My gf said she doesn't want anything for valentine's day

[druuu]

What does she mean by this? Am I in trouble if I don't get her anything?

[Dutchgamer1982]

I don't do valentine...
christians should not do valentine..
(I can share an article why not) but basicly it's like halloween a highly pagan tradition that christians should not involve themselves with,

I do romantic stuff all the time when i am in a relationship including making sure I remember stuff like the date of first date, first kiss, and such...

woman like romantism. and spontanism.
just buying her an expensive item cause it's a certain day.. won't do it.

let me say when I once was hurt by a girl and walked out and while crying picked a wildflower boquet.. and layed that silently next to her... when I returned....

the fiance of a friend present said to that friend "wow you NEVER gave me anything like that"
-> to which he reminded her he had recently bought her a boquet of over 200 euro..

he just did not get how woman work that friend.

1 woman don't look at the size of the the gift but the freqency.. 1 little gift is +1 point 1 massive one also just +1 point.
while everything you annoy her with or when you was not there also looses you point.

you aint making up for many mistakes with 1 big gesture..

2 woman value sentiment.. they want to see effort.. price is of little influence (ofcourse if they know you suffered deeply to save up for this.. than it may have value cause of price.. but than it's that sacrifice thats the true gift.,. not the price of the item...
and it should than more be like "\It was the perfect gift (originality, showing you know her" followed by so I saved for it... not just "it was expensive so it was good"


things I did as gift that were very well recieved :

1 a than girlfriend had a obsidian neckless from a grandmother she loved very much but that was broken.. I stole it without her knowing.. brought ti a jewelshop.. had it fixed.. found some antique armlet that perfectly matched it somewhere (pre internet so quite a feat to find it.. in fact it was seeing it what gave me the idea for all this) than I asked the store to place her neckless in the armlets box.. and hand me the armlet..
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I placed the armlet back in her jewelbox again without her knowing.. than just a normal day.. nothing special.. I cooked nice (it was my turn to cook I was earlier back from college than she from her work that day).. I made something nicer than usually lighted a few candles.. nothing too special.. and at the end.. I placed the present next to her desert.. (it was a covered desert.. she had to open it up)

so she opened.. and was surprised.. a gift?? than.. as she opened it.. she was like my grandmothers neckless you had it fixed??? wow I not even knew it was missing.. I never would have allowed you to take it had I know... but wow...
shall I put it on?
me : I suggest you for now put it back in your box..
(she kept pressing me helping her put it on.. so I eventually did... delaying the other surprise.. (plans sometimes not go as planned)

eventually I left for home.. and some time later.. I got a phonecall.... she as expected took off her neckless put it in her case.. and found the armlet I planet there;)..
"why didn't you say something"
me : hey you kept wanting to put it on;)

THATS the kind of stuff woman like..
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another one than :

give a box of candy... like candies she likes..
even better if it takes efford.. like only the white hearts from a bag of mixed coloured hearts.. and than place two red ones on top with your and her names...
1000 bags of m&ms just to pick out the color she likes.. works too...
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if you can find a box in a shape or decated in a way she likes.. even better.

you than buy a small piece of jewelry.. a small silver neckless or ring.. just everyday piece <100 euro.. nothing too fancy.. just nice to wear..
you place that small item wrapped up.. in the bottom of the box of candy...

tell nothing... she likely takes months to eat up the box of candy:)

the girl I did this with did not find the present for 4 months and even than cause her no good brother had found, stolen and eaten halve her box of candy...

lets say.. I got a very happy phonecall;)

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It sometimes can be a catch 22.

[Dutchgamer1982]

I can tell many more such idea's.. and can make up 1000 more...
like I said I am a romantic..

[druuu]

Triple G původně napsal:

Triple G původně napsal:

Don´t forget to report back how it worked out.

I mentioned we would be seeing each other this weekend, because we both had work until late this week. Patience, please!

[Triple G]

druuu původně napsal:

I mentioned we would be seeing each other this weekend, because we both had work until late this week. Patience, please!

Hmm. Haven´t read that, and thought working until late meant that You wouldn´t go out after it, and rather stay at home together. Hadn´t expected that You don´t see each other on valentines day, when it was about a gift for it. :o)

I just saw the other valentines day thread and thought about it...

Have a nice day though - and dutchgamer also gave a couple of helpful tips i guess, which otherwise wouldn´t have happened. ;o)

[Delta]

Maybe she's a minimalist? My sister's husband wears the same tshirt everyday and he believes in minimalism.

[druuu]

Triple G původně napsal:

druuu původně napsal:

I mentioned we would be seeing each other this weekend, because we both had work until late this week. Patience, please!

Hmm. Haven´t read that, and thought working until late meant that You wouldn´t go out after it, and rather stay at home together. Hadn´t expected that You don´t see each other on valentines day, when it was about a gift for it. :o)

I just saw the other valentines day thread and thought about it...

Have a nice day though - and dutchgamer also gave a couple of helpful tips i guess, which otherwise wouldn´t have happened. ;o)

Yeah it kinda sucks but we both work until 11pm so not much we could do to get together.
Even better because the date itself means nothing to us. I prefer to see her on the weekends.

[Delta]

druuu původně napsal:

Triple G původně napsal:

Hmm. Haven´t read that, and thought working until late meant that You wouldn´t go out after it, and rather stay at home together. Hadn´t expected that You don´t see each other on valentines day, when it was about a gift for it. :o)

I just saw the other valentines day thread and thought about it...

Have a nice day though - and dutchgamer also gave a couple of helpful tips i guess, which otherwise wouldn´t have happened. ;o)

Yeah it kinda sucks but we both work until 11pm so not much we could do to get together.
Even better because the date itself means nothing to us. I prefer to see her on the weekends.

Who cares about dating? I'm in my late 30's and I've never had a girlfriend before.

[druuu]

Delta (EB) původně napsal:

druuu původně napsal:

Yeah it kinda sucks but we both work until 11pm so not much we could do to get together.
Even better because the date itself means nothing to us. I prefer to see her on the weekends.

Who cares about dating? I'm in my late 30's and I've never had a girlfriend before.

Your opinion is quite literally irrelevant.

[Good Night Owl]

I would get her something anyway. But to be safe, make sure it's expirable like flowers. Not another thing to take up space

[AlienTestosterone]

It's over.

[-V-]

Bring something anyway. Doesn't have to be big. Mine brought home a croissant ❤️ (a REAL croissant! from a patisserie!) I got him a new Dune T-shirt. We didn't talk about it, we just did it.

[Delta]

druuu původně napsal:

Delta (EB) původně napsal:

Who cares about dating? I'm in my late 30's and I've never had a girlfriend before.

Your opinion is quite literally irrelevant.

why? i'm christian.

[ImSoCool599]

Swap phones

[druuu]

Triple G původně napsal:

druuu původně napsal:

I mentioned we would be seeing each other this weekend, because we both had work until late this week. Patience, please!

Hmm. Haven´t read that, and thought working until late meant that You wouldn´t go out after it, and rather stay at home together. Hadn´t expected that You don´t see each other on valentines day, when it was about a gift for it. :o)

I just saw the other valentines day thread and thought about it...

Have a nice day though - and dutchgamer also gave a couple of helpful tips i guess, which otherwise wouldn´t have happened. ;o)

Only replying because of you, otherwise I'd let this thread go. We saw each other this weekend, I got her a nice small gift, something she can actually use so it didn't feel like I just threw away money. She was happy and grateful, we had a great time together and didn't really talk much about the gift itself or the Valentine's day because such things aren't important to us. Dates don't mean anything.