Why a lot of men instantly assume that a lonely woman online is looking for a relationship?

[Maria]

I have a female friend who's pretty lonely, actively looking for friends or someone to play with online and she literally cannot go without getting at least 3+ men who assume she wants a relationship instead of friendship..

[Ruckman_Void]

Maybe she is awesome...?

[MinionJoe]

I instantly assume that a lonely woman online is actually a guy looking for free stuff from other guys.

[DarkCrystalMethod]

Men generally want to "solve" the problem completely and overwhelmingly. Seeing someone who announces they are lonely indicates thats enough of a problem since they decided to mention it so we spring to action by default(well, most of us).

[Dracoco OwO]

Realistically nobody does, they will always imagine they may be taken or just a guy, always assume the worst.

[Le fishe au chocolat]

Imagine if people would find a partner seriously on Internet lol.
Those people must be scammers. They just want your money, or maybe in the worst case, they work for human trafficking organizations.
So please tell your friend not to accept any requests from strangers on Internet.

[St✩rlight]

引用自 cat staccs：

because a lot of men online are weirdos

lol

[Le fishe au chocolat]

引用自 cat staccs：

because a lot of men online are weirdos

This is a fact.

[DarkCrystalMethod]

Announcing a problem but not wanting it solved. Please explain.

[Ruckman_Void]

引用自 cat staccs：

because a lot of men online are weirdos

Damn.
You know me?

[OoOoOoooOOoOoorgle]

引用自 Alice：

引用自 MinionJoe：

I instantly assume that a lonely woman online is actually a guy looking for free stuff from other guys.

A guy once told me he does this.

It works IRL too, you can draw hearts and flowers and ♥♥♥♥ and "Girls Road Trip!" on a rear window with venmo info. And even if there are only dudes in the car, you will still get donations from thirstlords.

[Chuuya Nakahara]

Because their desperate.

[Dutchgamer1982]

quite simple :
man who want a wife have no interest in wasting time on a woman that friendzones them.
-> it's ineffective use of their time.

from experience if you are just friends with a female as a man, and she does get a husband eventually, you will be pushed out of her life, as other man will not like her being "so close with another man"

the only time man and female friendships ever work is when both have a stable relationship already and thus no need for more.

if it's just "to play online" it may be less an issue.. but than you hardly are a friend you are just that stranger they play with once and can easely remove once they are done with that game.
you are just a better AI to them to play against or with.

[gza]

引用自 cat staccs：

because a lot of men online are weirdos

Actually true. Truest thing you've said all week.

[Vinz Clortho]

引用自 Torkil Hawke：

I have a female friend who's pretty lonely, actively looking for friends or someone to play with online

No.

[xAlphaStarOmegax]

I know exactly what you mean. That's one of the many reasons I stopped trying to make online friends.

I actually remember back when I tried to find people to play Project Zomboid with, and it was always men; I couldn't find any women. Anyway, the moment the men found out I was married, they just lost interest.

I've learned that, for the most part, men cannot just be friends with women. It's like, with them, it's all or nothing.

I also just got over a steam friendship where, looking back, I think he only sent me a friend request because he wanted an internet girlfriend. I say that because of how clingy he was. I had told him I was married, and for a while he seemed okay with it, but because I couldn't game with him every single day and stay up all night chatting with him, he begun to just act really weird.

So, yeah, I've learned to avoid men and online so-called friendships.