Do steam users these days not understand the concept of friendship?

[Witch]

if you look at my profile you can see that I have a lot of friends, but in actuality I only talk to about 10% of them, and im probably gonna be cleaning my list soon because guess what: most of these people dont really talk to me, they added me because i said one funny thing in a chat or just because they like one of my artworks and whatnot.

The only common interactions i get with these types of people are either none or they just invite me out of nowhere for a game and don't say anything more, as if im part of their personal army and must drop whatever im doing just to go assist them in game without questions asked.

It seems that many people don't understand what it means to be friends with someone, and instead add them just for their personal gain and nothing more. What do you think?

[Vinz Clortho]

That's how all social media works

[ktulu84]

Thats why I only keep people i know in my friendlist. Being friends with people that you dont have history is kinda weird, some people usually just add people just to have big friendlists

[Tito Shivan]

Publicado originalmente por Coeur de Bouddha:

That's how all social media works

Social media washed out the meaning of 'friend' over the internet. Friendlists are basically renamed contact lists.

Publicado originalmente por Witch:

It seems that many people don't understand what it means to be friends with someone, and instead add them just for their personal gain and nothing more.

Not like social sites haven't turned having as many 'friends' as one could into a competition. A stat that must be min-maxed.

[LeviathanWon]

They are digital friends. I am really grateful to be connected to the internet... the electronics... the people who write code....

At the end of the day, it's only good for education and stimulate for negative emotions.

I am not interested in digital friends anymore, you are really great and if we meet somewhere where we have a common goal, in a game, in an online "sport" I am grateful have helped you or have you helped me.

[LeviathanWon]

Social media is misused, it's for people who live in large cites (large population places are the most lonely places) who are lonely, for University students.

Don't use social media anymore, call your friends, go on a trip together... go somewhere social in person, enjoy something together.

[Xautos]

i have no use for this thing called a "friend", a typical friend is one who stabs you in the back when it suits them or they disappear on you after a while. a true friend is a different matter, and you sure as hell won't find one of those exclusively over the internet.

[SolarPlexusClownGliders]

This is why I only have 3 people on my friends list that I genuinely talk to/know IRL, and yet I still get flamed for having a small friends list by people who have 100+ friends that they didn't even share a single word with.

[Witch]

Publicado originalmente por Tito Shivan:

Publicado originalmente por Witch:

It seems that many people don't understand what it means to be friends with someone, and instead add them just for their personal gain and nothing more.

Not like social sites haven't turned having as many 'friends' as one could into a competition. A stat that must be min-maxed.

Why? whats the point...

[PinkPanzer]

Publicado originalmente por LeviathanWon:

Social media is misused, it's for people who live in large cites (large population places are the most lonely places) who are lonely, for University students.

Don't use social media anymore, call your friends, go on a trip together... go somewhere social in person, enjoy something together.

This, so much this. Social media has done much harm to our capability to interact with each other and provided authority to fools who in real life are nothing more than a Jabba the Hutt on a keyboard and wearing a purple wig.

[Tonepoet]

Seems like you don't understand the concept of friendship much yourself. It sounds like you're the dude who's always too busy for poker night, sunday night football, dinner invites and tea parties and wondering why you haven't gotten to know any of your neighbors in the past 10 years since you've moved into the neighborhood.

An invitation to play a game together is something you're free to decline, but in so declining you need to understand that you are refusing an given opportunity to interact with the person in a way that may help build up the rapport you're expecting. There aren't very many opportunities to provide genuine help to other people online. Joining up to play video games are one of the few. It's also one of the few things you can use to break the ice and discuss something you share in common. What else are they supposed to do? Ask about the weather?

Now personally, I don't socialize much myself, but I'm not blaming other people for it.

[Witch]

Publicado originalmente por Tonepoet:

Seems like you don't understand the concept of friendship much yourself. It sounds like you're the dude who's always too busy for poker night, sunday night football, dinner invites and tea parties and wondering why you haven't gotten to know any of your neighbors in the past 10 years.

