Feeling lost is horrible.. HELP!!

[Delivery Girl]

Recently I ended a relationship and I confess that it's been extremely difficult to get back to the usual routine.

I'm an architecture student and even though I do great work here in Brazil, it seems that the niche in this area is extremely low and I also worry about not getting a job. I tried different ways, I sent images of my work and derivatives (I work with architectural drawings and plans and what sets me apart is 3D rendering of realistic photos and videos).

Does anyone have any tips on how to move forward and get back to a healthy lifestyle? At the moment I can't afford a psychologist or a gym so these things are out of reach for now.

[AerSilver ♞]

Comece com a academia mano
Then grab yourself a bag of baconzitos instead of a psychologist and remind yourself everything will be okay.
Plenty of home exercises/ calisthenics you can do if you can't afford a gym membership but movement is key and the best antidepressant, especially after a breakup.

[Hairy Hands Harry]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Chromatic Soul:

it seems that the niche in this area is extremely low and I also worry about not getting a job.

Expand your education focus and type of work you will take. Very few ever get a dream job. I was an engineer. I did programming my entire career. I liked the programming and was happy.

[Fake]

Download a GPS app.
Problem solved.

[Delivery Girl]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Hirenaga:

Maybe some pet fish will relax you.

It sounds like a good idea! Maybe I'll think about adopting an animal, or even having a fish. It would be good to have a little distraction when homesickness hits.

[Delivery Girl]

Oprindeligt skrevet af AerSilver ♞:

Comece com a academia mano
Then grab yourself a bag of baconzitos instead of a psychologist and remind yourself everything will be okay.
Plenty of home exercises/ calisthenics you can do if you can't afford a gym membership but movement is key and the best antidepressant, especially after a breakup.

Oh yes, I try to do some exercises at home. The problem is that at least 90% of things remind me of it. And the gym was one of the things I was really thinking about doing because she did it on a street close to my house and wanted me to go with her.

Anyway, I hope things get better. I try to focus 100% on professional things but I end up being very emotional, and seeing someone leave in a sad way is still difficult for me.

[Delivery Girl]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Harry The Gamer:

Oprindeligt skrevet af Chromatic Soul:

it seems that the niche in this area is extremely low and I also worry about not getting a job.

Expand your education focus and type of work you will take. Very few ever get a dream job. I was an engineer. I did programming my entire career. I liked the programming and was happy.

Oh I love it! A while ago I wanted to try some study in the field of psychology, but my family prevented me from doing that, as architecture and civil engineering is a profession that goes back generations.

I'll be honest in saying that it's not 100% of what I wanted, but at least I wouldn't sit around doing nothing

[Basho]

i cant offer anything concrete.
but as for personal life, make sure you remember who you are and what makes you happy.
it is okay to feel terrible, so dont try to bottle it up too much.
but try to get back into doing the things you yourself have always enjoyed and try to find stability in those things. dont force it though, just take things slowly.

as for working situations, architecture is by my count pretty high-level, meaning you probably have skills and abilities that are a bit above what you would consider average, and also has some breadth since you need to know a bit about quite a lot of things (including construction work) to understand how things are supposed to come together.
it really sucks having to "settle" for work outside your area of education but to be honest is really not that bad. besides, your education may help you in ways you dont expect anyway.

so if you are having a hard time finding work within the scope of architecture, i would suggest taking stock of your skills and abilities and look at work that may fit well with your abilities.
for instance, you are probably good with problem solving, numbers, logic, etc in general.
so there are likely to be other office type jobs out there that you can probably do better than the average applicant at such a place.
maybe you have completely different interests and skills as well that can be a whole other vector to consider.

nothing stops you from looking for architecture related work on the side anyway, you can always switch later if an opportunity presents itself.

you could possibly also look for work in other countries if that is a viable option. maybe some things can even be done remotely? (i have no idea.)

if you cant afford going to a gym but would like to do so, keep in mind that you can do a lot at home even without equipment, and even cheap basic things like dumbbells too can be used in many ways. look up some exercises online and you should get some pretty good ideas.
i especially recommend looking up military fitness guides since these are usually designed to give an all-round workout routine for general fitness, and most exercises use only the body and no equipment.

i have no surefire course of action to offer up, but maybe those points can offer some direction at least.

[Insomniac Jack]

Seek the shaman Bezos in the heart of the Amazon jungle. He will hold the answers you seek.

