Girls acting cold after a few dates

[.happybutcher.]

I hope someone can give me some insight on this because it's been bothering me a lot lately.

So this one girl I've been dating for a month now. She messaged me first, I noticed she's interested and asked her out on a date. We had a good time, the the second date comes, the third and about 10 days after the fourth date she completely stops messaging me. When I message her the replies are short and bland. It feels like messaging me is a burden to her. I'm not that annoying clingy guy that messages her every morning wishing her all the best but it still ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ hurts. On our dates we always had a good time, lots of laughing, touching. When I last dropped her off we were making out in my car for like half an hour. She told me she's been waiting for this for months (she noticed me in April last year and wanted to message me then, but we only started dating in December after she replied to my ig story). Yeah I also stopped messaging her because it hurts.

I guess my question is why would she act so interested in me then all of a sudden become cold and distant.
My plan is to not message her anymore , but if she messages me first I'll gladly continue with this.

[Not Big Surprise]

De Hollandse Ezel님이 먼저 게시:

so OP if I read you.. you have a girl who you got passed the friendzone with recently...
who even admitted she waited since april for that to happen..
yet now you complain she is acting cold?

dude.. newsflash : you are to passive.
a girl like that wants you to take iniative.
don't take her lack of responding as lack of interest.. she want to be chased. MUCH stronger than you do now, YES do call her 50 times.. instead of 1 message and wait a week for a responce..
if you are unconfortable by being that dominant
she aint the one for you.

do you have a partner perchance

[Scott, President of Dominos]

She learned you are a low test beta male and found a chad instead.

[m]

Not Big Surprise님이 먼저 게시:

De Hollandse Ezel님이 먼저 게시:

so OP if I read you.. you have a girl who you got passed the friendzone with recently...
who even admitted she waited since april for that to happen..
yet now you complain she is acting cold?

dude.. newsflash : you are to passive.
a girl like that wants you to take iniative.
don't take her lack of responding as lack of interest.. she want to be chased. MUCH stronger than you do now, YES do call her 50 times.. instead of 1 message and wait a week for a responce..
if you are unconfortable by being that dominant
she aint the one for you.

do you have a partner perchance

of course he does why would you think he doesn't?

[Not Big Surprise]

T님이 먼저 게시:

Not Big Surprise님이 먼저 게시:

do you have a partner perchance

of course he does why would you think he doesn't?

i'm asking, i didn't say anything about whether or not they don't

[Norman Schwarzkopf Jr.]

Gotta be honest here.
Girls acting cold after a few dates equals you are not here type.

There might be something wrong with you.

[Not Big Surprise]

i love how most people here don't even think of talking about it with her

[Dracoco OwO]

They act cold because they are no longer hot that's logical.

[ChickenTacos]

swole님이 먼저 게시:

I hope someone can give me some insight on this because it's been bothering me a lot lately.

So this one girl I've been dating for a month now. She messaged me first, I noticed she's interested and asked her out on a date. We had a good time, the the second date comes, the third and about 10 days after the fourth date she completely stops messaging me. When I message her the replies are short and bland. It feels like messaging me is a burden to her. I'm not that annoying clingy guy that messages her every morning wishing her all the best but it still ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ hurts. On our dates we always had a good time, lots of laughing, touching. When I last dropped her off we were making out in my car for like half an hour. She told me she's been waiting for this for months (she noticed me in April last year and wanted to message me then, but we only started dating in December after she replied to my ig story). Yeah I also stopped messaging her because it hurts.

I guess my question is why would she act so interested in me then all of a sudden become cold and distant.
My plan is to not message her anymore , but if she messages me first I'll gladly continue with this.

She's not interested in you anymore. If she was, she would go out of her way to be with you. Even if others were telling her not to. Even if there were things getting in her way. The fact of the matter is, she's not making an effort, so, she's done with you. Move on. Relationships work both ways, when one way fails, the whole thing fails. You owe it to yourself to find something that works.

It should turn you off that she is no longer interested, ya youngster.

[.happybutcher.]

ChickenTacos님이 먼저 게시:

swole님이 먼저 게시:

I hope someone can give me some insight on this because it's been bothering me a lot lately.

So this one girl I've been dating for a month now. She messaged me first, I noticed she's interested and asked her out on a date. We had a good time, the the second date comes, the third and about 10 days after the fourth date she completely stops messaging me. When I message her the replies are short and bland. It feels like messaging me is a burden to her. I'm not that annoying clingy guy that messages her every morning wishing her all the best but it still ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ hurts. On our dates we always had a good time, lots of laughing, touching. When I last dropped her off we were making out in my car for like half an hour. She told me she's been waiting for this for months (she noticed me in April last year and wanted to message me then, but we only started dating in December after she replied to my ig story). Yeah I also stopped messaging her because it hurts.

I guess my question is why would she act so interested in me then all of a sudden become cold and distant.
My plan is to not message her anymore , but if she messages me first I'll gladly continue with this.

She's not interested in you anymore. If she was, she would go out of her way to be with you. Even if others were telling her not to. Even if there were things getting in her way. The fact of the matter is, she's not making an effort, so, she's done with you. Move on. Relationships work both ways, when one way fails, the whole thing fails. You owe it to yourself to find something that works.

It should turn you off that she is no longer interested, ya youngster.

I have made an update to this post but I'll say it again:

We had another date after this post so everything's going well.

[ChickenTacos]

swole님이 먼저 게시:

ChickenTacos님이 먼저 게시:

She's not interested in you anymore. If she was, she would go out of her way to be with you. Even if others were telling her not to. Even if there were things getting in her way. The fact of the matter is, she's not making an effort, so, she's done with you. Move on. Relationships work both ways, when one way fails, the whole thing fails. You owe it to yourself to find something that works.

It should turn you off that she is no longer interested, ya youngster.

I have made an update to this post but I'll say it again:

We had another date after this post so everything's going well.

Be careful. She might be playing nice. I think she's seeing other people. Shopping around.

[Not Big Surprise]

swole님이 먼저 게시:

ChickenTacos님이 먼저 게시:

She's not interested in you anymore. If she was, she would go out of her way to be with you. Even if others were telling her not to. Even if there were things getting in her way. The fact of the matter is, she's not making an effort, so, she's done with you. Move on. Relationships work both ways, when one way fails, the whole thing fails. You owe it to yourself to find something that works.

It should turn you off that she is no longer interested, ya youngster.

I have made an update to this post but I'll say it again:

We had another date after this post so everything's going well.

nice :3

how'd it go? did you talk about these issues?

ChickenTacos님이 먼저 게시:

swole님이 먼저 게시:

I have made an update to this post but I'll say it again:

We had another date after this post so everything's going well.

Be careful. She might be playing nice. I think she's seeing other people. Shopping around.

are you incapable of reading any deeper than "hurr she must be seeing someone else"?

[videogames10]

swole님이 먼저 게시:

Girls acting cold after a few dates

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KHYEthYTMhM

[Tuuktalus]

She doesn't like you but is too nice to tell you.

[Raelic]

It is genuinely disturbing that so many people give out advice and can't even read at least the last few posts on the topic.

[Bernard The Gurnard]

Back to silly daft childish and uninformed speculation I see.