Do you often end up liking someone who doesn’t like you back?

[Skade]

And for some reason the people who like you, you don’t like them back..

[craigsters]

it's hard liking me, I know, but love me for who I am and not for the bad thing's I may say or do

Not sure where I read or heard that sentence above, but if you remember who said it post the original

[harley]

unfortunately yeah

[ṼṏẌṏḭḊ]

Probably.

[Shiro♌]

That does depend on the events that do lead to that or possibly better said, on what has happened between the two or more of us.
If I do something to make the other person dislike me, I do tend to try to make up for it.. And if that fails, I just can't bring myself to dislike them aswell, you know? I will still see them in a positive light, but won't pursue the impossible. My expectations are mostly realistic. Shall be.

And for the people who do like me.. Then I do end up liking them too, of course.
It's just a matter of time, unless the affection isn't there and I can't see it going well enough.. At which point, I'd suggest parting ways or to possibly avoid me.. Stuff like that.

craigsters původně napsal:

Not sure where I read or heard that sentence above, but if you remember who said it post the original

There was a thread with the exact same topic.. Posted around a week ago, or so..?
Even I can recall participating within the thread, but given the date of creation of this one and that I can't see any replies from me within it, it's the same topic, but a different thread.

[Chaosolous]

It’s more that I respect people with a spine, even if they disagree with me.

Something I think we should bring back respectfully disagreeing.

People seem like they’re more eager to point fingers though.

[KitKat <3]

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Linus Sex Tips <3 původně napsal:

Yes. I'm into this girl. I really like her and spending time with her. However, I don't have the balls to ask her out (and neither I will) for multiple reasons. Firstly, I feel she's much more pretty than I am and that kind of makes me insecure about it, you know, to be rejected. Secondly, and also importantly, we live in different countries so it won't work out as I can't move right now and she doesn't have any reason to move either as she's pretty well accomplished and adjusted in her country. Third and most importantly, she's a close friend. I fear that if I start giving her some hints, she might start pushing me away and I'll end up losing a good friend too. I do not want to lose her. You know, at this point, I'm stuck. I'll never know whether she likes me too or is it just one sided affection cause I just can't take the risk (of losing her) so I guess I'll just have to live with it.

As far as the second part is concerned, I know of someone who likes me too. She has been trying to connect with me. We used to be close and even having s*x (casually) but then I moved overseas. Ever since I did, I removed all contact with her. She has been trying to follow me on insta but I didn't accept her request and so she even tried to connect with me over LinkedIn but I again denied but I don't want to lead her on and give any false hopes as again, we live in different countries and also, I'm currently in love with this other person I described above. I can't just be with someone when there's constantly someone else in my mind 24/7. That would just be unfair to them.

Another instance is from very recent. I work as a tutor in my uni. You see, we are allowed to take classes for one level below us. So, Phd students can take Masters and Bachelor classes whereas Masters can take Bachelors and so on. I used to take classes for a subject in my uni (Software Engineering) and there was this girl in my class who I believed used to like me. Whenever, I was supposed to check the assignments she used to make cartoon drawings on them along with several hearts (like a lot). I asked other tutors and they said it was not the case when they were supposed to check. Also, they told me she barely attended classes and even if she did, she was least interested and used to sit in the end. Whereas, in my class she used to come 10-15 and sometimes even 20 minutes earlier and sit on the first bench. I guess the hints were subtle (along with the multiple hearts in all her emails and assignments submitted to me). However, I could not risk it as as per uni norms tutors can't date students. I stopped taking that class some time ago but I still get a text or mail from her every now and then. I don't want to lead her on cause (firstly I don't know if she really likes me or just is being friendly to me and secondly the consequences are not worth it cause I could end up being in serious legal trouble if someone found out I was dating a student of mine)

So yeah, I've been in both of the situations the OP just described and it's honestly killing me and f***ing up my mental health. So, I just end up paying by the hour to someone else to get my ♥♥♥♥ together and focus on my day to day life xD

Sounds like you’re all over the place.

No offense… I can kinda relate because I had some bad stuff happen/changes and fell into a slightly similar pattern for a bit (emotionally speaking).

Before that I wasn’t really like… I mean, hey, not my style but I say just choose the best one for you. It’s really better to give your all in some way than to never try at all, know what I mean? :) Because you never know

So I couldn't stop thinking about it and hence came back here. How'd you break out of the cycle Matt?

[Mr Jt (Gog is king)]

No what would be the point of that

[Moogal™]

Almost never. I don't find it worth the time to like someone who don't like you, i usually ignore them.

[KitKat <3]

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Hentai Supplier <3 původně napsal:

So I couldn't stop thinking about it and hence came back here. How'd you break out of the cycle Matt?

Ohh alright.

Well basically, you have to decide based on a higher power and try to find support, I think.

Love yourself and know that of course, you do deserve someone positive in your life and you ARE worthy of love. Be/stay engaged in what you’re doing and be mindful.

“Be mindful of the living force”

Think someone indicated that I was a bit insecure, and most people are but I had reason to be - well they were right, but I got to work on fixing that & all.

Just think of the outcome you want. If you don’t do it, who will? So you get the idea, hope that helps.

I see... We go hit the jim nowwww. TY <3

[KitKat <3]

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Not 2 mention that for me, Kit-Katbar, that spirituality and discipline for me comes before fun.

Well it’s the current stage of my life, anyway!

Let's just say I'm the least disciplined person out there :(

[Tsumugi]

Yeah I had that happen once. Got dragged along for roughly 3 years and then left in a depressive state of not wanting to do anything for 2 years after that. Fun times.

[L1qu1dator]

Nope, probably cause I rarely like people :P

[isomorphic_projection]

Only 1, she's gone now. The rest is not important. The world can end now.

[Skade]

L1qu1dator původně napsal:

Nope, probably cause I rarely like people :P

haha! why you don't like people?

[76561198356019466]

Pretty much anyone who has ever had a cat has experienced this.