Gender neutral pronouns list to stay up to date in 2024

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76561199554591837 Jan 23, 2024 @ 9:54am

Gender neutral pronouns list to stay up to date in 2024

Upon first meeting someone, most people agree it’s best not to outright ask for pronouns because someone may feel like you’re assuming their gender identity. In some cases, it may put someone in a situation where they have to out themselves but don’t want to or aren’t ready to.

Instead, introduce yourself with your pronouns: "Hi, I'm Caroline, and my pronouns are she/her." With this, you're allowing the other person to share theirs, but not forcing them to

People might use multiple pronouns, like she/they or they/hirs. If someone shares that with you, they might also say they’re more comfortable with one over the other, or they’d like you to vary the pronouns you use in conversation.

They/them/theirs
Ze/hir/hirs
Xe/xem/xyrs
Ver/vir/vis
Te/tem/ter
E/em/eirs

Examples - Ze/hir/hirs
Where did ze go?”
“This pencil belongs to hir.”
“Ze would rather do it hirself.

Examples -Xe/xem/xyrs

“I think xe is nice.”
“Tell xem I say hello.”
“That sandwich is xirs.”

Example - Ver/vir/vis
“I think ver is nice.”
“I borrowed vis pencil.”
“I went to the store with vir

Example -Te/tem/ter
Te went to the store.”
“I borrowed it from tem.”
“That’s ter dog.”

Example - Ey/em/eir
Ey wrote me a note.”
“That belongs to em.”
“I asked to borrow eir pencil

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videogames10 Jan 23, 2024 @ 11:10am

I have never mistaken a camel toe for a wiener, so stop wearing skinny jeans and leggings and I'll stop making correct assumptions :)

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volusat Jan 23, 2024 @ 11:13am

my pronouns are @L/@LL@/@LL@s

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WhiteKnight77 Jan 23, 2024 @ 3:52pm

If I meet someone for drinks, or worse, a meal, and they start with the pronoun stuff, I will just say nice to meet you, goodbye.

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Swarmfly Jan 23, 2024 @ 3:56pm

The "ver" pronouns were invented by people who don't want to admit that they can't pronounce dental fricatives to save their lives.

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Doctor Opta Jan 23, 2024 @ 4:05pm

I've never seen someone actually go by these pronouns
The only thing I have seen is people using them to make bait posts like this..

Last edited by Doctor Opta; Jan 23, 2024 @ 4:05pm

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HypersleepyNaputunia Jan 23, 2024 @ 4:07pm

ve haf veys of makink you tok

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Tsubame ⭐ Jan 23, 2024 @ 4:09pm

Considering biologically normal people comprise the vast majority of the population, it is fair for people to just use regular pronouns based on the other person's appearance/name/etc., and only switch to another one if that person says otherwise.

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Yzal Jan 23, 2024 @ 4:10pm

Where's attack helicopter?

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Morkonan Jan 23, 2024 @ 5:06pm

Originally posted by Uzair:
Upon first meeting someone, most people agree it’s best not to outright ask for pronouns because someone may feel like you’re assuming their gender identity. ..

For someone I first met, I will assume the gender identity they appear to be outwardly projecting if it is necessary. If there is a conflict there, it's not my problem. There would be no intent at insulting their personal inner life-view of themselves and I have no need of such personal knowledge in order to facilitate whatever the purpose for that initial contact happens to be.

IF there is some deeper sort of relationship or frequent interaction necessary, I don't mind changing such a thing if it makes them feel better or, at least, not threatened. That would extend to those I see regularly, only.

I am not going to be responsible for giving social affirmation of someone's very personal, and evidently so varied as to be nigh unpredictable, "gender identity." This is not what should be expected in just a casual greeting, for instance. The store's check-out counter person doesn't need me to be responsible for validating their complex and conflicting projection of gender identity. No insult is intended and none should be taken - I don't wish to be that intimate with someone when I'm just trying to buy some groceries...

Casual social affirmation is exactly what it says it is. Anything that requires knowledge of someone's inner life and how they define themselves as a person is not "casual." This is why people project such things with clothing, adornments, conspicuous consumption, etc... It's so that they can receive that using nonverbal, non-interactive, projection of whatever it is they want to project.

People who feel they need special pronouns need to adopt a clear means to project that information to others without too much fuss. This is usually done in human society by their manner of dress or appearance and it is decidedly, purposefully, not complex.

A person wearing a NFL San Francisco '49'ers American football jersey is taking care of all they care to project with no "guide" or social interactions required and none that are desired... since they're a dirty "'9'ers" fan... :) If they have to run up to me and demand I recognize those things while they're wearing a blank toga, someone is in the wrong and it's not me.

There's no insult or animosity here - I am just not going to volunteer to be unreasonably required to conform to someone else's extreme demands as a matter of carrying out the daily course of necessary casual interactions. I will not intentionally insult anyone, but it's not my responsibility if they insist I recognize some inner-life that is not interpretable during casual interaction.

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