[Delivery Girl]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Basho:

i cant offer anything concrete.
but as for personal life, make sure you remember who you are and what makes you happy.
it is okay to feel terrible, so dont try to bottle it up too much.
but try to get back into doing the things you yourself have always enjoyed and try to find stability in those things. dont force it though, just take things slowly.

as for working situations, architecture is by my count pretty high-level, meaning you probably have skills and abilities that are a bit above what you would consider average, and also has some breadth since you need to know a bit about quite a lot of things (including construction work) to understand how things are supposed to come together.
it really sucks having to "settle" for work outside your area of education but to be honest is really not that bad. besides, your education may help you in ways you dont expect anyway.

so if you are having a hard time finding work within the scope of architecture, i would suggest taking stock of your skills and abilities and look at work that may fit well with your abilities.
for instance, you are probably good with problem solving, numbers, logic, etc in general.
so there are likely to be other office type jobs out there that you can probably do better than the average applicant at such a place.
maybe you have completely different interests and skills as well that can be a whole other vector to consider.

nothing stops you from looking for architecture related work on the side anyway, you can always switch later if an opportunity presents itself.

you could possibly also look for work in other countries if that is a viable option. maybe some things can even be done remotely? (i have no idea.)

if you cant afford going to a gym but would like to do so, keep in mind that you can do a lot at home even without equipment, and even cheap basic things like dumbbells too can be used in many ways. look up some exercises online and you should get some pretty good ideas.
i especially recommend looking up military fitness guides since these are usually designed to give an all-round workout routine for general fitness, and most exercises use only the body and no equipment.

i have no surefire course of action to offer up, but maybe those points can offer some direction at least.

It was definitely good advice! As for the professional area, I'm trying in other countries, I'm from Brazil, but I asked a friend from New Jersey for some contacts regarding architecture.

I really wanted to do something else that would at least generate some profitability for me, but at least here in Brazil, you need to work for at least 1 to 2 years with something in the degree you are doing, otherwise you cannot receive the degree.

Honestly, deep in my heart I know the things I should do to improve the relationship, it's just something difficult to swallow so recently, especially because it was a breakup where there was nothing wrong, it was just the famous "right person, wrong time".

Anyway, I appreciate your advice and I'll look for something about military exercises

[Delivery Girl]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Alice:

Steam isn't a good place to get advice, but start with what you can do. Like if you can't afford a gym membership, work out at home. If you want to see a psychologist but can't afford it, see if there are free or affordable alternatives in your area. If not, start with online resources, youtube videos, or books.

For sure! I haven't posted anything here for a long time, but you've always welcomed me very well on Offtopic, despite it not being the most appropriate place, I've always had a sign of what to do, and also some things to have fun on certain topics that I created

[Angel]

Guys night out and mingle with singles; embrace your freedom while you have it.

[【ボス B o s s】]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Chromatic Soul:

Recently I ended a relationship and I confess that it's been extremely difficult to get back to the usual routine.

I'm an architecture student and even though I do great work here in Brazil, it seems that the niche in this area is extremely low and I also worry about not getting a job. I tried different ways, I sent images of my work and derivatives (I work with architectural drawings and plans and what sets me apart is 3D rendering of realistic photos and videos).

Does anyone have any tips on how to move forward and get back to a healthy lifestyle? At the moment I can't afford a psychologist or a gym so these things are out of reach for now. :winterbunny2023:

Focus on improving yourself and doing things you love. Make a plan about things you'd like to do in the future and work towards them. Perhaps do some volunteer work for a cause you enjoy.

Stay away from drugs, drinking and smoking, as negative coping strategies will hinder any chances of finding meaningful and fulfilling happiness in the future.

Give yourself time to mourn your loss, but accept that at some point you will have to bury it, say your goodbyes and move on.
https://youtu.be/KxGRhd_iWuE
I believe in you. Good luck!

[Zeno]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Chromatic Soul:

Recently I ended a relationship and I confess that it's been extremely difficult to get back to the usual routine.

I'm an architecture student and even though I do great work here in Brazil, it seems that the niche in this area is extremely low and I also worry about not getting a job. I tried different ways, I sent images of my work and derivatives (I work with architectural drawings and plans and what sets me apart is 3D rendering of realistic photos and videos).

Does anyone have any tips on how to move forward and get back to a healthy lifestyle? At the moment I can't afford a psychologist or a gym so these things are out of reach for now. :winterbunny2023:

So you basically lived off the pocket of your ex-partner and now feel lost as you have no income ?
Got it.

Find a job in an area you are not trained in if you don't find anything else. Get a decent sleep routine and a healthy diet.

Tbh, I don't see how any of this has to do with having broken up a relationship nor how you expect good advise on steam off topic, where the average user mostly does not hold a job him or herself as well as is below the age of 18.

[Triple G]

Oprindeligt skrevet af BlackCobraFst:

No, it does not help it just helps people to fall into an unhealty pattern of committing to a relationship just for the sake of not being alone instead of for the sake of love, partnership and common life goals.

And advising people on here to do drugs when they feel bad is also not particularly a smart idea.

It´s called brainstorming.

OP asks for help. We throw in ideas. To help someone in need. Then he picks what he thinks helps the most, as he´s apparently no child any more. Also i don´t know who advised to take drugs when feeling bad so far...

[Zeno]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Triple G:

Oprindeligt skrevet af BlackCobraFst:

No, it does not help it just helps people to fall into an unhealty pattern of committing to a relationship just for the sake of not being alone instead of for the sake of love, partnership and common life goals.

And advising people on here to do drugs when they feel bad is also not particularly a smart idea.

It´s called brainstorming.

OP asks for help. We throw in ideas. To help someone in need. Then he picks what he thinks helps the most, as he´s apparently no child any more. Also i don´t know who advised to take drugs when feeling bad so far...

Please stop telling children online to take drugs. Reported.