really okay.

In the end, Halsin leaves you anyway, so its just you and Astarion anyway, which is kind of cute. I don't think it makes a difference for the romance itself, does it?

[Deleted *******]

once you learn his entire questline, he is such a scumbag of a human, a rat. There is nothing noble about him.

[GrandMajora]

Originally posted by eves_faith:

I think its really a shame there isn't a perception check on this. I mean, his whole demeanor gives insecurity, yes. But once he's ascended, he's still fine with it. And from there he just doesn't really give a f*** about Tav's emotions. And he comes across all jealous about the Mizora night, too. Then again, he said no to the Drow Twins, so I am conflicted if he just isn't able to deny you this or really okay.

In the end, Halsin leaves you anyway, so its just you and Astarion anyway, which is kind of cute. I don't think it makes a difference for the romance itself, does it?

He didn't reject the drow twins for me on my playthrough, and Halsin even joined in to make things into a 4 way orgy.

Once Astarion becomes ascended, he completely abandons any trace of 'humanity' he once possessed and becomes a full blown monster. If you pass a high DC when asking him to turn you into a vampire, you can probe his mind to find out that he thinks you're debasing yourself by doing this and he's lost any respect for you. Not only that, but during the end credits scene, you have the option of telling him you want to break up, to which he rejects the idea and tells you you're bound to him forever.

[GrandMajora]

Originally posted by KroniusBlack:

once you learn his entire questline, he is such a scumbag of a human, a rat. There is nothing noble about him.

He's an elf, not a human. Also, you're overlooking the fact that Astarion literally had no choice in his actions until the mind flayers abducted him.

Vampire Spawn are bound to the will of their sires. They do not have the capacity to defy them, meaning that Astarion was forced to obey any order Cazador gave him, no matter how cruel or perverse it may have been.

Being infected with the tadpole is the first taste of freedom he's had in 200 years, and he's hell bent on enjoying it to the absolute fullest. But if you don't go down the ascension route with him, he eventually reveals that he is deeply suffering from the trauma that was inflicted upon him.

[Quacksalber]

I reckon he's not, but it probably has no consequences, since as long as you don't kill companions/ do obviously bad stuff or have low approval, nothing seems to make any difference.

Originally posted by KroniusBlack:

once you learn his entire questline, he is such a scumbag of a human, a rat. There is nothing noble about him.

Depends upon your choices. He's not human btw ;P

[Quacksalber]

Originally posted by GrandMajora:

Originally posted by eves_faith:

I think its really a shame there isn't a perception check on this. I mean, his whole demeanor gives insecurity, yes. But once he's ascended, he's still fine with it. And from there he just doesn't really give a f*** about Tav's emotions. And he comes across all jealous about the Mizora night, too. Then again, he said no to the Drow Twins, so I am conflicted if he just isn't able to deny you this or really okay.

In the end, Halsin leaves you anyway, so its just you and Astarion anyway, which is kind of cute. I don't think it makes a difference for the romance itself, does it?

He didn't reject the drow twins for me on my playthrough, and Halsin even joined in to make things into a 4 way orgy.

Once Astarion becomes ascended, he completely abandons any trace of 'humanity' he once possessed and becomes a full blown monster. If you pass a high DC when asking him to turn you into a vampire, you can probe his mind to find out that he thinks you're debasing yourself by doing this and he's lost any respect for you. Not only that, but during the end credits scene, you have the option of telling him you want to break up, to which he rejects the idea and tells you you're bound to him forever.

How did he not reject the twins? Reject is probably too strong, he says something like "I'd rather not ...".

[AsianGirlLover]

Nobody except Karlach is truly comfortable with you bashing your genitals against other people’s genitals.

[GrandMajora]

Originally posted by EH!:

How did he not reject the twins? Reject is probably too strong, he says something like "I'd rather not ...".

I'm not entirely sure, but I imagine it's because he didn't actually feel like our relationship was threatened. At this point in the game, I had already helped him ascend and had him turn my character into his spawn before hiring the drow.

So A) he had abandoned his humanity and sense of morals, and B) if he wanted our relationship to remain monogamous, he could have simply ordered it.

[Sonic Titan]

Originally posted by GrandMajora:

So A) he had abandoned his humanity

Originally posted by GrandMajora:

He's an elf, not a human.

[ogunrealistic]

The amount of hours players dedicate for a 30 second romance scene is incredible. The amount i read about romances that take up maybe 10 total minutes of a 100 hours playthrough is baffling. Just ascend that ♥♥♥♥♥ and have the best Gloomstalker assassin/thief in the game.

[Quacksalber]

Originally posted by GrandMajora:

Originally posted by EH!:

How did he not reject the twins? Reject is probably too strong, he says something like "I'd rather not ...".

I'm not entirely sure, but I imagine it's because he didn't actually feel like our relationship was threatened. At this point in the game, I had already helped him ascend and had him turn my character into his spawn before hiring the drow.

So A) he had abandoned his humanity and sense of morals, and B) if he wanted our relationship to remain monogamous, he could have simply ordered it.

Yeah that would do it.

Originally posted by Sonic Titan:

Originally posted by GrandMajora:

So A) he had abandoned his humanity

Originally posted by GrandMajora:

He's an elf, not a human.

His elfanity?

[GrandMajora]

Originally posted by EH!:

His elfanity?

You mean being a flamboyant drama queen with a superiority complex? No, I'd say that's still fully intact.