Having an interracial relationship is hard.

[HeroicHeathen]

Having an interracial relationship is hard.
I live in Germany and I tell you that we are facing so many challenges because of this.

Anyone else in the same boat ?

[DOOMGIRL69]

♥♥♥♥ what others think or say, you and your partners happiness is all that should concern you not other peoples hateful words or thoughts.

[Painkilleruk]

ive had a fair few, im british. had a russian partner only issue really was language gets confused in translation
greek, nothing racial issues just drifted apart
italian, she did talk waaaaaay too much like having a life commentary
German girl, certainly no issues there but neither of us wanted to move country.

[Ganger]

Interracial relationships tend too always be frowned upon by many people from all races, colours and classes. It's not as bad as it used to be back in the 80's when I was growing up but even now in 2024 when someone gets together with someone from a difference race, people do like to gossip.

[AlienTestosterone]

I live in Texas and we don't over complicate things.

[SvarogX]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Ganger:

Interracial relationships tend too always be frowned upon by many people from all races, colours and classes. It's not as bad as it used to be back in the 80's when I was growing up but even now in 2024 when someone gets together with someone from a difference race, people do like to gossip.

I am German, my wife is from a Slavic country.

People claim she is only with me for citizenship, what a load of nonsense. I am so fed up with these prejudical judgements by random people who dont even know her or me properly.

[SvarogX]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Painkilleruk:

ive had a fair few, im british. had a russian partner only issue really was language gets confused in translation
greek, nothing racial issues just drifted apart
italian, she did talk waaaaaay too much like having a life commentary
German girl, certainly no issues there but neither of us wanted to move country.

Uhh, seems like a you problem buddy.

[Morkonan]

Oprindeligt skrevet af BlackMamba69:

Oprindeligt skrevet af equine!:

Any chance you could explain what is making it difficult?

Yes.

Basically her parents are being very judgemental about me, her friends generally dislike me due to my heritage and the entire village is looking at us in a very bad way when we cross the streets.

I do not behave any differently than any other normal German local, yet this is happening.

I am more than certain that this is down due to my skin colour and heritage as there have been multiple situations already.
...

This isn't because of your skin color.

This is because of how others are treating you.

There is an important difference here that you need to focus on. Do you see it?


It is often difficult for older people, like parents, to accept what may be "new" changes, especially social ones. They have established what social order and social predictability "is" long ago for themselves. That has been proven as being valid for them more due to chance than design... They have predicted how their child will grow up in such a world and who they will marry as a result. Now, the outside world and human dynamics has intruded upon what they thought, or wished, human society to be.

It is easy to be accepted as "different" in urban settings because being "different" is.. normal. The "different" sorts of people fit right in, since everyone is also... different. So, not everyone looks the same in these more populated urban areas and their languages may differ just as their ethnic backgrounds do. Other things (in general, depending on the overall culture) can often become more remarkable than "color" or multi-racial relationships.

You can only hope for eventual acceptance by the parents. That will only likely come with time and your relationship reinforcing the good things they hope for, even if you're not the color they would have picked. :) Do your best to be the type of person they would be comfortable with their child having a relationship with. Don't put pressure on them for acceptance, but do all you can to encourage it.

As far as those outside the relationship, it's too big a task to take on. :) Only by more occurrences of the same will it be seen as "normal" and a rapid onset of that will be met with alarm. (You can see the reaction of Europeans to a rapid influx of "people that look different" with the waves of Middle Easter immigrants fleeing turmoil, right? Too much, too quickly, causes social unrest.)

I suggest that if you are both adults, you consider moving to an urban area where you may find more broad acceptance.

Note: The wider culture and its imperatives can certainly be a problem if, for instance, it trends towards a mono-ethnic/racial culture. So, if it's firmly rooted in basic values and racial purity... it's going to be hard for you. I don't think Germany is, atm, but I do know there have been more social movements towards that. (Generally, an expected response to the refugee crisis and people fleeing conflict and immigrating, or fleeing to, Germany.)

[Ganger]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Хитмэн:

Oprindeligt skrevet af Ganger:

Interracial relationships tend too always be frowned upon by many people from all races, colours and classes. It's not as bad as it used to be back in the 80's when I was growing up but even now in 2024 when someone gets together with someone from a difference race, people do like to gossip.

I am German, my wife is from a Slavic country.

People claim she is only with me for citizenship, what a load of nonsense. I am so fed up with these prejudical judgements by random people who dont even know her or me properly.

People will also think the worst, it's human nature just like im thinking and about to say below....

Saying that I sometimes wonder what theses 60+ year old british men who are dating and marrying these 30+ year old women with kids from thailand and the philippines is really about.

One guy from work I know, married this thai lady and bought her over to the UK to live here. He is a old man and she is like 30 years younger than him. And he gets sticks stick at work for it.

[Pierce Dalton]

I was taking this seriously until I saw your avatar, and profile summary.

[Raziel]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Pierce Dalton:

I was taking this seriously until I saw your avatar, and profile summary.

It's one of the better baits to be fair, it has some effort in it

[mai72]

Oprindeligt skrevet af BlackMamba69:

Having an interracial relationship is hard.
I live in Germany and I tell you that we are facing so many challenges because of this.

Anyone else in the same boat ?

What nationality is your girl or boyfriend? I lived in Thailand and had a Thai girlfriend. Seems that Asian mixed couples are easier than black mixed. Especially in the states. Still an issue. Which is sad. I lived in NJ. We are progressive, and so not that much of an issue compared to a red state like Alabama I guess.

In Thailand was never an issue. I'd see old men farang with Thai girls half their age all the time. I once saw a 65 year old guy with a 25 year old Thai girl.

[GunsForBucks]

Who cares?

You got the prize of the hot blonde, they are just jealous.

I've been hit with attitude from people for how I look, but in the end you can't control what others think. It is their problem.

[Xautos]

why would a relationship be hard for? the skin tone colour of your partner doesn't mean they are any more or less human than you are. love is love and it's no one elses business that you and your partner fell for each other.