The Cougar Epidemic- young men dating older women

[Chocobo & Moogle]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GuSGAVwBYiw

I'm not an expert but older women are more likely to want to settle down and get married.

[Heraclius Caesar]

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I'm not an expert but older women are more likely to want to settle down and get married.

Can confirm, I'm married to an older woman

[Sarge the Comfy Gaming Doggo]

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Way ahead of you. Been at it for years. :steamlaughcry:

Powerful brother in arms, bless your efforts. You are carrying out the modern crusade. I salute you!

[TuxedoSammy]

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I'm socially indoctrinated to prefer older men, but younger men are tolerable if they look older.

Socially indoctrinated?

I was being a bit facetious, but there is some truth to it. Women are encouraged to be mothers and housewives from conception with their play kitchens, cleaning tools, and dolls, for our future children and husbands. Thus we grow to like and prefer mature things that reflect our more mature mentalities, such as mature men, which is presumed to be most present in older men than ourselves--whether that's true or not. It's also partly biological.

I remember specifically thinking when I was a teenager that I preferred older men because they were more mature. Obviously, that's not true for all older men, but it's generally true to varying degrees.

I had a crush on a 27-year-old man when I was 17 and the part of him he did show me was mature and intelligent. I would say he was more mature than most 27-year-olds now. He restrained himself from pursuing me, which I also greatly respected, because other men his age at the time did not, despite the fact I was underage. This guy could have molded me into anything he wanted, and I would have obliviously done it, as ignorance to manipulation and control comes with inexperienced age, but he chose to revere the fact that I was too young for him and treated me with respect. Sadly, he didn't realize how much of a catch he was. I hope he's doing well, wherever he is.

[Kestrel]

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Socially indoctrinated?

I was being a bit facetious, but there is some truth to it. Women are encouraged to be mothers and housewives from conception with their play kitchens, cleaning tools, and dolls, for our future children and husbands. Thus we grow to like and prefer mature things that reflect our more mature mentalities, such as mature men, which is presumed to be most present in older men than ourselves--whether that's true or not. It's also partly biological.

I remember specifically thinking when I was a teenager that I preferred older men because they were more mature. Obviously, that's not true for all older men, but it's generally true to varying degrees.

I had a crush on a 27-year-old man when I was 17 and the part of him he did show me was mature and intelligent. I would say he was more mature than most 27-year-olds now. He restrained himself from pursuing me, which I also greatly respected, because other men his age at the time did not, despite the fact I was underage. This guy could have molded me into anything he wanted, and I would have obliviously done it, as ignorance to manipulation and control comes with inexperienced age, but he chose to revere the fact that I was too young for him and treated me with respect. Sadly, he didn't realize how much of a catch he was. I hope he's doing well, wherever he is.

I am not sure if 'mature mentalities' is the right way to put that but I think I understand what you mean (not necessarily /being/ mature, but embodying qualities and traits of maturity, more so than others at that stage).

I can see the appeal in "older" men given that some have actually figured themselves out, and that's appealing in any person.

I'm glad that he refrained himself because there's way too many stories from highschool of 14-17 year old girls "dating" men who were 20+ (and, obviously, who were just playing -- or they were human traffickers.)

Did you have any interest in boys/men your age at all back then, though?

What makes you say that 27-year-olds now are not that mature?

I've honestly never had much of an interest in people much older than me because we have very little to relate to beyond a surface level (at least in the stage of life I'm in right now).

[C4Warr10r]

What you are looking at is societal inversion, as deliberately, albeit incompetently, designed by the Far Left. There is no eliminating human sexual instinct, but it can be displaced. Well, guess what happens when you treat a bunch of males like children, deny them access to females, and remove their means of generating support or females.

Their best survival and reproductive option becomes older, established, women, that will take care of them, at least temporarily. A whole lot of this "mommy dommy" crap comes from that, plus a bunch of fetishes, including the foot fetish, hypothetically. These men are basically reduced to children.

Unfortunately, older females can't really reproduce most of the time, and that's where we get the "cat-lady syndrome" as well as a bunch of very regretful, depressed, feminists, and a lot of kinks.

