Questions for Bi people

[Rio]

Are you always attracted to both genders? Or do you rotate? Sometimes liking one and not really the other for a period of time, before switching to liking the other gender for a while.

Since you like both, do you pick to have a preference and try to steer yourself only to that? Do you always want to stay bi, or wish one day you could be only straight or gay?

Do you ever get confused by what you like? Do you feel being Bi makes you more prone to confusion when it comes to seeking a partner?

Where does the ability to have kids fit into this? Do you prefer someone that can have kids with you, or prefer someone who cannot, so you avoid an accidental kid?

Are you embarrassed about being Bi, when around others?

Do you think it makes life easier or more difficult, being attracted to both?

Do you also want your partner to be Bi? Or would you prefer that only like 1 gender.

If you partner does only like 1 gender, does it ever cause arguments, disagreements, or problems between the two of you?

What do you love the most about being Bi? What do you dislike the most about being BI?

[Rio]

You don't have to answer all questions, you can pick to only answer one if you want.

I know being Bi can be pretty confusing, always wondering if you really are that. Or you may accept one side of you, but not the other. Like in a christian household you may accept the straight part of being Bi, but not your gay part. Its okay.

It can seem like everyone wants you to either be straight or gay, but you are Bi. And then people can make things more confusing by throwing in words like "Bi curious"

[DOOMGIRL69]

1. Its to do more with the person their personality and how i feel when i am around them than looks, although between men and females i have been more attracted to men sexually lately but that does change. I am more comfortable being open and expressing things with female partners. Not that i dont express things with male partners ofc, i just find it easier.

2. Doesn't bother me totally fine being bi and saying so. Even though for a while i did just say i was gay if it came up.

3. Not really confused, its more so who i feel attracted to at the moment. But if that's a problem just talk to your partner about having a open relationship.

4. I dont plan on having kids although if that were to happen i would choose to try to be a part of their lives and take responsibility.

5.Nope

6.For me its not really difficult i like to explore and have fun :3

7.That is them and i cant change that about them nor would i try, it does make it easier though for sexual reasons and yes my partner is.

8. I asked them recently and they said they prefer to date women than men cause they said for them it is easier and they find women make better partners. We have never argued about that no.

9.I like that i can connect with both men and women in a deep and intimate way, If i am interested in them that way.
I dislike how some people call being bi greedy as a friends father once said i was being to me.

[Rio]

Also if you are bi, do you ever feel dissapointed that, you can't really find someone that combines your favorite male and female traits into one package? Do you have a feeling like what you "really want" isn't out there, or is very rare. Or may only exist if someone is taking hormones with the intention of having both female and male traits?

For example a flat chested masculine guy, with wide hips from hormones. Or a masculine female with a beard and large muscles.

[BunniBealla]

Originally posted by Violeta:

Are you always attracted to both genders? Or do you rotate? Sometimes liking one and not really the other for a period of time, before switching to liking the other gender for a while.

It's probably more of rotation, especially for adult content.

Originally posted by Violeta:

Since you like both, do you pick to have a preference and try to steer yourself only to that? Do you always want to stay bi, or wish one day you could be only straight or gay?

I lean more towards men cause that's just who approach me the most, it's harder to tell if a girl is down for anything romantic or physical with another girl.
I used to really wish I was straight and there's maybe a part of me that still feels that way.

Originally posted by Violeta:

Do you ever get confused by what you like? Do you feel being Bi makes you more prone to confusion when it comes to seeking a partner?

yes, I realised early on there were parts of men I wasn't attracted to and parts of women I wasn't attracted to so when I was younger I thought maybe I wasn't attracted to either, it was definitely a period of confusion over what I'm actually attracted to. I don't think just being Bi necessarily makes it confusing for me to seek a partner cause I fall for people's personalities first before their appearance.

Originally posted by Violeta:

Where does the ability to have kids fit into this? Do you prefer someone that can have kids with you, or prefer someone who cannot, so you avoid an accidental kid?

I'm okay with either, I've flipped between not wanting kids at all, to wanting to be pregnant to wanting to adopt to just being okay being a stepmother, I'm okay with anything as long as I find someone that I love.

Originally posted by Violeta:

Are you embarrassed about being Bi, when around others?

Not everyone but I'm more guarded with my family, only my mum knows and it took her a while to understand and accept it.

Originally posted by Violeta:

Do you think it makes life easier or more difficult, being attracted to both?

maybe neither, maybe a bit of both?

Originally posted by Violeta:

Do you also want your partner to be Bi? Or would you prefer that only like 1 gender.

I don't care personally just as long as they don't cheat.

Originally posted by Violeta:

If you partner does only like 1 gender, does it ever cause arguments, disagreements, or problems between the two of you?

no since I really only date guys right now and most guys are fine if not excited about their girl liking girls.

Originally posted by Violeta:

What do you love the most about being Bi? What do you dislike the most about being BI?

I love that I can accept the one who is for me no matter who they are.
I probably dislike the stereotypes about bi sexual people and how some even in the LGBT don't see it as a valid sexuality. uwu

[DOOMGIRL69]

Originally posted by Violeta:

Also if you are bi, do you ever feel dissapointed that, you can't really find someone that combines your favorite male and female traits into one package? Do you have a feeling like what you "really want" isn't out there, or is very rare. Or may only exist if someone is taking hormones with the intention of having both female and male traits?

For example a flat chested masculine guy, with wide hips from hormones. Or a masculine female with a beard and large muscles.

Not really, if i wanted to do so i would date a transgender person who hasn't or doesn't want to have bottom surgery i suppose. But that sort of crosses over into chaser territory in a way, which i dont quite fully understand yet so i cant really give a correct or informed answer.

