(Playing hard to get) is confusing and don't make sense

[daddylongjohnsliver]

Playing hard to get only work in the 2000s or the 90s not in today era you will go to jail for thinking she playing with hard to get

[Dutchgamer1982]

I still act as in 1990 and have yet to face any issues..

just as idiots make hitting your children a crime.. but parents still do it ignoring that idioit law
(sure the one who take out the belt get sued.. but correction spoiled brats.. by grabbing them by the ear and hitting them once on their rear than send them to their room without dinner.. no lawsuits against that...

as a teacher I also no longer allowed to touch students.. but when one of them is disturbing my classroom.. and is not leaving when i send them out.. you bet them I MAKE them go out..
(sure the director sometimes talked to me I walk the edge doing that.. (but inofficially he fully agreed with me and would have done much worse.. to such a deliquent)

do kids and colegueas still give ladies a hit on the rear as they did.. sure they do..
the ladies today just do it to man too.

there is some risk.. but thats not jail.. If I were to aproach a collegua and ask them for a date.. and she would feel unconfortable about that.. they would have to fire me..
same as when i would date a student.. some are adults so nothing against the law.. but if I did.. it would cost me my job.

harasment is not if you whisle to a woman.. or say "hey hot potato, I'd like to xxxx" asking is free.. but doing it repeatingly after asked to stop... thats the dealbreaker..
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but generally you will not get sued till thats ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥.. if HR or somebody ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ tells you to stop.. than you must stop or face the music..

until than.. it's all fun and games..

ofcourse I would merely ask.. want to have a coffee? even if rejected 1000 times.. that hardly could be seen harasment..

it's usually the type of lines I never used in my life that get you if trouble..

but not modern laws have stopped the construction workers in my neighbourhood from whisling to every woman that passes let me tell you..

I may think it barbaric woman may find it anoying.. but heh it's harmless see it as a compliment..

[salamander]

yeah, playing "hard to get" is silly. regardless of whether it is men or women doing it, btw. just being forward and direct, this is how mature adults are tackling relationships. and there are many like this of every persuasion, so stop listening to your local "online guru" for """"facts"""" about this.

[the vampire of time and memory]

Diposting pertama kali oleh Dutchgamer1982:

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holy crap this entire post...

[Dutchgamer1982]

Diposting pertama kali oleh salamander:

yeah, playing "hard to get" is silly. regardless of whether it is men or women doing it, btw. just being forward and direct, this is how mature adults are tackling relationships. and there are many like this of every persuasion, so stop listening to your local "online guru" for """"""facts""""""" about this.

personally for me.. persistance works.
look you may not be my first pick.. you may be not my type..
so if you ask me for a date.. I say no...
but if you than go "you'll change your mind... bye"
don't stalk my house or anything weird.. just keep the chase going ask it again next week "want to grap a coffee. and I likely say no again..

it's not a play.. basicly they have a reason... they may just not looking for a relation now.. or your really not their type.. (somebody more ther type would not face the same hurdle..

so basicly if a lady who is a 2 aproaches me as a 7... I will say nope..
but if she persists who knows.. I find persitance charming.. (as long as you not get creepy about it)

and I'm a dude.. woman are the same way..

just don't be a creep.

[salamander]

Diposting pertama kali oleh Dutchgamer1982:

Diposting pertama kali oleh salamander:

yeah, playing "hard to get" is silly. regardless of whether it is men or women doing it, btw. just being forward and direct, this is how mature adults are tackling relationships. and there are many like this of every persuasion, so stop listening to your local "online guru" for """"""facts""""""" about this.

personally for me.. persistance works.
look you may not be my first pick.. you may be not my type..
so if you ask me for a date.. I say no...
but if you than go "you'll change your mind... bye"
don't stalk my house or anything weird.. just keep the chase going ask it again next week "want to grap a coffee. and I likely say no again..

it's not a play.. basicly they have a reason... they may just not looking for a relation now.. or your really not their type.. (somebody more ther type would not face the same hurdle..

so basicly if a lady who is a 2 aproaches me as a 7... I will say nope..
but if she persists who knows.. I find persitance charming.. (as long as you not get creepy about it)

and I'm a dude.. woman are the same way..

just don't be a creep.

humans have ego, unfortunately this is not being ♥♥♥ dependent. both men and women suffer from this, and will often "shoot above or below" their shots so to speak just to prove somethings to their egos.

but well, i will say there is wisdom in the last thing you said in a different way. i do not really believing "rating" peoples as such a thing i am finding cruel. but i agree that "persistence" can sometimes be charming, and that you are sometimes brushing people off at first glance but they "try again" in a more comfortable way and you suddenly are finding them attractive. people are strange, and awkward. not often getting things right the first time.

this is not to say that all peoples need to be given a second chance in the world of dating or nothing. but if they are being persistent but still respectful, and will immediately be backing off if you tell them to, these types of people are having my respect for at least not wanting to hurt anothers feelings.

[Tazor]

Diposting pertama kali oleh Dutchgamer1982:

by grabbing them by the ear

as a teacher

If you told me that on the street, I would beat you up until someone stops me. Even if you stopped breathing I would keep going. No hesitation and no remorse.

I got permanent tinnitus in my left ear from before I was 30. Always had issues with that ear for many years since a teacher grabbed it before the permanent tinnitus started. I don't hear as good with it. Popping and cracking noises. Can't sleep well. All because of some subhuman.

If I knew the issues this would cause for the rest of my life, I probably wouldn't have done anything either. Because I was a brainwashed obedient kid back then. But times change. And people change.

School is ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ useless by the way. Your """job""" is pointless. It adds no value to society. Your existence is meaningless. All 9s and 10s back in school. Biggest waste of my life. Wish I played more World of Warcraft. Went to college as well, yeah. Can't get a job even to sell in a store. Rejected at the interview? You crazy? Not even getting a rejection notice. Interviews are a dream. Just ghosted by every employer.