Do you snoop your SO's phone? Do you think it's ok?

[dallas]

yes or no why

[Phénomènes Mystiques]

I'm snooping on myself right now.

[Rio]

Using the word trust for one or the other makes no sense. Since they are both Trust.


Showing someone everything you have. Is Trust. You trust they will understand everything you have posted or saved. And be okay with it. You Trust them.


Telling someone they can't see and need to be okay with it. Is also trust, because you Trust they will be okay with it and not try to break into your phone later.

[trousers]

if your SO loves you, when you snoop around on their phone, all you'll find are pictures of you looking at stuff like a North Korean dictator

[Iggy Wolf]

I don't have an SO, but even if I did, then no. But I'm fair. I don't expect myself to be able to snoop at her phone anymore than mine. The idea of trust is that you trust the other person at their word, rather than someone needing "proof" by having unfettered access to their personal space. Consider porn for a second. I mean, some people have their own idea of porn, be it on their PC or phone. But they have obviously wouldn't want an SO seeing it, because it's for your "private time".

And your private time isn't something that stops being a thing when you're in a relationship. I'd hate to think anybody would constantly need to have sex with their partners just to satisfy themselves when they're in the mood. And I imagine that's true for women as well. If you constantly suspect your partner of infedility, then there is no trust.

No amount of "evidence" or lack thereof would satisfy the person who is paranoid and suspects you in the relationship. Because they've already established that they clearly can't trust you regardless, so why would you wanna be with them anyway? Ways I see it, if someone's cheating, they probably have a burner phone anyway. You wouldn't find anything on their main phone anyway.

[kbiz]

I think you can find out everything you want to know if you live with someone for two (2) years. When you know her, you don't worry.