Modern Dating, what is it exactly men who aren't 8+ supposed to do? (Venting)

[KingAce]

Below average middle age guy... am I just meant to go die in a ditch? Tinder is a meat market for hook ups for the good looking, Legit dating sites are full of bots and only fans thots... so... what exactly am I supposed to do? hope I live long enough to see Blade runner and Joi become reality? super exciting I may one day get to buy a super expensive hologram that will tell me what I want to hear... Society really ♥♥♥♥♥♥ up. I hate this.

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You can only do one thing and that is make yourself appealing to others. If you feel your face is unattractive, do the best you can to improve your body. Get a 10/10 body by exercising, take skin care seriously, get a good hair cut, if you can grow out a beard and trim it nicely which is basically makeup for men.

Also get some nice clothes, take care of hygiene. Once you get those on-point, you gotta just start cold approaching people, don't worry about rejection, it's all about learning social skills and getting over your fear of rejection. Eventually you'll learn how to interact with people and you might make some friends or even a girl who likes you for you, maybe she's in the same position and just wants love.

I'd also touch up on videos about how to flirt, none of the "Be sigma" videos with a faceless YouTuber hiding behind a picture of a Greek Statue of Zeus or something.

Also it's 2024, you need to get your texting game up. none of that boring "how are you, have you got any siblings, do you like movies?" She's getting hundreds of guys texting the same thing, you need to be memorable.

I literally had the same problem when I left school, I had no friends, I'm lucky to be tall and handsome but I was too autistic and pushed girls away when they approached me. You just have to get out that sub-human gremlin phase and learn to integrate into society and be a normal person.

I'd say gaming is also something you need to quit. For a few years I just deleted all games and focused on myself, now I play like an hour or less here and then but that's only because I can, I have money, I have a social life, I'm not going goblin mode sat at my desk all day in a dark dingy room. Delete those games and get out there man, you're middle aged, you have no time to waste. I was lucky I was in my early 20's for that phase, you're middle aged.

[agu]

If you haven't found the love of your life by the time you're 18 it's over and you should give up on true love.
You need to settle for casual hookups and temporary 3-month relationships. On the bright side, nowadays you don't need love to live a fulfilling life.

[the vampire of time and memory]

Originalmente postado por 󠀡󠀡:

You can only do one thing and that is make yourself appealing to others. If you feel your face is unattractive, do the best you can to improve your body. Get a 10/10 body by exercising, take skin care seriously, get a good hair cut, if you can grow out a beard and trim it nicely which is basically makeup for men.

Also get some nice clothes, take care of hygiene. Once you get those on-point, you gotta just start cold approaching people, don't worry about rejection, it's all about learning social skills and getting over your fear of rejection. Eventually you'll learn how to interact with people and you might make some friends or even a girl who likes you for you, maybe she's in the same position and just wants love.

I'd also touch up on videos about how to flirt, none of the "Be sigma" videos with a faceless YouTuber hiding behind a picture of a Greek Statue of Zeus or something.

Also it's 2024, you need to get your texting game up. none of that boring "how are you, have you got any siblings, do you like movies?" She's getting hundreds of guys texting the same thing, you need to be memorable.

beards really do offer a lot of ways for guys to transform their face

[Andros]

Originalmente postado por XKingBaneX:

Originalmente postado por Andros:

I’m a solid 5 but mentally and put together I’m a solid 9 and I’m married.

It ain’t about looks brother.

Sounds like you benefited from an earlier dating system. refer to the guy going right after my weight.

Not at all I’m 26 yrs old….. I just got married this past year.

I did not read every reply here obviously, sounds like your biggest enemy is yourself and women see that as a big turn off.

Good for you it’s fixable only if you push yourself to fix it.

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Originalmente postado por XKingBaneX:

Originalmente postado por 󠀡󠀡:

You can only do one thing and that is make yourself appealing to others. If you feel your face is unattractive, do the best you can to improve your body. Get a 10/10 body by exercising, take skin care seriously, get a good hair cut, if you can grow out a beard and trim it nicely which is basically makeup for men.

Also get some nice clothes, take care of hygiene. Once you get those on-point, you gotta just start cold approaching people, don't worry about rejection, it's all about learning social skills and getting over your fear of rejection. Eventually you'll learn how to interact with people and you might make some friends or even a girl who likes you for you, maybe she's in the same position and just wants love.

I'd also touch up on videos about how to flirt, none of the "Be sigma" videos with a faceless YouTuber hiding behind a picture of a Greek Statue of Zeus or something.

Also it's 2024, you need to get your texting game up.

women demand perfection, a 6 pack and a butterface aint cutting it anyways.
hair cut? Ive been told I need to go bald, thats another negative.
...
just idk whatever.

They don't, that's some social media echo chamber bs. Sure there's quite a few young girls now days who want a daddy like you described, but they're low quality, you don't want those, there's lots of good women who just want a competent adult like themselves who can pull his weight in a relationship and in the family unit.

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Originalmente postado por XKingBaneX:

Originalmente postado por Andros:

Not at all I’m 26 yrs old….. I just got married this past year.