[Rio]

People never seem to believe the rotation thing, how one day or week you might like girls, the next you might like guys.

I think it can be rather tough, if you have a partner because you might have to tell them "I'm just not into you this day/week, I don't feel anything for you, like that, right now".

Like you can go from puppy love/obsessed to ice cold/friendzone based on how your hormones or whatever are doing that day/week.

[DOOMGIRL69]

Originally posted by Violeta:

People never seem to believe the rotation thing, how one day or week you might like girls, the next you might like guys.

I think it can be rather tough, if you have a partner because you might have to tell them "I'm just not into your this day/week, I don't feel anything for you, like that, right now".

For me my partner meets both my desires and emotional needs, but that's why i mentioned the open relationship or multiple partners. If i am feeling more attracted to the other though i wouldn't cheat or anything id just tell them. I think honesty is best in every relationship not just between partners but friends as well.

[Ghost Robertson]

I'd be tempted to try a guy out but my standards would be higher for men than they are for women.

I think it's our surroundings that might dictate if you are straight, bi or gay.

Like when i was at school, If you weren't straight then you got given a hard time, So i think there were probably people in the closet back then.

[Barbas]

Cool thread

[Rio]

If you are bi, does your sense of self change? Or is it the opposite of your body?

Like if you are a girl, is your inner self a guy? Or does your self change like how the gender you are into changes? Like how water is constantly changing.

This is not to say your going to change your physical gender, just that your inner self represents your bi nature, either by being the opposite of your body or by being very fluid and changing?


And Did you as a child ever want things generally mean for the opposite gender, not because you wanted to be that gender, but that it was just another expression of your Bi-ness? Like you wanted the pink barbie shoes and the Gi joes at the same time, and you would have gotten both, if no one stepped in and told you that, that was wrong?

[Pixie]

Originally posted by Violeta:

People never seem to believe the rotation thing, how one day or week you might like girls, the next you might like guys.

I think it can be rather tough, if you have a partner because you might have to tell them "I'm just not into you this day/week, I don't feel anything for you, like that, right now".

Like you can go from puppy love/obsessed to ice cold/friendzone based on how your hormones or whatever are doing that day/week.

The Bi Cycle is totally a thing. Mine rotates thro girls, boys, both and neither all the time. Rarely lands on neither but happens

[DOOMGIRL69]

Originally posted by Violeta:

If you are bi, does your sense of self change? Or is it the opposite of your body?

Like if you are a girl, is your inner self a guy? Or does your self change like how the gender you are into changes? Like how water is constantly changing.

This is not to say your going to change your physical gender, just that your inner self represents your bi nature, either by being the opposite of your body or by being very fluid and changing?


And Did you as a child ever want things generally mean for the opposite gender, not because you wanted to be that gender, but that it was just another expression of your Bi-ness? Like you wanted the pink barbie shoes and the Gi joes at the same time, and you would have gotten both, if no one stepped in and told you that, that was wrong?

I know that once i have started hormones or have had bottom surgery my emotions and maybe what i am attracted to might be effected, i am not sure entirely to what level that will happen. but i dont think that is related with me being bi, but i could be wrong about that i am not a psychologist lol

However yes as a child i played with dolls and also action figures, my father did tell me that it was wrong also to be playing with dolls if i am remembering it correctly, but never actually tried stopping me

[Rio]

For me I think it was very confusing for the people raising me

I wanted the transformers, but also the ez bake oven. I liked the girl legos, but also the nerf guns. But when given things girly stuff sometimes I'd destroy them, like some stuffed animals. But then I kept the beanie baby scorpion. I'd watch the girl shows, read the girl fashion magazines. But I was also playing with knives and other dangerous things. My favorite movie as a kid was a girl's movie but at the same time I loved horror too.

I was all over the place.

Sometimes I destroyed things for being so girly and motherly, that it embarrassed me, as a kid.

I think if your Bi as a youth, you might be more secretive, because half the things you might like, people might laugh at you for liking.

They can be like "You like ponies? you need to man up!", you like barbie songs? oh no my boy is going to like boys. Not realizing you are bi, you like both.

[DOOMGIRL69]

Originally posted by Violeta:

For me I think it was very confusing for the people raising me

I wanted the transformers, but also the ez bake oven. I liked the girl legos, but also the nerf guns. But when given things girly stuff sometimes I'd destroy them, like some stuffed animals. But then I kept the beanie baby scorpion. I'd watch the girl shows, read the girl fashion magazines. But I was also playing with knives and other dangerous things. My favorite movie as a kid was a girl's move but at the same time I loved horror too.

I was all over the place.

Sometimes I destroyed things for being so girly and motherly, that it embarrassed me, as a kid.

Girls destroy things as well lol my sister wrecked my collection of Yu-gi-oh cards when we were kids, also a few of my toys and my playstation 2. The playstation seriously annoyed me though xD I didn't feel any embarrassment about it even when my father said to me i shouldn't have been playing with them its just what i enjoyed doing.

[Rio]

No, I purposely destroyed it because my own insecurity. Like it was a mother dog stuffed toy, that gave birth to barking toy puppies. And they were attached to the mother dog via strings. It had a pouch on its underside where the puppies could be put back in.

And I destroyed the stuffed toy to send the message that I wasn't a girl and I was too old for this kind of thing.

And I just always felt bad about that, but I felt the message was important enough. I was older and I wanted older person gifts. And I just felt so bad about it, because it was a gift with love, and I destroyed it. I shattered their image of me, being nice and a kid.