An invitation to play a game together is something you're free to decline, but in so declining you need to understand that you are refusing an given opportunity to interact with the person in a way that may help build up the rapport you're expecting. There aren't very many opportunities to provide genuine help to other people online. Joining up to play video games are one of the few. It's also one of the few things you can use to break the ice and discuss something you share in common.

Oh I've joined games from people who first "interact" with me by inviting me to a game without saying anything or asking if I wanted to join. They usually played silently, even when I talked, and even when we did have a conversation they ended up forgetting me completely afterwards.

I don't consider people who add me out of nowhere and never say a word even when inviting me to a game worth a shot. I go with people who atleast say "hi" and ask me if i wanna play something a try, because atleast those people show some capacity of talking instead of being awkwardly silent all the time

[Morkonan]

Publicado originalmente por Witch:

if you look at my profile you can see that I have a lot of friends, but in actuality I only talk to about 10% of them, and im probably gonna be cleaning my list soon because guess what: most of these people dont really talk to me, they added me because i said one funny thing in a chat or just because they like one of my artworks and whatnot.

The only common interactions i get with these types of people are either none or they just invite me out of nowhere for a game and don't say anything more, as if im part of their personal army and must drop whatever im doing just to go assist them in game without questions asked.

It seems that many people don't understand what it means to be friends with someone, and instead add them just for their personal gain and nothing more. What do you think?

They added you because you said something funny? They invite you to play games with them, then don't interact with you very much. But, they seem insistent, demanding you to come online?

You sound like you're a sit-com on the television that people just keep on for background noise at home...

That's not "Friends."


A "friend" like this, that just tags, invites, joins an online group, etc.. Well, that may have the word "Friend" attached to it, but it's more like joining a gaming group, a "clan," a "guild" in some MMO game. These people are just associated with a common experience, nothing more. That doesn't mean that people can't become true, real-life, friends who first got to know each other online. But, until that would actually happen... they're not necessarily what it says on the label, "Friend." They share a similar interest in some shared experience and enjoy, one assumes, interacting with each other within that experience. That's it.

I think that everyone involved may be expecting a bit too much.

Understand that if you have, let's say, thirty-five "Steam Friends" and if each one of them only played a game twice a week, but invited you to play with them each time, that's... ten invites a day. They're not playing a lot and not being annoying individually. You just happen to have thirty-five "Steam Friends" that want to play games with you...

People invite/click on "Friends" so very easily, these days. But, it's more like they're treating someone like a Youtube channel... "Like and Subscribe!"

You are entertainment. You' are "Steam DLC." "Friend" is just a tag, a "Like and Subscribe." People click and add "Friends" like they're collecting points. They may interact with them just like some funny Youtube channel they watch for a few minutes a week, if that.

So, yeah - You got some people to "Like and Subscribe." So, expect those kinds of results.

Don't think of "Steam Friends" as "real-life friends" until you truly, really, get to know them. Even then, to be honest, it's not quite the same as having a "real life" "Friend."

Don't put to much in the way of expectations beyond sharing a gaming experience, now and then, with someone you've interacted with before.

[Froggo Cookies]

no they don't 😭

Even my Roblox friends are better bro, we atleast talk in a gc-

[Witch]

Publicado originalmente por Morkonan:

Publicado originalmente por Witch:

if you look at my profile you can see that I have a lot of friends, but in actuality I only talk to about 10% of them, and im probably gonna be cleaning my list soon because guess what: most of these people dont really talk to me, they added me because i said one funny thing in a chat or just because they like one of my artworks and whatnot.

The only common interactions i get with these types of people are either none or they just invite me out of nowhere for a game and don't say anything more, as if im part of their personal army and must drop whatever im doing just to go assist them in game without questions asked.

It seems that many people don't understand what it means to be friends with someone, and instead add them just for their personal gain and nothing more. What do you think?

They added you because you said something funny? They invite you to play games with them, then don't interact with you very much. But, they seem insistent, demanding you to come online?

You sound like you're a sit-com on the television that people just keep on for background noise at home...

My wording may have made it seem like i constantly get spammed by invites, but in actuality I more often get radio silence from people who add me for the littlest thing.

[Good Night Owl]

Yeah, friend lists has never automatically meant friend to me. I'll add some people to it, but they can be an acquaintance just as likely.