I did not read every reply here obviously, sounds like you biggest enemy is yourself and women see that as a big turn off.

I may as well give up then, thanks

Don't talk like that with this self defeatist attitude. I know what you're going through, I literally thought I was going to die alone as well. I literally used tho think "My bloodline ends with me".

You just need to fix up your life and you'll be fine.

[Altimely]

Originalmente postado por 󠀡󠀡:

Originalmente postado por XKingBaneX:

I may as well give up then, thanks

Don't talk like that with this self defeatist attitude. I know what you're going through, I literally thought I was going to die alone as well. I literally used tho think "My bloodline ends with me".

You just need to fix up your life and you'll be fine.

Same. The hard truth is that the easier-said-than-done advice of "fix up your life" is the truth.

Want something different? Gotta start doing different things. There interests that you don't know you have, skills you don't know you're capable of, people you don't know you like (or dislike ) but it has to start with you making a change.

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Originalmente postado por XKingBaneX:

Originalmente postado por 󠀡󠀡:

They don't, that's some social media echo chamber bs. Sure there's quite a few young girls now days who want a daddy like you described, but they're low quality, you don't want those, there's lots of good women who just want a competent adult like themselves who can pull his weight in a relationship and in the family unit.

Sure there's quite a few young girls now days who want a daddy like you described, but they're low quality, you don't want those, there's lots of good women who just want a competent adult like themselves who can pull his weight in a relationship and in the family unit

So in other words a single mother with 3 kids. got ya. im good, forget it, ill be forever alone.

That's the attitude that turns women off. I mean adults such as yourself, who want a man who isn't over reliant on her as if she's your mother. You need to be able to take care of your mind, body and spirit. You also need to know how to communicate and listen to her needs. A relationship is a joint effort. If she doesn't pull her weight then she's probably not someone you want to be with.

[Dracoco OwO]

Under good lightning i'm a 9 with a good haircut and short beard hair, you could always try to look better. I'm pretty small as well.

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Originalmente postado por XKingBaneX:

ok thanks everyone, shows over. go home.

I can give you a full guide on self improvement right now and show you the steps I took when i was 19, it will take you a year or two, but it's worth it, no matter how old you are. I'm still in my early 20's and I've basically turned my life around in a bout a year and a half with no money.

Yes you can say "But you're young, you're 211cm tall, you were already decent looking" and all those excuses. What i'd say to that is, I was a single, kiss-less virgin despite all of that. You just have to put effort in.

Like, you say women want a tall handsome man and all that, I'm literally 6'8-6'9, started going gym at 15-16 years old, I still got no girls until 20.

[Dracoco OwO]

Originalmente postado por XKingBaneX:

Originalmente postado por Dracoco OwO:

Under good lightning i'm a 9 with a good haircut and short beard hair, you could always try to look better. I'm pretty small as well.

I'm too fat with a receding hairline. leave me alone

That can still work out, my brother is like that but he keep hooking with girls far younger than him.
Personally i'm not looking that good either and i hate my body, though i'm not really looking to find love, i think you probably should look for a girl that ain't superficial and like you for who you are inside tbh anyways.

[Dracoco OwO]

Originalmente postado por XKingBaneX:

Originalmente postado por Dracoco OwO:

That can still work out, my brother is like that but he keep hooking with girls far younger than him.
Personally i'm not looking that good either and i hate my body, though i'm not really looking to find love, i think you probably should look for a girl that ain't superficial and like you for who you are inside tbh.

So I need to hunt for a ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ unicorn, neato.

Nah you just need to talk to a girl like a normal human being, speak with as much womens as you can and one will end up sticking eventually, they ain't that rare, they might even come over you, you know someone has to like how you look somehow, just try to not be morbidly obese, ok? Cause womens don't want to date dead bodies usually.

You really need to learn how to speak, words is your best weapon there and it's almost always better than looks, plus being confidant in your words is all you need for some womens.

[DoomsDay]

I dont know what to advise you at the moment, I have been having relationship problem myself.
ask yourself what are you looking for before a relation, and find it in this place.

that's how it goes for most relationship that's ever happened, but hey, average facts dont matter here, out here everything is opinion.

so, what's my opinion for your difficulty in finding relationship.
I think, my opinion cant fix it for you.
so, maybe I can say something to elevate the boredom?

for the moment, I have been thinking about the in-house-drive-by, a phrase invented in a lyric.

why am I doing each other with a in house drive by, instead of just have a sit down and talk.

maybe, I should stop commenting from home, it seems like I have been retaliating their in house drive by from my parents' basement.

[Andros]

Originalmente postado por XKingBaneX:

Ok thanks everybody, Nothing can save me, have a nice day.

Yourself is the only thing. If you think you can’t then you can never save yourself.

Good luck.

[agu]

Originalmente postado por XKingBaneX:

Ok thanks everybody, Nothing can save me, have a nice day.

For real, I love off topic advice: Just be yourself, smile and have confidence brah, works for me btw I'm 6'6 and a billionaire :)