Girls acting cold after a few dates

[.happybutcher.]

I hope someone can give me some insight on this because it's been bothering me a lot lately.

So this one girl I've been dating for a month now. She messaged me first, I noticed she's interested and asked her out on a date. We had a good time, the the second date comes, the third and about 10 days after the fourth date she completely stops messaging me. When I message her the replies are short and bland. It feels like messaging me is a burden to her. I'm not that annoying clingy guy that messages her every morning wishing her all the best but it still ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ hurts. On our dates we always had a good time, lots of laughing, touching. When I last dropped her off we were making out in my car for like half an hour. She told me she's been waiting for this for months (she noticed me in April last year and wanted to message me then, but we only started dating in December after she replied to my ig story). Yeah I also stopped messaging her because it hurts.

I guess my question is why would she act so interested in me then all of a sudden become cold and distant.
My plan is to not message her anymore , but if she messages me first I'll gladly continue with this.

[Axe]

Początkowo opublikowane przez Gugu:

Your problem is that you lack priorities in life, and girls are your focus when really, it should be other things. That way you wouldn't get attached if a date doesn't work out and you'd spend the majority of your focus on your main ♥♥♥♥.

For example, my priorities are making money and having fun, so I couldn't care less if I got dumped right there and now, I'd be completely fine without a girlfriend. And I wouldn't put that much thought into dating, it works? Great. It doesn't? Eh, moving on. I got better things to do.

You're just inexperienced yet lol.

I've no idea the OPs age but when I was 14 there was nothing else but girls. Same with women now at 61

[Gugu]

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Początkowo opublikowane przez Gugu:

Your problem is that you lack priorities in life, and girls are your focus when really, it should be other things. That way you wouldn't get attached if a date doesn't work out and you'd spend the majority of your focus on your main ♥♥♥♥.

For example, my priorities are making money and having fun, so I couldn't care less if I got dumped right there and now, I'd be completely fine without a girlfriend. And I wouldn't put that much thought into dating, it works? Great. It doesn't? Eh, moving on. I got better things to do.

You're just inexperienced yet lol.

I've no idea the OPs age but when I was 14 there was nothing else but girls. Same with women now at 61 :lunar2019grinningpig:

Well being a 61 year old chap I can understand that, but as a young dude, there's so much more than just girls out there. And by obsessing over them, this is what happens, uncertainty, doubt, anxiety, feeling terrible.

You will get a girl just by socializing with ppl and having fun, you don't have to put much thought into it, of course you have to look (outside) decent enough.

[EpirusWarriorμολὼνλαβέ]

Age check, thread check, online experts check.

[Axe]

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Początkowo opublikowane przez Axe:

I've no idea the OPs age but when I was 14 there was nothing else but girls. Same with women now at 61

Well being a 61 year old chap I can understand that, but as a young dude, there's so much more than just girls out there. And by obsessing over them, this is what happens, uncertainty, doubt, anxiety, feeling terrible.

You will get a girl just by socializing with ppl and having fun, you don't have to put much thought into it, of course you have to look (outside) decent enough.

You've to understand that between ogling girls I was doing something else. I loved that Action Man and Scalextric set.

[Mauserich]

Go on the offensive. ,-)

[Insomniac Jack]

Sounds like she wasn't impressed with your package, if you know what I mean.

[Enigmatic]

Początkowo opublikowane przez TWPanda77:

She is a serial killer and has been arrested. You had a lucky escape.

You rolled a 7. You escape but mortally wounded. She is still pursuing you after escaping from the police. You hide in the bathroom and lock the door. Do you bandage your wound or jump out the window?

[Not Big Surprise]

you people ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ suck at relationships
wonder how many of you whine about divorces and "hookup culture"

not you op, you're asking for advice, and that alone puts you above 90% of the people here

[deadshooter]

important advice to OP - don't put her into microwave to heat up, it's dangerous!

[Axe]

Początkowo opublikowane przez Not Big Surprise:

you people ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ suck at relationships
wonder how many of you whine about divorces and "hookup culture"

not you op, you're asking for advice, and that alone puts you above 90% of the people here

LOL because none of us have been having a laugh here have we...
Let's hear your advice then Romeo. This should be a laugh.

[Raelic]

Rejection hurts. You've got to learn to deal with it in a mature manner.

Never reciprocate negative actions to someone you like. This applies to people you're not even dating.

Ask her to meet for coffee to talk and tell her how you feel. What you're describing is that she's not prioritizing you at all. And that's a valid thing to feel hurt over. But, it's probably because she's moved on and you should too.

If she doesn't want to meet up, then move on.

You're also putting too much emphasis on things she's said rather than actions. People say a lot of stuff early in relationships. It's the actions and things they do that matter more.

[Not Big Surprise]

Początkowo opublikowane przez Axe:

Początkowo opublikowane przez Not Big Surprise:

you people ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ suck at relationships
wonder how many of you whine about divorces and "hookup culture"

not you op, you're asking for advice, and that alone puts you above 90% of the people here

LOL because none of us have been having a laugh here have we...
Let's hear your advice then Romeo. This should be a laugh.

not romeo
and i did bring up advice earlier: talking about it with her

a relationship without communication simply cannot be healthy

[Axe]

Początkowo opublikowane przez Not Big Surprise:

Początkowo opublikowane przez Axe:

LOL because none of us have been having a laugh here have we...
Let's hear your advice then Romeo. This should be a laugh.

not romeo
and i did bring up advice earlier: talking about it with her

a relationship without communication simply cannot be healthy

Sorry I must have skim read it and moved on to having a laugh. What reaction the did the OP expect. This isn't womans weekly.

[Axe]

I say get a Scalextric. They're great at any age :-)

[glloomba]

You think too much about women while your homies kiss you good night every night and you don't even thank them..