I don't want to be a firefighter.

[Beblokis]

I don't want to be a firefighter.

Basically, I am a fool. Months ago I contacted our local fire departement, wanting to know if I can come by and check out if this is for me.

Due to work and family stuff, I lacked time. So I cancelled.

Now months after, the fire chief somehow found me and engaged with me in a public event. He said I should come by next week to check it out if its for me and so on and on....

I can't be too bothered as I am quite busy with work, studying ,family and so on and on (you know the drill).

But the problem now is, I can't just tell them to fu... off. Basically my landlord, his family is in this departement and the fire chief is basically the father of my sisters child in her kindergarten, there is no way around in this village, to evade this somehow.

Like, what should I do ?

Should I go there an check it out and then talk my way out of it ?

Should I just not come by and ignore everything ? Which however could cause uncomfortable consequences ?

Should I genuinely check it out if it is for me or not ?


My body is kinda f... anyway tbh, after having so many injuries in the past 10 years, yes sure they would still take me but meh...


Get the drift ? The typical :" NO! I dont want to " does not work here nor does the " Yeah, ok I do it " as this would throw me into a role I cant just quit.

[Beblokis]

โพสต์ดั้งเดิมโดย gugnihr:

โพสต์ดั้งเดิมโดย Teiwaz:

Nah.

Training every 2 weeks, like 4-7 misisons a year. Its really not all that hard nor time consuming.

I think I can't use my injuries to talk my way out of this considering some old women serve in there as well, lmao.

No idea what to do... I don't even know if I would like it, what bothers me is that there is no way out. Once I am in I am in, leaving would mean the entire village and influential people would see me in a different light.

You should try it and see if you like it and try it with a positive attitude, if you don't even know if you will like it or not letting those doubts affect your behaviour will only cause troubles to you. I'm sure that if you genuinely try it with genuinely good intentions they will be more willing to listen and understand your reasons if it turns out that it is not for you or if it is not compatible with your situation at work and with your family.
You don't even know if you like it or not, since you are in this situation the best thing for you is todeal with it in a positive way and probably other people will notice that and will be more willing to understand your reasons.

Yeah you are right. I should probably just go there with an open mind, ask honest questions that have caused me to doubt and be positive about it.

Who knows...Maybe its actually a cool thing and helping people does not sound all too bad nor does driving in a fire engine. If they are already this desperate for newcomers, I assume they might be friendly about it all.

[videogames10]

โพสต์ดั้งเดิมโดย Teiwaz:

I don't want to be a firefighter.

Well let's see, what other options do we have...

[AdahnGorion]

Be honest tell you are too busy right now, but might return in years from now if time allows it.

[GunsForBucks]

The big problem is the family ties and even the landlord.

They may act with smiles but you better believe whatever excuse you give them won't be enough.

You said you have had many injuries, that is certainly your problem and issue... but they won't care unless you are missing a limb and they can see it.

Just get away from them.

This is the larger version of moving out of your parents house.

You can choose to stay but be ready to face the consequences.

What is more important? Your life and safety so you can be there for your family or making the town not hate you and treat you badly?

Just tell them you are moving to avoid putting your life in danger and don't want to be treated badly for it and see what they say.

[Beblokis]

โพสต์ดั้งเดิมโดย GunsForBucks:

The big problem is the family ties and even the landlord.

They may act with smiles but you better believe whatever excuse you give them won't be enough.

You said you have had many injuries, that is certainly your problem and issue... but they won't care unless you are missing a limb and they can see it.

Just get away from them.

This is the larger version of moving out of your parents house.

You can choose to stay but be ready to face the consequences.

What is more important? Your life and safety so you can be there for your family or making the town not hate you and treat you badly?

Just tell them you are moving to avoid putting your life in danger and don't want to be treated badly for it and see what they say.

Dude, I would have moved years ago but currently I simply do not have the option to move at all, not financially and not work-wise.
I wanted to move to a city or at least larger town since a long time now but did not manage due to the renting situation in Germany being a complete nightmare.

And it is as you say, they might smile and act as if it is nothing, but its not gonna raise their opinion on me, which is also my concern if I join.

What if I become a firefighter? What if the city pays for all my training, gear and so on and on and then after a year or two I already quit and say, f... that, I dont got the time and interest in that? Then they are going to be a pi...ed off A LOT more to be honest.

I mean, if I move away, whatever, then I dont care what they think anyway. But there is no moving away in sight anytime soon, especially as I am also starting to study for my master while working just now, I am not that young anymore.

[Coinkydink]

The fact that you made this thread shows that you do in fact want to be a firefighter but are still in denial.

I hear the opportunities for attention from women are immense!

[Beblokis]

โพสต์ดั้งเดิมโดย nagu_al:

The fact that you made this thread shows that you do in fact want to be a firefighter but are still in denial.

I hear the opportunities for attention from women are immense!

Bother to explain ?

To be honest, YES, the imagination of driving in a f...ing fire engine with sirenes on and kicking in some door in a burning building are pretty tempting, so is all the cool gear I could handle and the fact that I would get out of my fkn office once in a while.

But I the time investment is scary I assume and the fact that I can't pull out of this once I am in without having serious social consequences is also a red flag.

Plus I might dislike it due to being fat and not fit enough for this. This means I would have to exercise weekly and lose weight also.

But now even my woman is pushing me into this and wants me to become a firefighter chad.


I get that this is many people's dream and in other countries they sweat hard for this just to pass the test and work there, but here basically everyone can do this, like literally, everyone.

[Meister Donut]

โพสต์ดั้งเดิมโดย Teiwaz:

… his family is in this departement and the fire chief is basically the father of my sisters child in her kindergarten …

Oook

[Delta]

You can be a lot more than a firefighter in life.

