Is it normal to have no ambition in life ?

[ian]

I was really unsure about posting this but I needed some opinion's besides that of my family.

I honestly don’t know what do in my life I’m 24 and going to be 25 in august, I’ve done lots of work experience but have never had a proper job and I think the reason why is that I have no direction in life but my Mum says this is normal what do you think ?

[driftmetal]

blah blah blaaaaaah. Look here PVT, You go buy a picture book that has every bird on record. Pick one bird, then go find it. That is your mission. I don't care if that birds in Egypt or Rio. You go find that bird because I want that birds picture. That birds picture better be better than the picture bird in the picture book.

[nightreaper2000]

Listen to Hall Of Fame by The Script... FYI at 25, u should have at least some anbition to go beat the f*uck outta the world!! So go kik ass man!!

[KENJI]

Fact 1: Don't ask your mom. :)
Fact 2: Nobody can tell you what YOU really like. You have to find out for yourself.

I would say what did you do for fun when you were a kid? Was there a hobby or something like drawing or music you really liked? You have to do some soul searching to find your way in life and try out different things.
Most important thing - follow what makes you happy and where you can have fun (especially at your work)

[Tux]

引用自 lessthan0：

Fact 1: Don't ask your mom. :)
Fact 2: Nobody can tell you what YOU really like. You have to find out for yourself.

I would say what did you do for fun when you were a kid? Was there a hobby or something like drawing or music you really liked? You have to do some soul searching to find your way in life and try out different things.
Most important thing - follow what makes you happy and where you can have fun (especially at your work)

FACT 3: More often then not just getting as much money as possible while doing what you dont like is better than trying to find what you do like.

aka job is a job is a job

[oy]

it's all good

[Mr. Shaggnificent]

引用自 Tux：

FACT 3: More often then not just getting as much money as possible while doing what you dont like is better than trying to find what you do like.

aka job is a job is a job

I see your point, but I disagree.

I read an article a while ago about an office manager at a law firm. He was making decent money, but not as much as the lawyers. The big difference was, the lawyers were killing themselve to get it. Their cars were little more than a status symbol they commuted in, and they were barely ever in their big houses because they were working 12-16hrs a day. Meanwhile, the office manager was going home everyday, had an active social life, and still made enough to put some money away for later. The reporter even mentioned the envious looks the lawyers had on their faces as he and the office manager were leaving one day.

I may be cash poor, but I have good friends who I can see every day. What good is the fancy car and big house if all you do is drive home, go straight to sleep, and then drive back?

Like the saying goes, "you can't buy happiness".

[SLanted Edge]

People seem to romanticize the work life. Like we're supposed to find that job that we love waking up for every morning, making enough money to do the crazy things you want to and to never want for anything.

Truth is, life sucks for most ppl out there. The sooner you wake up, make a logical choice on your career and get on living, the better. Pick what you are best at that can pay you well enough. Hustle in the field till you can get to the top said field, store away retirement and rainy day money....then you can focus on what you really want. Financial freedom is a huge weight off of your shoulders and will allow you to make better decisions with your happiness.

[Tux]

引用自 SLanted Edge：

People seem to romanticize the work life. Like we're supposed to find that job that we love waking up for every morning, making enough money to do the crazy things you want to and to never want for anything.

Truth is, life sucks for most ppl out there. The sooner you wake up, make a logical choice on your career and get on living, the better. Pick what you are best at that can pay you well enough. Hustle in the field till you can get to the top said field, store away retirement and rainy day money....then you can focus on what you really want. Financial freedom is a huge weight off of your shoulders and will allow you to make better decisions with your happiness.

that is what I am trying to say...

for some people who 'live to work" instead of 'work to live' there might be more truth to it but for most of us dream job or not its really just a means to an end

[Tux]

引用自 Mr.Shaggnificent：

引用自 Tux：

FACT 3: More often then not just getting as much money as possible while doing what you dont like is better than trying to find what you do like.

aka job is a job is a job

I see your point, but I disagree.

I read an article a while ago about an office manager at a law firm. He was making decent money, but not as much as the lawyers. The big difference was, the lawyers were killing themselve to get it. Their cars were little more than a status symbol they commuted in, and they were barely ever in their big houses because they were working 12-16hrs a day. Meanwhile, the office manager was going home everyday, had an active social life, and still made enough to put some money away for later. The reporter even mentioned the envious looks the lawyers had on their faces as he and the office manager were leaving one day.

I may be cash poor, but I have good friends who I can see every day. What good is the fancy car and big house if all you do is drive home, go straight to sleep, and then drive back?

Like the saying goes, "you can't buy happiness".

what I am suggesting quite literally is to be the overpriced lawyer who rides the buss to work and lives in a trailer park until he has enough to retire 20 years early.

which is basically what I am doing except not a lawyer and 10 years early instead of 20 but still 75% of my money goes to investments and savings

[Mr. Shaggnificent]

I like to think of it slightly different than the common way; I'm not just getting paid to do a job, I'm selling them my time. Is this chunk of my life worth what they're paying?

[Mr. Shaggnificent]

引用自 Tux：

what I am suggesting quite literally is to be the overpriced lawyer who rides the buss to work and lives in a trailer park until he has enough to retire 20 years early.

which is basically what I am doing except not a lawyer and 10 years early instead of 20 but still 75% of my money goes to investments and savings

That is very hard for most people. I've done that before, but instead of waiting until retirement, I take breaks from working and live off those savings.

[Tux]

引用自 Mr.Shaggnificent：

I like to think of it slightly different than the common way; I'm not just getting paid to do a job, I'm selling them my time. Is this chunk of my life worth what they're paying?

which is a good way to think about it. not sure what they has to do with lawyers getting into debt but fair enough.

[Tux]

引用自 Mr.Shaggnificent：

引用自 Tux：

what I am suggesting quite literally is to be the overpriced lawyer who rides the buss to work and lives in a trailer park until he has enough to retire 20 years early.

which is basically what I am doing except not a lawyer and 10 years early instead of 20 but still 75% of my money goes to investments and savings

That is very hard for most people. I've done that before, but instead of waiting until retirement, I take breaks from working and live off those savings.

yes! that works too and I agree its hard for most people.

they just needed me as daddy growing up...ha!

[SLanted Edge]

in your story with the office manager, I'm sure its cute now, but when the office manager and the lawyers are both 45yr old...you see a staggering difference. Lawyer will still have that nice car, nice house, work less hours, easy wife, and take his family on 10-20k vacations a few times a year.

Office manager will still have a modest home, honda accord, wife that may work entirely too hard, and take trips that are just close by. If the office manger didn't make some good investment decisions he'll just forever be on the grind. While those high priced overworked lawyers have a chance at something more.

[Mr. Shaggnificent]

引用自 SLanted Edge：

in your story with the office manager, I'm sure its cute now, but when the office manager and the lawyers are both 45yr old...you see a staggering difference. Lawyer will still have that nice car, nice house, work less hours, easy wife, and take his family on 10-20k vacations a few times a year.

Office manager will still have a modest home, honda accord, wife that may work entirely too hard, and take trips that are just close by. If the office manger didn't make some good investment decisions he'll just forever be on the grind. While those high priced overworked lawyers have a chance at something more.

Or that lawyer is twice divorced with much more paid in alimony than what he keeps, and worthless scumbag entitled brats for kids who hate him because he was never around when they were growing up.

And the office manager lives in his modest home with the same wife(who approaches working in the same way), and has kids who love and respect him and are decent human beings who contribute to society.

Hypotheticals are fun.