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So you somehow think that you can invalidate them while still being empathetic? That's where you're wrong. You don't have to *agree* with them, but you *do* have to realize that their perspective is valid FOR THEM. What YOU think about it does not matter in the slightest.
The point where you say: "I understand it BUT IT IS STILL WRONG" is where your empathy ends. It means that you do not actually understand them, you fail to fully take the other's perspective because it is impossible for you to come off your moral high horse.
That is not empathy, just the most superficial semblance of it. If you are still going to judge them all the same, your "empathy" is completely meaningless.
I do understand them. Understanding doesn't mean validating them. They can have their internal validations. External validation is not required to understand or empathize.
I can understand an empathize with a racist who became that way due to personal experiences. Doesn't mean I need to externally validate their beliefs or not judge them for being an ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥.
Peoples feelings are valid. The response to those feelings are not always valid.
I never said anything about externally validating them.
This is just about semantics at this point. I don't know where you got the "validation" thing from, because I never said anything like that. I said that their reasons are valid for THEM no matter what you might think about it.
I mentioned excusing behavior very early on. Excusing the behavior is a form of validation.
Before you would need to "excuse" anything, you would have to condemn it first, in other words, you would have to judge them. And I already commented on that: judgment is incompatible with empathy how I see it.
It's interesting how you jumped over the part where you condemn their behaviour and instantly talk about "excusing". That again shows that your "IT IS BAD" belief is really set in stone and you are practically blind to it.
Someone's kid can ignore their school work, disrupt class, or just be a general nuisance in the school. A parent can then excuse the behavior without ever condemning it.
I've literally seen it happen.
The general incel mindset is bad. I made no attempt to hide it. Hence why I was literally saying that mindset shouldn't be validated or condoned.