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and follow it up by not trying to get into a relationship, but instead letting them develop over time
/silly
OP, I'd like to give you my 2 cents. Hopefully you won't dismiss it, though of course I would understand if you do.
I'm not an attractive man, at least I don't perceive myself as such. I still remember the day, over 20 year ago, that the girl I had a crush on at the time said to me "your friend is hot, you're not." It still hurts a bit, all these years later.
I'm a married man now, married for the last 10 years to the woman of my dreams. When we first linked up I wasn't in the best place in my life. Hell, I wasn't even employed at the time, just had a decent apartment & some savings. Didn't even have a car at the time. Was in a bit of a slump honestly, and was blogging on Tumblr. Just being myself and showing things I was interested in. For whatever reason, the lady I'm now married to saw my Tumblr and loved it. She creeped on my page for months and when I gave her my number we started texting & calling immediately. She loved my swagger, the way I presented myself, thought I was really cool & funny & smart & sexy & etc., despite me never really seeing myself like that. The 3rd time she flew out to see me I proposed, and the rest is history.
My point is, you don't have to be handsome and rich to get a girl, and you don't have to resort to dating/hook up apps/pick up artistry/whatever. There are beautiful women out there right now that would crawl through barbwire & broken glass just to talk to you and be with you, you just need to put yourself out there in a way that's appealing to them so they can find you. Girls like guys that are fun/funny and that have swagger.
It's hard and rejection sucks of course but I guarantee if you follow what I'm saying and put yourself out there in a way that makes you seem fun and cool and appealing to be around, you will be diving into sweet round bubble cakes in no time.
Some quick tips:
Don't be over eager. Girls don't like that.
Don't love bomb. Don't promptly spill out your life story and relationship woes. Don't put them on a pedestal and treat them extra special. For all intents & purposes you're dealing with a stranger and girls think it's really weird and off putting when guys act like this right out the gate.
Be yourself. Girls like guys that are real and honest, and they can usually sniff it out when a guy is pretending.
Let them come to you. If you're going to message/try to talk to them first, keep it extremely short & sweet and cool.
Be mysterious. Let them wonder about you and how you spend your time.
I understand that you're in a rough spot right now. Girls you might meet don't want to hear about it. I'm not saying that the things you're saying here are what you're saying to girls you're trying to link up with, but if it's anything close, cut that pronto. Again, they want to be around someone fun and cool and comfortable, not a wet blanket/hole of darkness & negativity.
I see people telling you to get a hobby and try to meet a girl like that. That's not really the best advice and I've seen time & again where guys go into a hobby/group with the expectation they're going to meet a girl and promptly develop a full romantic relationship with that girl. That's not realistic and is a set up for failure. If you're going to go with the hobby route, go in with the expectation that you'll have fun and maybe meet some friends who share your hobby & interests. If one of them happens to be a woman you find attractive and things can progress from there, great, but otherwise don't go into it expecting that to be the end result.
My apologies for the lengthy post but Good luck brother, you'll be alright. Feel free to ask any questions, I will answer to the best of my ability.
If THIS is not enough to get through his head we know for sure this is just a troll thread uwu
You read through all that nonsense?
yes because it's not nonsense, he has a solid and more realistic point uwu
Have you tried changing your location to Kenya?
White men are treated like celebrities by African women in Kenya.
Yes, they are looking for someone to take them out of poverty but they are also traditional and raised differently from westerners.
Yes, dating is indeed harder for men because we don't get the benefit of just showing up and judging other's upon their efforts or lack thereof. Despite feminism calling for the abolishing of gender roles, you'll quickly realize that this doesn't pertain to men in most, if not all cases. You still have your own gender roles and even have to adopt the typical gender roles of women by doing your share of house-chores otherwise the relationship isn't "50/50" as if it started on a 50/50 equality. You're still under obligation to initiate contact. You're still expected to pay for all of the dates. It's unfair but it may even out in time as once you're officially dating, she should be expected to pay for stuff, too.
Data shows that a majority of women (usually those under 40, actually) do want to be approached more often than what they are, where a lot of women are pointing out that they are not being approached at all. I think it's a lot easier to meet women than men think, but she isn't going to meet him halfway or do the approaching. That's what confuses a lot of men because they're told that women are equal and so he expects equal treatment but doesn't really get that equality, at least not in the beginning.
Its really your only real hope of finding someone.. so much good advice and info here, really trustworthy.....
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OX5Fcd8syp8&t=6s
Sorry to see a Polish brother dismiss the truth and my own life experiences so easily. Not sure what you found nonsensical about what I said but everything in my post was the truth and hopefully OP can derive some benefit from it.
Thank you
HAHA! I seriously think there are peeps here who give good advice. But OP has to put on his listening ears.