Signs of toxic relationships/friendships

[Joe Spongeberg]

What are the most obvious signs of a toxic relationship/friendship

[s w e k]

Some red flags:

Friend/partner is only willing to talk about themselves
Friend/partner only talks to you when they need something (whether that be money or emotional support)
Partner isn't willing to let you meet their family or friends
A relationship that has all the characteristics of a romantic relationship but the other person is reluctant to call it what it is (usually a sign of a non-committal attitude)

[Zaphyra]

When your friend makes jokes at your expense with other people/friends, but is cool when you are just alone with them.

[St✩rlight]

They are broke and tell lies

[Ruckman_Void]

Well

When you've waited all day for them to go off to meet their not-so-secret bootycall partner, so you can rifle through their drawers drawer looking for stuff to sell, and you come across their mothers'hand-written recipe for soup that includes your spleen in the ingredients

Then you might be in a toxic relationship

There might be some other examples though, I dunno

[Captain Morgan]

1 Supply and Demand
2 Risk and Reward
3 Damage Control

Those golden policies, or priority scopes if you will, will help you detect and determine any type of business, relation or corelation, between any number of people.

1 Wants and Cans. What you want to do and what you can do. What the other people want to do and what they can do. Measure and evaluate those, stressing yourself to mark the common ground, or rather, absence of it thereof. Whenever all those aren't aligned, then usually the relationship deteriorates into a poor quality one, or a "bad deal", if you prefer.

2 Anything and everything, is all about investment, profit (in any form) and yield of rewards, for choices made and courses pursued. Investment in feelings is a powerful stock/share in the stockmarket of life, in case you haven't noticed (and way trickier than normal stocks/shares, too). You naturally want to minimaze the risks involved and simultanesously, maximize profit. If inside a relationship, the other person(s) make a profit, while you don't or rather, they make their profit through robbing you of yours or even damaging you in the process, then that is toxic. The viable relationship is one in which you make profit without damaging the other person and if at all possible, help them achieve gain on their end.

3 If you notice damage control involved, then the party applying it, has erred or somehow caused a loss for you somewhere. If damage control activity persists, then the person in charge of it, keeps making mistakes -and mistakes are costly, especially when being intentional ones-. Lots of damage control being pulled off inside a relationship, means toxicity abounds.

Easy, no?

[Dracoco OwO]

Escrito originalmente por Munithe EXT:

They are broke and tell lies

I've had the opposite : they are rich and lie to you alot.

[Violeta]

They don't give me tons of money, is one of the biggest red flags to me.

[Q-T_3.14.exe]

They use you as a verbal punching bag and treat you badly to a point that you can't trust anyone and fear others with prejudice.

I am talking from experience.

[Pocahawtness]

Arguments. Control. No love life. No common interests or time spent together.

[Sidakte]

Escrito originalmente por Munithe EXT:

They are broke and tell lies

i've had that more than once. but the lies can be cross-checked easily.

Escrito originalmente por Q-T_3.14.exe:

They use you as a verbal punching bag and treat you badly to a point that you can't trust anyone and fear others with prejudice.

I am talking from experience.

same.

[(N☆G) Jackal ★JJ★]

Start getting distant and when you ask they reassure then do it again anyway.

[Moogal™]

I aint much for relations, really.

[GunsForBucks]

Escrito originalmente por Captain Morgan:

1 Supply and Demand
2 Risk and Reward
3 Damage Control

Those golden policies, or priority scopes if you will, will help you detect and determine any type of business, relation or corelation, between any number of people.

1 Wants and Cans. What you want to do and what you can do. What the other people want to do and what they can do. Measure and evaluate those, stressing yourself to mark the common ground, or rather, absence of it thereof. Whenever all those aren't aligned, then usually the relationship deteriorates into a poor quality one, or a "bad deal", if you prefer.

2 Anything and everything, is all about investment, profit (in any form) and yield of rewards, for choices made and courses pursued. Investment in feelings is a powerful stock/share in the stockmarket of life, in case you haven't noticed (and way trickier than normal stocks/shares, too). You naturally want to minimaze the risks involved and simultanesously, maximize profit. If inside a relationship, the other person(s) make a profit, while you don't or rather, they make their profit through robbing you of yours or even damaging you in the process, then that is toxic. The viable relationship is one in which you make profit without damaging the other person and if at all possible, help them achieve gain on their end.

3 If you notice damage control involved, then the party applying it, has erred or somehow caused a loss for you somewhere. If damage control activity persists, then the person in charge of it, keeps making mistakes -and mistakes are costly, especially when being intentional ones-. Lots of damage control being pulled off inside a relationship, means toxicity abounds.

Easy, no?

From what I have seen relationships based off profit or gain have a weak foundation that will allow a collapse if one side has issues.

If you get married for love you are more likely to trust and have faith in each other through the rough times rather than going through a bitter divorce.

[Shodan 2.0]

Manipulators. The absolute worst scum on Earth.

[WhiteKitt]

that u are with a freakin pos and u know it and this freakin pos is acting like it's the other way around ( you are the pos ) and u are like: da F is going on *confused

-> gaslighting ( very important to notice )