What is maturity?

[76561199635944782]

The way I see it, quite a lot of users here seem to have very strange ideas about this. Maybe it is a good idea to give it some attention.

What I think is a sign of maturity is when you can discuss things, it can be triggering, it might even get a bit "hot", and the discussion does not completely derail and end with people hating each other. Some users I have met are like this, and I respect that.

Another thing is when you know when to let something go. It happens all the time that I announce to leave the conversation, and the other person will keep going and try to provoke me into responding. That's immature.

If I block you, it is mostly because of this. I can deal with other standpoints. But speaking with immature people is a waste of time, it is frustrating and it is exhausting.

[permanent name]

spaghetti in your pants and proud of it.

[Mina]

A calm and understanding mind, reasonable when needed

[Chaosolous]

I mean, it's entirely subjective and there is no answer.

[Painkilleruk]

most people are immature or act more like it online, I know because I do. In RL i am still weird but also very professional and normal.
Maturity is knowing when and when not to react or do something, ability to be calm in the hardest situations, a mind that can process without emotional drag factors. To take responsibilities on, look at the world differently.

[76561199635944782]

Publicado originalmente por Chaosolous:

I mean, it's entirely subjective and there is no answer.

You are actually one of the people I had in mind. We can clash a bit, and a bit later we can interact normally. That's nice.

[76561199635944782]

Publicado originalmente por Murderbrat:

You could start with getting a job

That has nothing to do at all with what I call maturity. What you are saying is about being a civilian.

[Cinnamoon_dragon]

* Emotional control (rethinking a challenging situation to reduce anger or anxiety, hiding visible signs of sadness or fear, or focusing on reasons to feel happy or calm)
* Self-sufficiency

[76561199689177033]

Publicado originalmente por ghost:

The way I see it, ...

This is impossible to explain in a way that you could understand. Maybe in 10 years.

[Triple G]

Publicado originalmente por ghost:

Another thing is when you know when to let something go. It happens all the time that I announce to leave the conversation, and the other person will keep going and try to provoke me into responding. That's immature.

I talked two times to You. One time we had the same opinion, and the other time You would say goodbye - but still post 2 after comments after it. Imho it´s immature to call "being inconsequential" "provoking me into responding".


Topic:
Maturity means You don´t let Yourself provoke into something.

[76561199723811215]

Publicado originalmente por Mina:

A calm and understanding mind, reasonable when needed

This might be one of the things I see others say, and which I disagree with. There's such a thing as temperament. Some people shout at each other a lot and it's just how they interact. It doesn't necessarily mean things have gone off the rails. Avoiding emotions at all costs is not mature.

[Chaosolous]

From my world view it has a lot to do with keeping your ego in check; especially during debate.

[Rain't]

Publicado originalmente por ghost:

The way I see it, quite a lot of users here seem to have very strange ideas about this. Maybe it is a good idea to give it some attention.

What I think is a sign of maturity is when you can discuss things, it can be triggering, it might even get a bit "hot", and the discussion does not completely derail and end with people hating each other. Some users I have met are like this, and I respect that.

Another thing is when you know when to let something go. It happens all the time that I announce to leave the conversation, and the other person will keep going and try to provoke me into responding. That's immature.

If I block you, it is mostly because of this. I can deal with other standpoints. But speaking with immature people is a waste of time, it is frustrating and it is exhausting.

A lot of these people think that being the last one to speak means they're the "victor". Unfortunately usually a product of a bad childhood with abusive parents

[76561199723811215]

Publicado originalmente por Trance ☀️ Gemini:

Publicado originalmente por ghost:

The way I see it, ...

This is impossible to explain in a way that you could understand. Maybe in 10 years.

Ladies and gentlemen, here you see a perfect illustration of immaturity. Maybe this comment of mine is an example too! I got baited by it!

[Thadeus]

Being mature = being boring

Nutjobs and losers get away with things because the other people prefer to be mature and walk way rather than confront and check them.

The most interesting people are not mature.

[76561199723811215]

Publicado originalmente por Triple G:

Publicado originalmente por ghost:

Another thing is when you know when to let something go. It happens all the time that I announce to leave the conversation, and the other person will keep going and try to provoke me into responding. That's immature.

I talked two times to You. One time we had the same opinion, and the other time You would say goodbye - but still post 2 after comments after it. Imho it´s immature to call "being inconsequential" "provoking me into responding".


Topic:
Maturity means You don´t let Yourself provoke into something.

Did you feel addressed by what I said or something? I wasn't thinking about you, don't worry. You seem relatively mature to me.