Why do the girls at school hate me?

[The Young Pasty]

Hi! :) I'm 13 and i'm in 8th grade middle school. I'm not a very popular person. I really try my hardest to make friends, but they never accept me. No matter what I do. I buy them treats from the snack line every once in a while during lunch, I try to talk to them but can never get into a conversation, and whenever I look at them I smile. Instead of smiling back, they whisper something to their friends and start giggling. I'm so angry because they make fun of my friend Amy too :( They always pick on my friend Josh too, who has a brain disorder and they make fun of him for that one thing that he can't help :( I try to be friends with them but it never works. They hate my guts and I'm not sure why. There are specifically 2 girls that do this. They both are really pretty, and maybe don't like me because i'm not pretty like they are, or maybe because i wear cheap, casual clothing and not name brands like they do. They pick on my friends and i so much that i can barely stand it anymore. the thing that really bugs me, is that they don't care about other people - they only care about themselves and their reputation.

i'm diagnosed with depression (now on medication for it) and i will admit that i used to cut myself intentionally where people couldn't see (i mostly would cut my ankles). one day in gym class, one of the popular girls noticed one of the cuts on my ankle (im not sure how) and they knew right away because of my depressed behavior and my sulking when im in school. she yelled out "Hey Kristen, what are those scratches on your legs?" . I told her that I would tell her later, and then after about 10 minutes, her other friend came over and sat next to me while we were given instructions from our teachers. She smiled at me and i smiled back. then, she pointed to some small scars on my upper leg (from older cuts) and she asked "Why are you all scratched up?" I told her I would tell her after the teacher was done talking. when it was time to head out to the feilds for speedball, she immediately sprung up and cam up to me. "can you tell me now?" she asked politely. i looked over and saw her friend glaring at me. i thought i could trust her, and i told her what i do and why i do it and she promised not to tell anyone. she said "awwww, you shouldn't do that. take your feelings out in another way, like drawing" I smiled at her and then she jogged off to catch up with the other popular girls. the whole conversation that i had with her, i could tell, was completely fake by the way she spoke and what she said. i then realized that she really didn't care that i hurt myself, she just wants to spread gossip for entertainment.

There's also this really cute boy that i like (although everyone else says he's ugly :( ) that i think that they told because they knew that i liked them (since most of the 8th grade knew). One day, he asked me what happened to my leg, and i felt so guilty.

i don't know why these popular girls hate me so much. can anyone tell me why they hate me so much and how to deal with the situation? Thank you all :)

[Ctc]

You have a bully problem. They are more of the ones that get you mentally, though. I recommend you tell someone who feels for you and can do something about it. Just know that you are probably awesome.

[Ctc]

Also find a way to roast them like a rotissery chicken. Extra burnt.

[HEART]

Because you talk too much (judging from your massive post)

[ELF EYES]

try asking about somthing and then make small talk then joke around about somthing that is funny like a tv show or somthing and ask what theey like to watch it not that hard also being all motcho is more a put off for a lot of females like my self not into motcho tough guy crap

[Lieutenant Tea™]

Originally posted by ButterMyNuts:

Hi! :) I'm 13 and i'm in 8th grade middle school. I'm not a very popular person. I really try my hardest to make friends, but they never accept me. No matter what I do. I buy them treats from the snack line every once in a while during lunch, I try to talk to them but can never get into a conversation, and whenever I look at them I smile. Instead of smiling back, they whisper something to their friends and start giggling. I'm so angry because they make fun of my friend Amy too :( They always pick on my friend Josh too, who has a brain disorder and they make fun of him for that one thing that he can't help :( I try to be friends with them but it never works. They hate my guts and I'm not sure why. There are specifically 2 girls that do this. They both are really pretty, and maybe don't like me because i'm not pretty like they are, or maybe because i wear cheap, casual clothing and not name brands like they do. They pick on my friends and i so much that i can barely stand it anymore. the thing that really bugs me, is that they don't care about other people - they only care about themselves and their reputation.