Everybody in the world is made to reproduce, it's not ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ hard, even if emotionally painful because mate selection is SUPPOSED to be that way. Whenever you are doing something wrong, it's supposed to hurt so you can put drive A into slot B, or vice-versa, and get the proper genetic data for attractive offspring that also reproduce.

The only way this gets screwed up is when people or circumstances mess with the incentive structures,and Leftists are notorious for that. They do it on purpose as a social experiment that they've failed thousands of times. I can certainly understand the confusion and bizarre standards, given their artificial stimuli, but reproduction is so simple that even primitive humans couldn't mess it up. But "modern" ones can.

I thank God for the Catholic Church, every day, as well as every other established religion that manages to reproduce, because they do all this explanation for me, without having to explain the concept that genes can only successfully reproduce if they reproduce.

Even formerly socialist and the still-confused Shoe had to finally learn that lesson, because she isn't bi, she's straight, and she married a conservative to make more Shoe that would actually survive.

I thought I wasn't going to get married for a long time, either, couldn't find the match, but I found her, and she's baby-crazy, as am I, but I have a plan and some patience.

Point is, this isn't difficult, and it's nobodies fault that they have these displaced drives. Not gays, not furries, not trans, and not cougar-hunters. They are just getting the wrong incentive structures over and over again, on purpose. If you're in one of those lifestyles, and you're happy with it, great, I don't begrudge you any of it, but the species has to survive to create those circumstances in the first place, and it has to be prosperous enough to afford them.

[Zeno]

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GuSGAVwBYiw

I'm not an expert but older women are more likely to want to settle down and get married.

Age is just a number anyway.

I date women for who they are not for their age. But since I am married anyway, I could not care less who you guys date and who not. If men feel they need to go for " older " women, whatever man.

[Sarge the Comfy Gaming Doggo]

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But since I am married anyway, I could not care less who you guys date and who not.

What if I'm comin to date your wife. THEN YOULL CARE.

[TuxedoSammy]

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I am not sure if 'mature mentalities' is the right way to put that but I think I understand what you mean (not necessarily /being/ mature, but embodying qualities and traits of maturity, more so than others at that stage).

I can see the appeal in "older" men given that some have actually figured themselves out, and that's appealing in any person.

I'm glad that he refrained himself because there's way too many stories from highschool of 14-17 year old girls "dating" men who were 20+ (and, obviously, who were just playing -- or they were human traffickers.)

Did you have any interest in boys/men your age at all back then, though?

What makes you say that 27-year-olds now are not that mature?

I've honestly never had much of an interest in people much older than me because we have very little to relate to beyond a surface level (at least in the stage of life I'm in right now).

I was preyed on by men much older than me when I was a teen, and sometimes I wasn't even aware of it. I think most girls have that experience too.

Yes, I've liked guys younger, same age, and older than me.

I don't know the rate of maturity among 27-year-olds, if it's increased or decreased, but I know that the 27-year-old I interacted with was unlike most people his age, younger, or older. Emotional maturity can come at any age, and he exemplified it.

He had control of his emotions, he spoke respectfully, didn't take advantage of me, had reasonable and rational opinions, wasn't dismissive or controlling, and he didn't engage in a lot of immature antics and behaviors.

However, it's entirely possible he wasn't showing me the full scope of his personality. Maybe he wanted to be a good example for me, even years after I became an adult. Even if that might be so, he didn't take advantage of me despite confessing he did have romantic feelings for me, and that set him apart from the rest.

There's a lot anyone of any age can relate about, but the disconnect does tend to come in the milestones, relative perspective, and more subjective and personal interests, station, etc.

[Bunnei Bealla]

If 20-25 is the supposed "wall" you're advocating willingly hitting a cobwebbed wall uwu

[Kestrel]

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I am not sure if 'mature mentalities' is the right way to put that but I think I understand what you mean (not necessarily /being/ mature, but embodying qualities and traits of maturity, more so than others at that stage).

