Whats it like to have friends?

[sable54]

Honestly I feel as of late all the people from school I've grown up with playing games, and some others i met after schooling, just dont mesh well anymore. I don't get asked to play games with friends, nobody asks how I'm doing, I can go for months without showing up in the discord and nobody bats a eye about where I've been. Its gotten frustrating over time and I'm kinda tired of it, I miss having others that enjoyed playing games together, but all communities just suck anymore and its damn near impossible to connect with others anymore.

Whats its like having friends?

[Mr. Smiles]

Idk, all my friends are dead.

[Diogenes49]

So how are you doing? Is everything going alright?

[miamew3]

Welcome to adulthood!

All your friends have grown up, gotten Jobs and started making families. Peoples priorities change and your friends group gets smaller and smaller. The older you get the worse it becomes.... before you know it your that cranky old man who yells at kids to get off his lawn or the crazy old lady with a house full of cats.

[sable54]

Początkowo opublikowane przez Diogenes49:

So how are you doing? Is everything going alright?

eh honestly not really, life is life but after years of feeling alone its finally starting to set in.

[sable54]

Początkowo opublikowane przez miamew3:

Welcome to adulthood!

All your friends have grown up, gotten Jobs and started making families. Peoples priorities change and your friends group gets smaller and smaller. The older you get the worse it becomes.... before you know it your that cranky old man who yells at kids to get off his lawn or the crazy old lady with a house full of cats.

I already feel like a cranky old man lol

[D. Flame]

It sucks. I always end up choosing to leave any group that I get invited to. You play what they want, and if they ever play what you want to play, they seem miserable. Just not worth the hassle anymore.

I do miss the idea of playing with friends that were all into the same games and such, but those days are long gone. Even MMOs are now focusing more and more on single player content, because no one has the time to set up play times anymore.

This is also why I prefer asynchronous multiplayer with drop in and drop out. That way you can play with other people on your own terms, and no one is being held up by anyone else.

[Leonardo Da Pinchi]

Roughly like 8 years ago, I created my own gaming group as a means to move on to greener pastures. Away from an ex-fiance and the toxic friend group we surrounded ourselves by.

Slowly but surely, it grew to a group of 60-70 individuals, who actively game and support eachother. A number of them, I consider close friends.

Several of the group chipped in together recently to buy another group member a new gaming pc for example. My friends have cycles, of games they want to or don't want to play. We don't always play the same games, but I know if I wanted to, I could sit down and schedule a session for certain games, and get 3-4 people who're interested.

[sable54]

Początkowo opublikowane przez Leonardo Da Pinchi:

Roughly like 8 years ago, I created my own gaming group as a means to move on to greener pastures. Away from an ex-fiance and the toxic friend group we surrounded ourselves by.

Slowly but surely, it grew to a group of 60-70 individuals, who actively game and support eachother. A number of them, I consider close friends.

Several of the group chipped in together recently to buy another group member a new gaming pc for example. My friends have cycles, of games they want to or don't want to play. We don't always play the same games, but I know if I wanted to, I could sit down and schedule a session for certain games, and get 3-4 people who're interested.

Honestly this would be pretty nice to have, Im just a antisocial person who only has the people I've met from school and friends, nothing else sadly. I don't find most groups I check out welcoming, or even interesting, its like looking at a wind tunnel sometimes and it gets old.

[muckymucks]

Take it to Off Topic. You read a few of those threads and you'll never want to interact with humans ever again.

[HEXEN]

Communities haven't changed; you have. When you were younger, everyone had fewer responsibilities and more time to waste playing games together. Now? People grow up, their priorities shift, and not everyone's life revolves around logging into Discord to talk to someone who misses the "good old days". The harsh reality is that maintaining friendships - especially in online spaces - takes effort from both sides. You can't just expect people to flock to you without showing any initiative.

You claim to miss having others who enjoy gaming together, but here's a bitter truth: gaming isn't a magical friendship glue. It never was. It's just an activity, and if you're banking on it to maintain meaningful relationships, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Relationships ... REAL ones ... require communication, vulnerability, and shared effort. If you're not willing to initiate, reach out, or adapt, then don't be surprised when you're left on the sidelines, watching others form the connections you crave.


"What's it like having friends?"

Well, it's probably pretty similar to what it was before.

[D. Flame]

Początkowo opublikowane przez ᕭᑌᑎᕬ:

Communities haven't changed

Even just the changes in MMO designs proves that assertion wrong.

[Heraclius Caesar]

Learn to be your own best friend and don't be so reliant on strangers on the internet. You'll be much better off OP!

[ReBoot]

What about real-life friends? Speaking from own experience, I very much grew out of online communities myself. I mean yeah, I still kinda participate in them (see this forum here) but I don't expect anyone asking how I'm doing. I've met exactly 2 people over the years of online gaming whom I somewhat regularly'ish talk and play with but that's about it. 2 out of thousands I've played with and you know what? It's fine!

You don't need groups for social life, you need people. People might be members of groups, you might find people through groups but people aren't groups and friends aren't groups (and groups aren't friends). A reason for your frustration is that people consider groups, well, groups. No-one's batting an eye after you've been out of the group for months because people (in this group) care about the group itself and the group is fine no matter whether singular individuals leave. Stop focusing on groups! If you want a social life, focus on singular people.

Well, that, and I'm with Caesar on this one on that you gotta be your own best friend. Again, speaking from experience here but I won't go into deep detail on that here (unless somebody cares).

[Chimaera]

I don't know I only have one and they don't make any sense

[Maria]

hallloww fellow metaphor players