Do you often end up liking someone who doesn’t like you back?

[Skade]

And for some reason the people who like you, you don’t like them back..

[Sarge the Comfy Gaming Doggo]

Originally posted by M a t t:

It’s really better to give your all in some way that to never try at all, know what I mean? :)

You do indeed miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

[Nülliflower]

Originally posted by Sarge St. Valentines Doggo:

Originally posted by M a t t:

It’s really better to give your all in some way that to never try at all, know what I mean? :)

You do indeed miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

Ok but what if you take a shot and it ricochets off the wall and hits you right in the head. Dangerous, very dangerous, very risky behavior, we must refrain from doing anything lest we suffer severe consequences

[Sarge the Comfy Gaming Doggo]

Originally posted by Nülliflower:

Originally posted by Sarge St. Valentines Doggo:

You do indeed miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

Ok but what if you take a shot and it ricochets off the wall and hits you right in the head. Dangerous, very dangerous, very risky behavior, we must refrain from doing anything lest we suffer severe consequences

Wooden bullets are the key.

[Darkwave Dahlia]

No. I currently exist in a perpetual state of "advantages of a relationship" surpassing the downsides of remaining single.

[אדון סקוויד]

Originally posted by אלאאאא טפיייי ♿:

Originally posted by Skade:

And for some reason the people who like you, you don’t like them back..

You must be a woman.

Definetly a very feminine behaviour, like like acting all tsundere and the ones who like them they feel like are not worthy of them. solution is probably treat them bad and they will like

[Sarge the Comfy Gaming Doggo]

Originally posted by אדון סקוויד:

Definetly a very feminine behaviour, like like acting all tsundere and the ones who like them they feel like are not worthy of them. solution is probably treat them bad and they will like

God I wish I had a tsundere GF.

[KitKat <3]

Originally posted by M a t t:

Originally posted by Linus Sex Tips <3:

Yes. I'm into this girl. I really like her and spending time with her. However, I don't have the balls to ask her out (and neither I will) for multiple reasons. Firstly, I feel she's much more pretty than I am and that kind of makes me insecure about it, you know, to be rejected. Secondly, and also importantly, we live in different countries so it won't work out as I can't move right now and she doesn't have any reason to move either as she's pretty well accomplished and adjusted in her country. Third and most importantly, she's a close friend. I fear that if I start giving her some hints, she might start pushing me away and I'll end up losing a good friend too. I do not want to lose her. You know, at this point, I'm stuck. I'll never know whether she likes me too or is it just one sided affection cause I just can't take the risk (of losing her) so I guess I'll just have to live with it.

As far as the second part is concerned, I know of someone who likes me too. She has been trying to connect with me. We used to be close and even having s*x (casually) but then I moved overseas. Ever since I did, I removed all contact with her. She has been trying to follow me on insta but I didn't accept her request and so she even tried to connect with me over LinkedIn but I again denied but I don't want to lead her on and give any false hopes as again, we live in different countries and also, I'm currently in love with this other person I described above. I can't just be with someone when there's constantly someone else in my mind 24/7. That would just be unfair to them.

Another instance is from very recent. I work as a tutor in my uni. You see, we are allowed to take classes for one level below us. So, Phd students can take Masters and Bachelor classes whereas Masters can take Bachelors and so on. I used to take classes for a subject in my uni (Software Engineering) and there was this girl in my class who I believed used to like me. Whenever, I was supposed to check the assignments she used to make cartoon drawings on them along with several hearts (like a lot). I asked other tutors and they said it was not the case when they were supposed to check. Also, they told me she barely attended classes and even if she did, she was least interested and used to sit in the end. Whereas, in my class she used to come 10-15 and sometimes even 20 minutes earlier and sit on the first bench. I guess the hints were subtle (along with the multiple hearts in all her emails and assignments submitted to me). However, I could not risk it as as per uni norms tutors can't date students. I stopped taking that class some time ago but I still get a text or mail from her every now and then. I don't want to lead her on cause (firstly I don't know if she really likes me or just is being friendly to me and secondly the consequences are not worth it cause I could end up being in serious legal trouble if someone found out I was dating a student of mine)

So yeah, I've been in both of the situations the OP just described and it's honestly killing me and f***ing up my mental health. So, I just end up paying by the hour to someone else to get my ♥♥♥♥ together and focus on my day to day life xD

Sounds like you’re all over the place.

No offense… I can kinda relate because I had some bad stuff happen/changes and fell into a slightly similar pattern for a bit (emotionally speaking).

Before that I wasn’t really like… I mean, hey, not my style but I say just choose the best one for you. It’s really better to give your all in some way than to never try at all, know what I mean? :) Because you never know

Believe me, I want to give my all in with this person I like but I'm just afraid cause I don't know how she feels about me. I don't wanna end up being ghosted cause that would be hurt a lot

[Sarge the Comfy Gaming Doggo]

Originally posted by Linus Sex Tips <3:

Believe me, I want to give my all in with this person I like but I'm just afraid cause I don't know how she feels about me. I don't wanna end up being ghosted cause that would be hurt a lot

To be honest, you should probably tell them how you feel cause its giving you stress, if they did drop you out of their lives that's on them and they weren't a very good friend to begin with.

I mean you don't have to rush into things or anything like that but keeping emotions in like that isn't good for you

[Barney, from Black Mesa.]

No way; if you have any sense of integrity, then you wouldn't settle for a one-sided relationship.

[↑↑↓↓←→←→BASelect]

Liking someone who don't like you seems redundant.

[saranacX]

So many people treating "liking" like it's voluntary. Maybe I'm an alien.

[Nülliflower]

Originally posted by For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge:

Liking someone who don't like you seems redundant.

If thyse loneliness is a valid source of pain then it's not redundant because we could write some good poetry out of it. Everyone knows the best art comes from pain! Suffer for the muses and truly bring out your heart and soul unto your works.

[↑↑↓↓←→←→BASelect]

Originally posted by Nülliflower:

Originally posted by For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge:

Liking someone who don't like you seems redundant.

If thyse loneliness is a valid source of pain then it's not redundant because we could write some good poetry out of it. Everyone knows the best art comes from pain! Suffer for the muses and truly bring out your heart and soul unto your works.

Good thing i'm not lonely cause i'm not good at poetry.

[KitKat <3]

Originally posted by Sarge St. Valentines Doggo:

Originally posted by Linus Sex Tips <3:

Believe me, I want to give my all in with this person I like but I'm just afraid cause I don't know how she feels about me. I don't wanna end up being ghosted cause that would be hurt a lot

To be honest, you should probably tell them how you feel cause its giving you stress, if they did drop you out of their lives that's on them and they weren't a very good friend to begin with.

I mean you don't have to rush into things or anything like that but keeping emotions in like that isn't good for you

Yes Valentino doggo it is killing me.. But I'm not sure right now about it.. Maybe sometime else

[Sarge the Comfy Gaming Doggo]

Originally posted by Hentai Supplier <3:

Yes Valentino doggo it is killing me.. But I'm not sure right now about it.. Maybe sometime else

As long as you’ll be ok I respect your decision friend