I can see the appeal in "older" men given that some have actually figured themselves out, and that's appealing in any person.

I'm glad that he refrained himself because there's way too many stories from highschool of 14-17 year old girls "dating" men who were 20+ (and, obviously, who were just playing -- or they were human traffickers.)

Did you have any interest in boys/men your age at all back then, though?

What makes you say that 27-year-olds now are not that mature?

I've honestly never had much of an interest in people much older than me because we have very little to relate to beyond a surface level (at least in the stage of life I'm in right now).

I was preyed on by men much older than me when I was a teen, and sometimes I wasn't even aware of it. I think most girls have that experience too.

Yes, I've liked guys younger, same age, and older than me.

I don't know the rate of maturity among 27-year-olds, if it's increased or decreased, but I know that the 27-year-old I interacted with was unlike most people his age, younger, or older. Emotional maturity can come at any age, and he exemplified it.

He had control of his emotions, he spoke respectfully, didn't take advantage of me, had reasonable and rational opinions, wasn't dismissive or controlling, and he didn't engage in a lot of immature antics and behaviors.

However, it's entirely possible he wasn't showing me the full scope of his personality. Maybe he wanted to be a good example for me, even years after I became an adult. Even if that might be so, he didn't take advantage of me despite confessing he did have romantic feelings for me, and that set him apart from the rest.

There's a lot anyone of any age can relate about, but the disconnect does tend to come in the milestones, relative perspective, and more subjective and personal interests, station, etc.

Yikes. I don't really have those experiences (barring an odd one or two online when I was young, but nothing happened since I'd just ghost those guys), but, I seem to be someone who doesn't attract predatory types in general (luckily). Part of it is probably not being conventionally attractive, part of it is that I tend to not be alone in public, and the rest is probably just my personality. Some probably don't have the privilege of finding safety around other people, let alone the society they live in. I do know a lot of other women and girls who have dealt with that BS, so it's unfortunately common.

Frankly it's sad that the traits you listed are apparently so rare.

Then again, when it comes to heterosexual relationships, I realize it's uncommon to find a man who truly sees women as "human" like himself. Such a basic perspective isn't as common as it should be. I know it's controversial to say this, but it's true even after everything. Most pass it off as just a joke, but when they say they don't understand women, they actually mean it -- and they don't want to change it.

I feel bad that I'm shocked he didn't try to "go for it," so to speak. But good on him.

Yeah, being very young at the moment (18, but I'm about to turn 19 on the 5th), I don't think I've reached very many milestones yet, so I'm really not in the same place as, say, a 25 year old. (But a 25 year old might be able to get along with a 45 year old relatively well, as by 25 you've likely had many more experiences that don't change /that/ drastically as you get older.)

[Kiddiec͕̤̱͋̿͑͠at 🃏]

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The Cougar Epidemic- young men dating older women
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GuSGAVwBYiw

lawl, you fell for her clickbait, which ironically enough, during the video, even she said that she doesn't believe there's an epidemic at around the 18 minute mark.

Her own data shown at 19:08 specifically adds up to be 14% of relationships being an older woman with a younger man, which means that the remaining 86% are either same age or the man is older.

It is interesting to talk about the experiences of such relationships and the perspectives of people who prefer them, but there's nothing out of the ordinary going on here in regards to how much this is going on. This is something that has been out of the ordinary in the past and still is but people are diverse and so some preferences that are out of the ordinary and a minority percentage occurrence are pretty much guaranteed to happen sometimes once you have enough opportunities for them to happen.

[Zeno]

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But since I am married anyway, I could not care less who you guys date and who not.

What if I'm comin to date your wife. THEN YOULL CARE.

Haha.

Well you can do that, as she wouldn't date anyone.

[Mega Ultra Chicken]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zyWJ-DgKlsg&t=13s

Some guys are into a dommy mommy

[Silverlight]

Wander how often these end in happy marriages with children.

[Fumo Bnnuy n Frends]

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The older the prune, the sweeter the juice.

. . . . prunes don't have juice.

they do but not a lot
you're thinking raisins