Are you clingy. :: Off Topic

Candyy 25 May 2024 @ 12:28

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Shlim Sady 25 May 2024 @ 12:30

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I need a partner-in-crime, I think.
I feel like that's too much of a fantasy. I respect it though. Anything is possible.

Nah, I also have an ex who was the closest thing to that. Loved her because she was just as neurotic as me.

We were enjoying our night- drove to the top very top of a parking garage to share a cigar we bought. For context- I always kept a length of tow-chain with a hook on the end, and a crowbar in my backseat. As we were up there, on the hood of my car looking at the stars and moon, swapping the cigar, there was another couple on the far adjacent end. They were both practising tricks on one board, and occasionally we'd cheer when they landed their kick-flips. They'd cheer back, it was friendly and light.

Till, another group of 6 people showed up. They were all flying colours- local gang here- but I won't doxx them or myself due to the location. Either way, they went and started harassing the other group. We watched from a far because these things usually were just bored kids showboating. Ego checks, gorillas pounding their chests, that sorta thing. Turn physical within minutes. One of the larger group pushed the guy while he was trying to land a trick. The guy in turn, picked up his skateboard and held it over his head like he was gonna crack a skull.

Without missing a beat- my girl, opens up the backdoor of my car, grabs the crowbar and length of chain, tosses both at me, and pulls out her own knife. Hardest I've ever been.

Long story short- I'm not stranger to a fight, and having weapons definitely helped. We ended up getting maced/pepper-sprayed because they couldn't take us 4 even on a 4v6. One of them was bleeding profusely, another had to be dragged because of their knee. The others were bruised, one had a few broken ribs I think. All of us 4 were relatively unharmed- the skateboarder's chick had asthma though, so I had to rush all 4 of us to the ER- trying to drive with pepper-spray in my eyes.

She got attention, skateboarder stayed with her, and my girl and I took-off. When we finally got home, we showered, taking turns pouring milk in each others eyes, and then we had the best sex of* our lives.

We only ended up breaking up because of her moving. She went to China because one of her parents work- too far for a LDR. Plus, we both knew that I couldn't immigrate there, and she couldn't stay here. We decided to say farewell.

There's someone for everyone. Now, I'm so different I often wonder if she'd recognise me. Maybe she's different, too. Who knows.

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Shlim Sady 25 May 2024 @ 12:41

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There's someone for everyone. Now, I'm so different I often wonder if she'd recognise me. Maybe she's different, too. Who knows.
Incredible story. Forgive the observation? But it sounded like you two were perfect for each other, at least at that time perhaps. Who knows though, sometimes there need to be enough differences to allow for more balance.

Too true. Opposites attract and what-not. Kinda felt like I was dating myself, sometimes. I guess that's the narcissist's dream, though.

Regardless, it's undeniable that we were terrible for each other as far as longevity is concerned. Pretty sure if* we we were still together we both wouldn't see 30.

Dating is weird- turns into tribalism. I'm at a weird point now because smokers don't want to be with someone who doesn't smoke usually, vice-versa is also true. Same goes for drinking, weed, other substances. Being sober really narrowed my options, and even if- I'm not sure where to look.

I think I'm ready to date again, but with dating apps now more or less just being seen as hookup machines, (something I'm not interested in) I don't know where to start or where to go. The bar? A club? The mall? Everyone is face-down in a phone, or using substances that I've since given up. I don't want to be the guy that goes to the bar to drink water lmao

I wrote something similar in Bella's thread, but I think they deleted it. It was about relationship status

En son Shlim Sady tarafından düzenlendi; 25 May 2024 @ 12:42

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Oreokitwizlegend™ 25 May 2024 @ 12:46

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Incredible story. Forgive the observation? But it sounded like you two were perfect for each other, at least at that time perhaps. Who knows though, sometimes there need to be enough differences to allow for more balance.

Too true. Opposites attract and what-not. Kinda felt like I was dating myself, sometimes. I guess that's the narcissist's dream, though.

Regardless, it's undeniable that we were terrible for each other as far as longevity is concerned. Pretty sure if* we we were still together we both wouldn't see 30.

Dating is weird- turns into tribalism. I'm at a weird point now because smokers don't want to be with someone who doesn't smoke usually, vice-versa is also true. Same goes for drinking, weed, other substances. Being sober really narrowed my options, and even if- I'm not sure where to look.

