Romancing Neera - Baldur's Gate

A guide to the romance subquest with Neera, only for the original quest in Baldur's gate. A subsequent guide is available for the Siege of Dragonspear module

Starting the Romance

After Neera has advanced a level and has been travelling for a day or two, (going to the farm north of the Friendly Arm) she starts.

Neera asks how the character can stand the travelling and the adventure.
REPLY: “There is safety in numbers” gets the result that Neera talks about life in the High Forest. Don’t be rude to her. Ask… “What drove you from your home?” She mentions that a few people around her got maimed. Tell her “Surely it wasn’t your fault. What happened?” She talks about an accident during her magical training. Tell her “A terrible turn of events, but you can’t blame yourself.” She does blame herself. Tell her “I can understand why you might panic in that situation.” This will get a positive and grateful response. Close the conversation telling her you hope to hear more later.

The Second Stage: A Request

After further travel, and a number of levels (after resting at the Friendly Arm Inn…)
Neera starts out by saying she has thought about it and wants a favor. Don’t be rude; say “Certainly, Neera. What is it you need?” She wants to find a way to reduce the effects of wild magic. “That’s the main feature of wild magic” is a response that gets her to relate a funny anecdote about playing a flute. And she describes an old guy who can help. “And you think he can help you?” is a good response, and she tells you the old guy is named Adoy. Agree to help her find him.

The Third Stage: Adoy

When you go to Adoy’s Compound, Neera will be extremely angry at him for being so useless, and she will turn that anger straight on you.

There’s no answer you can give to her that won’t provoke a response accusing you of selfishness. Just accept that you are going to get some abuse at this stage. It happens in any relationship. Don’t deliberately provoke her is the only rule. Oh, and as an interesting detail, after this point you will actually get clues that Neera is hearing Adoy’s voice in her head at certain points in the story. You will notice it, for example, when you free Baeloth from his magical prison, and she starts laughing at things you can’t hear.

The Fourth Stage: Neera is Intrigued

After further travel, one day when you rest...
Neera starts out saying, “I’ve been thinking about you.” Answer “Good thoughts, I hope” because you want to start out positively. She says the thoughts aren’t bad, but she can’t figure you out. She wants to know why you helped her escape. At this point you might want to remember that she is a little bit insecure and doesn’t need someone to be brutal to her, but also is a bit mistrustful. So you should say, “It seemed like the right thing to do. You needed help.” She will say that it sounds very noble, but wants to know the real reason. Tell her” “Your predicament intrigued me. I wanted to know more about you.”(It’s wrong to say, “Honestly, you seemed to need help.” This is a statement she will find implausible and boring.) She will ask what more you could want to know about her. Say, “I can’t figure out if you were brave or crazy to run away from home.” She will answer that brave and crazy are two sides of the same coin, and will point out that a lot of people think you crazy for taking on some of the foes you have. Say: “I’m sure you would have done the same.” She says not to be too sure of that, because she always chooses to flee rather than fight. You should respond, “Tell me something else.” This takes you back to an earlier dialogue option. Ask why she chose to study wild magic. She says that wild magic chose her. At this point you can be a bit daring, and you can say “If I were wild magic, I would choose you.” But prepare to get slapped. At any rate, she scoffs, but then sort of likes the answer. Ask her more about herself and go back to the earlier dialogue option. Ask about the Red Wizards this time. She says that she did nothing and that the Red Wizards try to control everything. Tell her that they understand nothing and may destroy everything. DON’T promise that no harm will come to her while she is with you, because it insults her intelligence. If you make the smart observation about the Red Wizards, she will admit it is a good point, but scary. At this time, cut yourself off, and thank her for talking… It feels unsatisfied, but it’s the right thing at this point. Kind of like conversations in real life.

The Fifth Stage: A Surprise in Her Life

After further travel, after resting…

Neera starts out saying that she sometimes forgets that she is fleeing Red Wizards and realizes she is having the time of her life! Saying “you are glad to hear it” makes her react somewhat negatively, but you can follow up with saying that “she is different from anyone else you have met.” This will pique her curiosity and ask “Different, how?” Tell her, “It’s your impulsive and effervescent nature.” She likes that answer and will laugh and taunt you. That’s a good response.

The Sixth Stage: Flirting to the End

After starting chapter 4…

Neera starts out saying she is surprised you let her tag along, considering how dangerous wild magic can be. Remember: she likes to flirt. So say, “The danger is worth the reward.” She comes back at you and asks if you are still talking about her wild magic, or something else. You can reply to her, “You are dangerous in more ways than one. I just want to see how long you will wait until I see a reward.” She takes this well, and says “That’s what’s great about wild magic! If you can’t handle it at its worst, you don’t deserve it at its best” (which is a very true statement about life, in my opinion). Reply “I think the same could be said about you.” She asks “Is that really how you feel?” Your answer, “Come a little closer and I will show you exactly how I feel,” will result in her coming close and kissing you (“mmm…”). Remember to flirt back when you kiss and say “See? You aren’t the only one who is full of surprises,” because she likes an unpredictable but nice person. She will say “This boldness certainly suits you. The way you take charge sometimes… it makes me feel more confident too.” This is the moment to not blow it. Answer “You know, I have a bedroll, and there is a nice secluded spot over there,” and…

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… she won’t sleep with you. But she doesn’t dislike the idea either. She says, “Not yet. But let’s return to this subject later.”

Well, you’ve made it clear to her that you are interested. The ball’s in her court. That’s the end of the story in Baldur’s Gate 1. Is that unsatisfying? Well if you were just looking for someone who would jump in the sack with you at a moment’s notice, you should have picked Safana and gotten what you deserve. But Neera’s story isn’t done. It will continue later in “The Siege of Dragonspear…”

[Nightbringer]

I can confirm that what Ashtray is saying is correct. Author is sweating too much over correct choices. I had tested fourth stage and even by picking wrong initial answers according to the guide, I get the same outcome despite Neera cutting conversation short.

It seems that usual rules apply. Don't be rude. Don't cut the conversation. Don't show obvious character flaws. By following these three golden rules, any choice you pick will lead to the same conclusion.

[Wyvern]

I didn't pick up Neera until chapter 5, and I've seen the first, fourth and fifth conversation you listed here. I've also unlocked Adoy's Enclave (though I haven't been there yet). But I have no recollection of the second conversation, nor can I find any record of it in my journal. Do you have any idea if it's still possible to trigger this conversation, or is it too late? (I've tried going back to the Friendly Arm Inn and resting, but nothing happened.) And if I go to Adoy's Enclave, will I be able to fulfill her quest? Or will that lock my out of it permanently?

[As}{tray]

Lol man, you seem like you sweat it too much.
It is not matter how you treat Neera as long as you don't simply cut out any conversations with her. She's your b-tch at stage four already and openly admits it if asked for a "closer look".

[I❤senosdeleche69]

She's not laughing at things you can't hear, btw, she's laughing at the alliteration of Baeloth's lines.