Get a good education and become a CEO.

[Vince ✟]

This is as simple as telling him you are interested because you are. That's the limit of it though. Get a tour, check it out. Tell him thank you for the info and move on with life. Any sane person would have no issue with this and most assuredly not concern othet family members business practices over it, (ie your landlord).

Just be an honest person. You had interest. That's as far as it went.

[Dracoco OwO]

I'd consider being honest and talk your way out of it at least in ways that you are actually pretty busy right now and you can't really dedicate your time to be a proper fire fighter or something along those lines.

[steven1mac]

If God didn't want you to be a fireman he wouldn't of gave you a fire hose.

[SvarogX]

โพสต์ดั้งเดิมโดย Teiwaz:

I don't want to be a firefighter.

Basically, I am a fool. Months ago I contacted our local fire departement, wanting to know if I can come by and check out if this is for me.

Due to work and family stuff, I lacked time. So I cancelled.

Now months after, the fire chief somehow found me and engaged with me in a public event. He said I should come by next week to check it out if its for me and so on and on....

I can't be too bothered as I am quite busy with work, studying ,family and so on and on (you know the drill).

But the problem now is, I can't just tell them to fu... off. Basically my landlord, his family is in this departement and the fire chief is basically the father of my sisters child in her kindergarten, there is no way around in this village, to evade this somehow.

Like, what should I do ?

Should I go there an check it out and then talk my way out of it ?

Should I just not come by and ignore everything ? Which however could cause uncomfortable consequences ?

Should I genuinely check it out if it is for me or not ?


My body is kinda f... anyway tbh, after having so many injuries in the past 10 years, yes sure they would still take me but meh...


Get the drift ? The typical :" NO! I dont want to " does not work here nor does the " Yeah, ok I do it " as this would throw me into a role I cant just quit.

I responded to your German thread, but I will also briefly respond on here.

In a nut shell, you gotta go for it and try. You will never find out if you like it or not and if you can manage physically and time wise if you are not even trying.

I get that its uncomfortable at first, presenting yourself to a big group of people that know each other well and are mostly real " men's men " but I think that its necessary.

In my opinion, a human can NOT improve and become better without leaving his comfort zone, I mean when did we ever get better or improved at anything ever without leaving our comfort zone ?

No one likes to go and sit an exam in college, but its necessary to get your degree.

When has anyone ever gained a shredded body without hard work and a disciplined diet ?

When has anyone ever received their dream job position without learning and hard work ?

When has anyone ever found a partner they love and got into a relationship without making some step out of their comfort zone ?


Life is all about doing that uncomfortable stuff to grow bigger and better.

Also, no one there will blame you if you drop out or withdraw from it...they all know how hard it is and understand you if you leave, if you have proper reasons.

At the end of the day, we only get older and grow less and less healthy, NOW is the best time. Just go for it and if you dislike it, then fk them and just leave.

[Ȼħⱥꞥꞥēł8753452]

โพสต์ดั้งเดิมโดย Teiwaz:

I don't want to be a firefighter.

Basically, I am a fool. Months ago I contacted our local fire departement, wanting to know if I can come by and check out if this is for me.

Due to work and family stuff, I lacked time. So I cancelled.

Now months after, the fire chief somehow found me and engaged with me in a public event. He said I should come by next week to check it out if its for me and so on and on....

I can't be too bothered as I am quite busy with work, studying ,family and so on and on (you know the drill).

But the problem now is, I can't just tell them to fu... off. Basically my landlord, his family is in this departement and the fire chief is basically the father of my sisters child in her kindergarten, there is no way around in this village, to evade this somehow.

Like, what should I do ?

Should I go there an check it out and then talk my way out of it ?

Should I just not come by and ignore everything ? Which however could cause uncomfortable consequences ?

Should I genuinely check it out if it is for me or not ?


My body is kinda f... anyway tbh, after having so many injuries in the past 10 years, yes sure they would still take me but meh...


Get the drift ? The typical :" NO! I dont want to " does not work here nor does the " Yeah, ok I do it " as this would throw me into a role I cant just quit.

We will never leave you alone
You WILL become a firefighter
We are always watching

[Hobbit XIII]

โพสต์ดั้งเดิมโดย Teiwaz:

I don't want to be a firefighter.

Basically, I am a fool. Months ago I contacted our local fire departement, wanting to know if I can come by and check out if this is for me.

Due to work and family stuff, I lacked time. So I cancelled.

Now months after, the fire chief somehow found me and engaged with me in a public event. He said I should come by next week to check it out if its for me and so on and on....

I can't be too bothered as I am quite busy with work, studying ,family and so on and on (you know the drill).

But the problem now is, I can't just tell them to fu... off. Basically my landlord, his family is in this departement and the fire chief is basically the father of my sisters child in her kindergarten, there is no way around in this village, to evade this somehow.

Like, what should I do ?

Should I go there an check it out and then talk my way out of it ?

Should I just not come by and ignore everything ? Which however could cause uncomfortable consequences ?

Should I genuinely check it out if it is for me or not ?


My body is kinda f... anyway tbh, after having so many injuries in the past 10 years, yes sure they would still take me but meh...


Get the drift ? The typical :" NO! I dont want to " does not work here nor does the " Yeah, ok I do it " as this would throw me into a role I cant just quit.

go to the thing, be enthusiastic.

Give whatever is being shown a go. Like team up on the hose or ran around etc etc i dont know what they will be doing at the show.

Then if it isn't already clear enough you might be struggling with anything physical, ask any advice on how they suppress pain / whatever your ailments are.

If you are not struggling, and it looks like this is a juiced in situation it could only do good things for you in the future. (just don't go all 'Brad Pitt BackDraft' movie ) .