I think I'm ready to date again, but with dating apps now more or less just being seen as hookup machines, (something I'm not interested in) I don't know where to start or where to go. The bar? A club? The mall? Everyone is face-down in a phone, or using substances that I've since given up. I don't want to be the guy that goes to the bar to drink water lmao

I wrote something similar in Bella's thread, but I think they deleted it. It was about relationship status

go to church, maybe you will find your woman there.

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Stranger 25 May 2024 @ 12:48

kind-of, but I view it as threatening because most of the people I cling to get taken away. also it's annoying when it's someone else clinging to me that I don't want to cling to back, and it's kind of unhealthy when the clinging is mutual. so I try to avoid doing it.

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Shlim Sady 25 May 2024 @ 12:49

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Too true. Opposites attract and what-not. Kinda felt like I was dating myself, sometimes. I guess that's the narcissist's dream, though.

Regardless, it's undeniable that we were terrible for each other as far as longevity is concerned. Pretty sure if* we we were still together we both wouldn't see 30.

Dating is weird- turns into tribalism. I'm at a weird point now because smokers don't want to be with someone who doesn't smoke usually, vice-versa is also true. Same goes for drinking, weed, other substances. Being sober really narrowed my options, and even if- I'm not sure where to look.

I think I'm ready to date again, but with dating apps now more or less just being seen as hookup machines, (something I'm not interested in) I don't know where to start or where to go. The bar? A club? The mall? Everyone is face-down in a phone, or using substances that I've since given up. I don't want to be the guy that goes to the bar to drink water lmao

I wrote something similar in Bella's thread, but I think they deleted it. It was about relationship status
go to church, maybe you will find your woman there.

The Holy water deters me- burns too much.

That's another form of tribalism- I'm an atheist leaning agnostic. Religious people usually prioritise someone of their own faith- agnostics/atheists do the same I find. I'm upset about all of the divide-and-conquer stuff even infesting our personal lives

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Shlim Sady 25 May 2024 @ 12:53

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I think I'm ready to date again, but with dating apps now more or less just being seen as hookup machines, (something I'm not interested in) I don't know where to start or where to go. The bar? A club? The mall? Everyone is face-down in a phone, or using substances that I've since given up. I don't want to be the guy that goes to the bar to drink water lmao

I wrote something similar in Bella's thread, but I think they deleted it. It was about relationship status
Congratulations on your sobriety! That's a big deal and a huge obstacle to surmount. You did it though, cool.

I would encourage you to stay away from possible.. temptations to fall back into? But I don't know enough about addictions to do so. In any case, maybe try activities you like. I'm planning to get into something once my health is back on-track myself. If I meet some people, cool and if not, I still get to involve myself in something I always wanted to do:)

https://steamcommunity.com/discussions/forum/12/4328600722523763673/

some of the story there if you're bored and want reading material

I tried doing things like AA for example- but it's just an indoctrination cult, I found.

https://wagga.aagroup.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/AA-Big-Book-4th-edition.pdf

God is mentioned 278 times in a book that's supposed to be about not drinking- feels more like a way to indoctrinate the already vulnerable into religion. It works for some people, and I'm happy for those people- but for me, it actually pushed me out of the program. There's a whole ♥♥♥♥♥♥' chant they do in a church basement before starting and after ending the sessions. Uncomfortable for me, to say the least

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Shlim Sady 25 May 2024 @ 13:15

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Hmm I guess I don't know much about AA. I can understand your reaction though. If something feels off or wrong there's probably a good reason for that. I'm spiritual myself but hm, taking people who are in a vulnerable position like that and forcing (?) them to say or believe things that have such an angle, if they're not already religious sounds wrong to me. Yes, I believe when we are at our lowest it is possible to find God's presence but... ehh, yeah, I don't know that that would be the time or place to deal with questions of belief or unbelief. It's... strange. Plus there is the added peer pressure? No. Just.. no.

My thoughts exactly. I'm fine with people having their beliefs, it's just that the time and place feels very wrong. I still keep in contact with some of the members, but otherwise, I don't affiliate with the program. I still have 5 chips from them, though. Keep them in the breast-pocket of my coat. I jingle, walking around.

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