Homeless: No Friends, No Family - Issues in NO ORDER

[ConcordKitten]

Disclaimer: For ME: Being Homeless is NOT the issue if you are only considering "Homeless" to be "without a house"

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The ONLY Family Member I have contact with is my FATHER (my mom, brother, sisters are all DEAD.. And I guess they are lucky to be out of this evil world)

My Father left when I was a child and found me on facebook about 13 years ago. I'm around 40 years old.

When I met my father I paid him to help me find a used car. He put it in his name. A few months later he sold it without permission from me.

He has continually let me down so I am pretty sick of him.

Some things include:

Ignoring me for years

Selling my car without my permission

leaving me on the side of the road - multiple times -

blocking my phone number if I have questions to ask

using me for stuff

The MOST recent thing being that he had surgery on his leg and had me go there and help him with driving him places and stuff. I would drive his car and do stuff for like 8 hours and then he would pay me like $40.

The reason he had me do this is because he is on something like workers compensation and he was at a facility. IF he didn't have someone drive him it would cost him a lot more money.

On the last day he was there he had me pretend to drive him off the lot because he wasn't supposed to use his leg at all and then ask me to drive back and he got in his car and used his good leg to drive off.... After this he did stuff like: ignore my calls and block me.

He HAD promised to let me live with him in a home and I traveled 450 miles to help him originally (he didn't pay for this travel and I didn't know about him being in this rehab hospital whatever place until I got here)

So I stayed with him like 10 days and he payed me a total of $80 to travel him places and pick up stuff for him which took like 20 hours

ANOTHER thing is that he was talking about this guy he did "work" with stole his money and that he had the keys to the storage unit and would be taking stuff that the guy "owed" him and said something like the guy didn't pay him and it was a "civil matter" so when he takes whatever he wants from the storage unit it would also be a "civil matter"... He wanted me to help with getting that stuff but I said I didn't want to because it sounds illegal to me...

Anyways I am very sick of my father.... Should I block his numbers or still talk with him?

IF I quit contact with him it's just me and only me.

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Even if I had a home I would not have friends or family and I don't see the point in renting a $1000 a month place and spend $1400 a month for all my needs when I can live in my car and spend half of that.

I HATE working but I have saved up a thousands - like over $1000 but not too much more - so I can make money and live and stuff.

The people at these jobs don't care and want as much work done for little compensation while the coworkers pretend to be nice but never want to hang out outside of work or do anything... and their topic of conversation when not working is just dumb stuff like drugs and s*x.

I don't see any reason for living at this time aside from eating and sleeping and playing VRChat and playing other games on my computer and watching videos online.

My normal day is wake up, play online, eat, and sleep... IF I have a job then play online is replaced by work.

People are very mean and unkind so I ignore people usually both online and in person.

Having a home/apartment wouldn't change anything except I get a bit more privacy and have to work MORE to pay for it.

What should I do about this?

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Any Questions?
Any Comments?
Any Advice/Help?

[Grendalcat]

Speaking as someone who cut contact with his old man thirty years ago, I would cut him out of your life if I were you. He appears to be a net loss to your health and life.

[Agenda 2025]

Appears you can enlist in the military and start a new life up to 42.

[SHOCKNUTZ]

Originally posted by Agenda 2025:

Appears you can enlist in the military and start a new life up to 42.

lots of people do this for the same reasons OP wrote about.

OP: enlist, get orders to a foreign country, save money, explore, no communication with your father.

[ConcordKitten]

Originally posted by Agenda 2025:

Appears you can enlist in the military and start a new life up to 42.

I'm not joining the military to do the dirty work of a dirty government that wants control, power, and blood.

[SHOCKNUTZ]

Originally posted by ConcordKitten:

Originally posted by Agenda 2025:

Appears you can enlist in the military and start a new life up to 42.

I'm not joining the military to do the dirty work of a dirty government that wants control, power, and blood.

then it is decided. continue to drown in your crappy life.

[ConcordKitten]

Originally posted by SHOCKNUTZ:

Originally posted by ConcordKitten:

I'm not joining the military to do the dirty work of a dirty government that wants control, power, and blood.

then it is decided. continue to drown in your crappy life.

I'm very content with dying... This crappy life won't make me do evil and vile things for money.

[Corvus XIII]

Build up other skills and work on how you speak too.
Do you use slang or do not pronounce properly? if so tidy that up and sound like a news presenter - somebody who is understood when they speak. The power of the voice is a strong thing.

Building up other skills, generally so you got something other than computer games / screen time.

[poopman]

family trauma will waste your whole life if you let it, and wanting to rid the world of evil but knowing the legal ramifications really does suck, you have to just get a job or anything at all, try and get into a mental institution or something

[Pieshaman]

If the car is on his name then the car simply is his, no matter who paid for it.
you made a mistake there. the rest is too long too read.
your dad is a loser, ditch him asap, continue with your own life. ignore him, cause if you don't he'll suck out all your energy

[poopman]

and if you get a job dont tell people about trauma, employers do discriminate

[Haustier64]

Op, you should try and get an actual safe space to talk about this. I dont know your country, but there are often a few numbers to help you out and maybe talk about with professional help. This Forum is NOT the right place for a topic like this

[SHOCKNUTZ]

Originally posted by ConcordKitten:

Originally posted by SHOCKNUTZ:

then it is decided. continue to drown in your crappy life.

I'm very content with dying... This crappy life won't make me do evil and vile things for money.

never mind the military thing. something tells me you'd be lucky to even score double digits on the asvab. return to your vrchat or whatever.

[salamander]

block everyone, move to a far off city and live in hostels while you are looking for steady work. get a foothold and a flat, and then slowly build a new life. sometimes the best way to grow meat trees is a to wipe the slate clean and begin again.

[poopman]

what a system, since you go to jail if you kill your abusive parent you have to join the military to survive, no chance in adjusting and getting a real job

[poopman]

life sucks