Why are divorce rates so high these days?

[Arvaos]

Why are the divorce rates so high these days?

The IFS did a study and found that a higher number of sexual partners previous to marriage correlates with a higher divorce rate.

Women with 10 or more partners were the most likely to divorce, but this only became true in recent years;
Women with 3-9 partners were less likely to divorce than women with 2 partners; and,
Women with 0-1 partners were the least likely to divorce.

Source
https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability

Why do you think the divorce rates are higher than the previous generations?

[Vox]

Because some marriages don't work, that's all.

[Kapitein Gnapmans]

No ♥♥♥♥ Sherlock. I'm grateful to the science people who put in all this effort to finally prove to us once and for all that water is wet. I was getting kinda tired of the endless debates.

[Arvaos]

引用自 Vox：

Because some marriages don't work, that's all.

But what's the social study and science behind it?

[Chaosolous]

People change as they grow older; the odds of two people changing in exactly the same way to maintain a relationship over a lifetime is probably pretty slim.

The longer you're together the more likely it is your views and opinions will shift away from each other.

[potato]

引用自 loerepoot：

No ♥♥♥♥ Sherlock. I'm grateful to the science people who put in all this effort to finally prove to us once and for all that water is wet. I was getting kinda tired of the endless debates.

actually wet is not a property of water

[Raelic]

Because only one side is punished in divorces. It's not always men, but disproportionately it is. But either way... if one person is punished only, the other person is incentivized to get divorces.

There's no incentive to repair and stay in relationships.

And unlike decades ago... we can no longer act like we own each other like they did in the past. Men would act like they owned their wives. I don't want to do that.

So if a woman wants a divorce. Go. Why would I want to even try to keep you? You get one life. Go live your best and good luck.

[Kapitein Gnapmans]

引用自 potato：

引用自 loerepoot：

No ♥♥♥♥ Sherlock. I'm grateful to the science people who put in all this effort to finally prove to us once and for all that water is wet. I was getting kinda tired of the endless debates.

actually wet is not a property of water

I knew someone was going to say that

[Vox]

引用自 Arvaos：

引用自 Vox：

Because some marriages don't work, that's all.

But what's the social study and science behind it?

Doesn't need to be any study, relationships break down, that's all.

[Arvaos]

引用自 Vox：

引用自 Arvaos：

But what's the social study and science behind it?

Doesn't need to be any study, relationships break down, that's all.

But why do they break down at a higher rate when the woman has had a higher number of sexual partners in the past?

[The Commendatore]

引用自 Arvaos：

引用自 Vox：

Doesn't need to be any study, relationships break down, that's all.

But why do they break down at a higher rate when the woman has had a higher number of sexual partners in the past?

Who cares? They break down, it happens, big deal.

[Shiro♌]

引用自 Chaosolous：

People change as they grow older; the odds of two people changing in exactly the same way to maintain a relationship over a lifetime is probably pretty slim.

The longer you're together the more likely it is your views and opinions will shift away from each other.

While I agree with that, it should be the other way around, no?
If they love each other, all the different opinions shall be tolerated or changed to favour one of the partners more without the other partner taking it personally.
As in.. That the more time they've spent together, the more acustomed they're to each other and so the less likely they're to divorce.

The problem is, most people are used to just.. Complain to get out of tough situations.
If there would've been things forcing people to stick together and attempt to respect each other just like X tenths of years ago, then there woulda been no reason to divorce.
Besides that, I see nothing OK with divorcing the person with whom they've been for X tenths of years just because one has convinced themself that they're not doing fine at all with them.. Just because they've had a bad day or negative experiences as of late.
That's what partners are for aswell, aren't they.. To offer each other a shoulder for cry, the necessary comfort and trust to share all the stuff they're being bothered by..

It's as if the people nowadays have prefered making things up instead of being honest, resulting in X divorces instead of sticking together until the end.

[Arvaos]

引用自 The Commendatore：

引用自 Arvaos：

But why do they break down at a higher rate when the woman has had a higher number of sexual partners in the past?

Who cares? They break down, it happens, big deal.

You don't care about the factors behind broken homes and marriages?

I'm sure you won't shrug it off and say "it happens" when it actually happens to you.

[Chaosolous]

引用自 Shiro♌：

引用自 Chaosolous：

People change as they grow older; the odds of two people changing in exactly the same way to maintain a relationship over a lifetime is probably pretty slim.

The longer you're together the more likely it is your views and opinions will shift away from each other.

While I agree with that, it should be the other way around, no?
If they love each other, all the different opinions shall be tolerated or changed to favour one of the partners more without the other partner taking it personally.
As in.. That the more time they've spent together, the more acustomed they're to each other and so the less likely they're to divorce.

The problem is, most people are used to just.. Complain to get out of tough situations.
If there would've been things forcing people to stick together and attempt to respect each other just like X tenths of years ago, then there woulda been no reason to divorce.
Besides that, I see nothing OK with divorcing the person with whom they've been for X tenths of years just because one has convinced themself that they're not doing fine at all with them.. Just because they've had a bad day or negative experiences as of late.
That's what partners are for aswell, aren't they.. To offer each other a shoulder for cry, the necessary comfort and trust to share all the stuff they're being bothered by..

It's as if the people nowadays have prefered making things up instead of being honest, resulting in X divorces instead of sticking together until the end.

The foundation of the relationship and the mentality towards marriage as a whole by the couple will be a defining factor.

I was over simplifying for the sake of time.

I don't believe enough relationships are built on solid enough foundational ideologies to withstand or weather the changes.

[Vox]

引用自 Arvaos：

引用自 The Commendatore：

Who cares? They break down, it happens, big deal.

You don't care about the factors behind broken homes and marriages?

I'm sure you won't shrug it off and say "it happens" when it actually happens to you.

Why have you got some weird obsession about how many partners a woman had?

[Shiro♌]

引用自 Chaosolous：

引用自 Shiro♌：

While I agree with that, it should be the other way around, no?
If they love each other, all the different opinions shall be tolerated or changed to favour one of the partners more without the other partner taking it personally.
As in.. That the more time they've spent together, the more acustomed they're to each other and so the less likely they're to divorce.

The problem is, most people are used to just.. Complain to get out of tough situations.
If there would've been things forcing people to stick together and attempt to respect each other just like X tenths of years ago, then there woulda been no reason to divorce.
Besides that, I see nothing OK with divorcing the person with whom they've been for X tenths of years just because one has convinced themself that they're not doing fine at all with them.. Just because they've had a bad day or negative experiences as of late.
That's what partners are for aswell, aren't they.. To offer each other a shoulder for cry, the necessary comfort and trust to share all the stuff they're being bothered by..

It's as if the people nowadays have prefered making things up instead of being honest, resulting in X divorces instead of sticking together until the end.

The foundation of the relationship and the mentality towards marriage as a whole by the couple will be a defining factor.

I was over simplifying for the sake of time.

I don't believe enough relationships are built on solid enough foundational ideologies to withstand or weather the changes.

Mhm, I do agree with everything you've replied with, and have nothing I would've liked to add.