i'm diagnosed with depression (now on medication for it) and i will admit that i used to cut myself intentionally where people couldn't see (i mostly would cut my ankles). one day in gym class, one of the popular girls noticed one of the cuts on my ankle (im not sure how) and they knew right away because of my depressed behavior and my sulking when im in school. she yelled out "Hey Kristen, what are those scratches on your legs?" . I told her that I would tell her later, and then after about 10 minutes, her other friend came over and sat next to me while we were given instructions from our teachers. She smiled at me and i smiled back. then, she pointed to some small scars on my upper leg (from older cuts) and she asked "Why are you all scratched up?" I told her I would tell her after the teacher was done talking. when it was time to head out to the feilds for speedball, she immediately sprung up and cam up to me. "can you tell me now?" she asked politely. i looked over and saw her friend glaring at me. i thought i could trust her, and i told her what i do and why i do it and she promised not to tell anyone. she said "awwww, you shouldn't do that. take your feelings out in another way, like drawing" I smiled at her and then she jogged off to catch up with the other popular girls. the whole conversation that i had with her, i could tell, was completely fake by the way she spoke and what she said. i then realized that she really didn't care that i hurt myself, she just wants to spread gossip for entertainment.

There's also this really cute boy that i like (although everyone else says he's ugly :( ) that i think that they told because they knew that i liked them (since most of the 8th grade knew). One day, he asked me what happened to my leg, and i felt so guilty.

i don't know why these popular girls hate me so much. can anyone tell me why they hate me so much and how to deal with the situation? Thank you all :)

Wrong place. But anyway their middle schoolers. They don't think straight. Probably nothing wrong with you.

EDIT: Grammar error. Oops.

[videsauce]

wow :S

[CloudyDad]

strange post for the steam team, BUT thats how kids are these days and normally they wont change untill they have grown up and start understanding the damage they do, other then that im sure your a very nice person and theres nothing wrong with you or your friends but kids act stupid because they think it makes them look cool.

[BossGalaga]

Originally posted by ButterMyNuts:

Why do the girls at school hate me?

Probably because you're trying to be liked...or because stereotypical teenage girls are vindictive, hormonal jerks.

Seriously, you shouldn't waste your time worrying about being popular in grade/middle/junior/high school. It's a huge waste of time.

Real life comes after high school. Concentrate on your school work, pay attention in class, be a kid, cultivate your interests and try to be a good person.

Everyone gets the exact same diploma. There's no special diploma for being popular that gets you some great job.

[im gamer]

hey bro just make friends with other gamers and people who share ur interest. have fun

[[1DoD] Dodge]

This is a joke post btw...

[Malcure]

this is srange to hear on steam but no matter i can tell you from past experince when i was in middle school, i use to be in the same place as you. and i wanted to be popular as well but early year it got so bad i didnt want to go to school so i did the one thing i knew that would get everyone except my friends would understand, i became an ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥.
If, these people start messing with you try to ignore them or dive into your music and if they try to talk to you just give them short answers. I knew from what was happening to me it shouldnt happen to anybody else but now a days everyone goes and attacks you on facebook or some lame ♥♥♥♥ like that.
I'm not trying to give you advice of this is how your suppose to live your life but i just want you to understand my story and whatever message you get from it was from your ideals not someone elses. i am to kind-hearted for my own good even tho im a sadistic ♥♥♥♥ but as well fair warning i am not a person who can give out advice to other people or judge someone becasue i have been there and in middle school thru high school i did drugs and that was a terrible idea trust me...
going off topic either way i hope this helps if not im sorry im not a better typer.

[Fat Sock]

it is hard to belevie this from someone who has a gamer tag called "ButterMyNuts"

[BossGalaga]

Originally posted by BLASTeRguy_cool:

it is hard to belevie this from someone who has a gamer tag called "ButterMyNuts"

Well...that could be an additional answer to OP's question.

[Usmívej se :)]

oh,

[Astraea Kisaragi]

From your profile:

"Please dont mess with me, i am very emotional and will report you."

Thats not emotional, thats being paranoid and hinding from everydays challenges. And you wonder why you are not liked.