Massage from girlfriend

[Dawido]

Do you think it's ok to ask your girlfriend to give you massage? I mean, I wasn't in relationship, but I think it's actually fine to ask, maybe even important in relationship

[trousers]

I occasionally ask my wife for a massage but sometimes she just gives me one just because. I reciprocate. Whenever right to. That's love innit.

Nothing wrong with going "I'd like this" and getting it the same way there isn't anything wrong with not even having to ask. Relationships are based on communication. Just communicate what you want. Or learn to read the other. It's big EZ.

[Rhila]

its very fine. very romantic to make a letter or to write anything.

[kbiz]

Yes. Ask and you shall receive. The only thing you gotta do is be cool. All the rest is easy.

[Rhila]

better plan is to write one for her first. and she will reply to you with one.

[kbiz]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από Rhila:

better plan is to write one for her first. and she will reply to you with one.

Massage, not message. You know, back tickles - tickling soft so it doesn't tickle. But yeah, offer first. It's polite.

[Jonathan Sensei]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από a geezer:

I occasionally ask my wife for a massage but sometimes she just gives me one just because. I reciprocate. Whenever right to. That's love innit.

Nothing wrong with going "I'd like this" and getting it the same way there isn't anything wrong with not even having to ask. Relationships are based on communication. Just communicate what you want. Or learn to read the other. It's big EZ.

Asking for a massage feels like being a burden to me.

[Rhila]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από kbiz:

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από Rhila:

better plan is to write one for her first. and she will reply to you with one.

Massage, not message. You know, back tickles - tickling soft so it doesn't tickle. But yeah, offer first. It's polite.

i made 2 comments about messages and letters. sorry OP, i will keep them if anyone need them.

[Rhila]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από kbiz:

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από Rhila:

better plan is to write one for her first. and she will reply to you with one.

Massage, not message. You know, back tickles - tickling soft so it doesn't tickle. But yeah, offer first. It's polite.

also i don't read comments before posting my comment that's why i had no idea.

[kbiz]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από Rhila:

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από kbiz:

Massage, not message. You know, back tickles - tickling soft so it doesn't tickle. But yeah, offer first. It's polite.

also i don't read comments before posting my comment that's why i had no idea.

I do that too, Rhila. And I misread the title too to be honest. But after I read a few choice replies - and gleaned the truth.

[kbiz]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από 󠀡󠀡Eréndira:

Massage is like kissing; it’s an artform not everyone has mastered.

And this, Erendira, is the best thing I've read from you. Smart.

[Rhila]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από kbiz:

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από Rhila:

also i don't read comments before posting my comment that's why i had no idea.

I do that too, Rhila. And I misread the title too to be honest. But after I read a few choice replies - and gleaned the truth.

some times i delete my comment when i read one comment made before mine that have the same idea.

[Tonepoet]

It is somewhat difficult to answer this question properly without knowing roughly how far along a relationship has progressed, and what the two people engaging in a relationship are like.

Just about the only thing I can say with much certainty is that there should come a point in a relationship where the mere act of asking may be done semi-casually. I would not be surprised to see one spouse ask another for a massage on a semi-weekly basis for example. I am just not quite sure when to ascertain when that is.

Messages can range from totally benign contact to deeply intimate depending on the circumstance, and moreover, a massage is even more focused on the wants of the recipient rather than the giver. The one way nature of the transaction can sometimes render various acts deeper along the lines of intimacy.

The one way nature of the transaction makes it more along the lines of a favor, so in that respect, it can be more along the lines of asking for help moving a heavy piece of furniture. Maybe something along the lines of a smaller 13-20 inch C.R.T. television, for those of you who have ever seen one of those.

Really, in consideration of all of these factors, the easiest way to tell if it is appropriate to ask or not is to give an offer of a massage to the other person first. I feel like somebody who is willing to receive a massage is probably comfortable with that level of contact, and would not be so surprised to be asked for a massage in return. Much as with any favor, if you are willing to ask, then you should be willing to offer as well. Maybe wait a while before bringing up that you want a massage to make it seem less transactional in nature.

The reason I suggest waiting is that while there is a certain quid-quo-pro to favors, the recipient of a favor should never feel as if it needs to be repaid on a ledger, and the same goes for sensual contact.

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από Irene ❤:

Honestly it depends on your face.

When a handsome guy ask for a shoulder massage, it's cute.

When an ugly guy ask for a shoulder massage, it's gross.

I suppose there is a certain amount of truth to this, but we are assuming that the two are already in a dating type relationship, so either the people find each-other physically attractive enough to be doing couples things together, or have sufficient means to compensate for the lack of attractiveness to do couple's things together with one another. Either way, I would assume that this particular factor is a non-issue, or the couple should not be dating in the first place.

[kbiz]

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από Rhila:

Αναρτήθηκε αρχικά από kbiz:

I do that too, Rhila. And I misread the title too to be honest. But after I read a few choice replies - and gleaned the truth.

some times i delete my comment when i read one comment made before mine that have the same idea.

I only delete in the rarest of circumstances. If someone beats me to an idea - or a reference. I let them take the win and see I was second. You concede. Not a big deal.

In fact, nothing here is a big deal. We are not here to change the world. We are here to socialize. And make mistakes.

But in regards to a massage, as Elendira said it, it's an art - to be mastered. Can one fully get a score of 9000+? I don't know. But dammit, we gotta try.

*leans back in chair*
*plugs in*

Give me a download on massage techniques...

*eyes go wide*

[RaccoonBiceps.♡]

Give her a massage man.

[Auckes]

I like more giving massages than receiveing massages. Exactly like oral.