Modern Dating, what is it exactly men who aren't 8+ supposed to do? (Venting)

[KingAce]

Below average middle age guy... am I just meant to go die in a ditch? Tinder is a meat market for hook ups for the good looking, Legit dating sites are full of bots and only fans thots... so... what exactly am I supposed to do? hope I live long enough to see Blade runner and Joi become reality? super exciting I may one day get to buy a super expensive hologram that will tell me what I want to hear... Society really ♥♥♥♥♥♥ up. I hate this.

[Original Cast Recording]

Originally posted by XKingBaneX:

Originally posted by Channel_371:

The dating pool has been altered. Some of it is for reasons i won't get into.

But basically the dating pool has widened, however most of it is merely an illusion. People don't know or understand that, so this stops them from feeling content.

Everything we see online is shortened, edited and emphasized, so this really helps build this grand illusion that people subconsciously have.

Yeah maybe leave that abusive pos, but when is anything "good enough"? To many that answer doesn't exist.

Traditionally women are the choosers, men go to them to impress them in some manor. But when you add this new element things become much harder and before you know it both men and women have subconsciously shrunk this supposed massive dating pool. Due to overinflating expectations for the other to perform that aren't remotely realistic.

This is a very well written and thought out post. you're right about alot of things. particularly as we have narrowed the dating pool due to expectations. however the standard I have to meet has become ridiculous. and some things on that list are genetic and cannot be changed. In a simpler time, I'd be weighed by pros and cons, today however you either check the boxes or don't....

In a simpler time? Weighing pros and cons is more complicated than checking boxes.

[YoSoyJosh]

Originally posted by XKingBaneX:

Originally posted by NØNE:

I don't exactly see it as accepting fate, it was about losing co-dependency.

Tomato To-ma-to, It still means accepting what life gave you and not telling it to take it's lemons and suck on them rather than make the lemonade stand you didn't want.

Nah. I think you're pretty in the wrong on this one and I dont argue. Just giving nuggets of real worldism. best of luck

[WarHeRo]

Originally posted by Shiro♌:

Originally posted by WarHeRo:

being workholic is an indicator of ignorance and lack of self respect. no more, no less

It's a matter of priorities.
It can be problem if overdone, but doesn't necessarily have to be.

ya ya ya, if u say so. by definition workholic means u have overdone it. find out for urself. if u think u will be a teen forever u r wrong.

[Abaddon the Despoiler]

The main problem with modern dating is too many 4's think they are 9's.

[the vampire of time and memory]

being a workaholic implies you hate yourself, hating yourself means you are incapable of loving others

[ulia]

Originally posted by XKingBaneX:

2. People suck, on a grand macro scale we ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ suck, is that really a reach?

You claim to hate everyone yet people are desirable enough to date? Conflicting. Have you considered that perhaps this is just a symptom of your negativity loop? A negative environment perpetuates negativity in behavior and thought, and perhaps dwelling on nihilistic generalized worldviews is not ideal when you're in search of a prospect for love.

[Shiro♌]

Originally posted by XKingBaneX:

Originally posted by Shiro♌:

Mhm, that sounds like a problem to me, in regards to how you could keep the partner a company in the future. Some hobbies to share are required for the relationship to bloom.

It's a matter of priorities.
It can be problem if overdone, but doesn't necessarily have to be.

I'd love to share what I enjoyed with someone. maybe that has something to do with why its so dull???

No, that's definitely not it.. If I shall say. I wouldn't see it as any sorta of the obstacle.

Besides what I have mentioned, I can't provide any further advices.
Welp, take care.
See you around.

Originally posted by WarHeRo:

Originally posted by Shiro♌:

It's a matter of priorities.
It can be problem if overdone, but doesn't necessarily have to be.

ya ya ya, if u say so. by definition workholic means u have overdone it. find out for urself. if u think u will be a teen forever u r wrong.

By whose definition?
The way I see it, the general understanding isn't necessarily guaranteed to be tied towards overdoing it, but being close to that and being passionate about the work at the same time.

[WarHeRo]

Originally posted by Shiro♌:

By whose definition?
The way I see it, the general understanding isn't necessarily guaranteed to be tied towards overdoing it, but being close to that and being passionate about the work at the same time.

Originally posted by APA Dictionary of Psychology:

workaholism
n. the compulsive need to work and to do so to an excessive degree. A workaholic is one who has trouble refraining from work. This type of driven overinvolvement in work is often a source of significant stress, interpersonal difficulties, and health problems. Also called ergomania

here u go

[Arvaos]

Try bumble.

It's better than tinder.

The ladies on there are serious.

[the vampire of time and memory]

Originally posted by XKingBaneX:

Originally posted by the vampire of time and memory:

being a workaholic implies you hate yourself, hating yourself means you are incapable of loving others

Nah Just don;t wanna be homeless and it's required of any employer that you bend over and lube yourself up.

idk if we have some crossed wires here but I would not consider someone working hard to survive a workaholic, it's when you choose to drown yourself in work to escape aspects of your life you'd rather avoid that I'd consider you a workaholic

[WarHeRo]

Originally posted by XKingBaneX:

Originally posted by Arvaos:

Try bumble.

It's better than tinder.

The ladies on there are serious.

Tried, never got a single message in 3 months of premium. same for Tinder, minus got like two messages, and one awful date.

how would u rate ur looks out of 10?
does ur monthly income make up for that?

[WarHeRo]

Originally posted by XKingBaneX:

Originally posted by WarHeRo:

how would u rate ur looks out of 10?
does ur monthly income make up for that?

3/10
And I'd imagine I need about 250k a year for a 3/10 so hell no.

if u go for someone that u also see as a 3, then a 60k/year should do it (unless u live in NYC, or other expensive cities). being virgin is also a huge plus especially at ur age. most ladies find that attractive.

[Puggly the Grey]

Well, first off, chur negative and hateful attitude will chase jus aboot any good peeps away.

I has, or had, a great uncle who was quite ugly, but he was also super sweet, thoughtful, and kind. He had a beautiful wife who loved him, she even stayed by his side as the cancer slowly made him perish. So bein’ beautiful on le inside can absolutely offset outward ugliness.

However, some peeps are so broken and useless, dat no one will ever love dem, and no one should ever love dem, cause it’s jus le natural order of fings.

Take me fir example, I has permanent brain damage and 4-5 unrelated mental illnesses at le same time, I’m permanently disabled and utterly useless.

I am, borderline, not even a human bein’, I’m more like a hollow shell dat jus tries to imitate human behavior wifout actually understandin’ it or its meanin’.

The only peeps dat love meh, are my parents and my brudda, no one else does, and dats good, cause no one else should.

Now I don’t know chu, but it’s possible dat chu might be a peep who’s essentially meant to be alone, like me. In which case, I recommend learnin’ how to be happy and at peace wif churself.

Dat, or find a good psychiatrist to diagnose whatever is wrong wif chu, and take legal and prescribed medication until chu can’t feel anyfing anymore.

Edit: Do NOT take more den le recommended dose doh, dat could end really badly.

[WarHeRo]

Originally posted by Puggly the Grey:

my offer is still open. talk normally and i will get u cookies

[Sleepy Yoshi]

What are you bringing to the table? Ok, so you're not attractive, what about good conversation? Do people find you funny? Passionate about anything? Good attitude? Confidence? Are you generally fun to be around?

Like what makes you dateable or even friendship material? You've said you have a job and have no vices. That's great and things I'd want in a significant other, because they're deal breakers. They're not things that make me want to talk to someone or enjoy talking to them either though.