Is it just me? I just don't care about sex.

[Shodan]

I guess I could compare it to something like skydiving. Like, it would be cool to try it some day and all that, but I can't really say it's at the top of my priority list, I'm not in a hurry and I'm certainly not desperate to do it in the slightest.

I do find girls pretty, cute and so on and I often do like someone, it's been like that since kindergarten, but I'd never describe any of them as "hot" or "sexy" and I'd never feel like commenting crap like "damn I need to score that" or "bro check that out" or whatever.

I also don't get talking about sex at all. What the ♥♥♥♥ is even there to talk about? What's the point and what is there that you don't already know? It's like talking about the procedure of eating food when you could just eat food instead of talking about it. I just couldn't care less about those kinds of talks in the slightest, especially with a bunch of (stupid) guys.

Just hearing things like "learning to have sex" or "split up because of bad sex" make me want to just not bother with relationships at all. Learning, seriously? I've had enough of learning and preparing at school and the last ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ thing I need is another thing to learn and prepare for. Besides, what the ♥♥♥♥ is even there to learn? It's not rocket science.

Then, all the "kinks" and "fetishes" disgust me to no end, as well as "oral" and other ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ like that which is all the same nonsense to me. I don't ever want to be anywhere near a person who has participated in some disgusting ♥♥♥♥ like "oral", ever and I don't care how long it's been and how much they've been washing their mouth. I care about hygiene a lot, but still within reason, so the thought of someone previously having ♥♥♥♥ knows what kind of sex which ♥♥♥♥ knows what kind of people is not a very nice thought at all, to say the least. No nonsensical religious reasons, I just don't like the thought at all.

I've been trying to get over this for so long because that feels like the right way to go, but I can't lie, I just can't stand it at all and I can't imagine that changing, ever. If anything, I only find it more and more repulsive, the more I know.

I get the impression that "have you ever had a girlfriend" basically translates to "have you ever had sex" and it took me way too long to find out that relationships are all about sex for (nearly) everyone and that it's such a big deal. All those attempts to meet someone at a night club are just for sex, too. Basically, everything is just all about sex and not for actually finding a decent person to spend the rest of your life with. Not just for guys, but even girls. I really wish I never found out about any of this ♥♥♥♥ because I hate it so much.

So, while I've been attracted to girls since kindergarten, it was never ever even remotely sexual for me and I don't really care about that stuff at all. If someone asked me "yo what's her ass and tits like", I'd have to try really hard to remember to pay attention next time to be able to answer that. I'd be 100% fine finding someone who doesn't care about sex in the slightest and not only that, but maybe I'd even prefer it that way because it's just simpler that way and I don't have to have disturbing images inside my head. Not that it's anything crippling that I should go seek a therapist about, not at all, don't get me wrong, but yeah.

Is anyone else the same way? Would this be asexuality or simply not giving a ♥♥♥♥ about sex? Asexuality doesn't sound exactly right because like I said at the beginning, I wouldn't mind doing it, but then again, there's all this stuff I said here against it and I just hardly care about it at all. I don't care about labels because my case is my case and 1 word doesn't feel like enough to describe it, but I'm just curious regardless, I guess.

[nakoda]

funewchie님이 먼저 게시:

nakoda님이 먼저 게시:

What's with people thinking there is something wrong with asexuality?

Why are people slapping labels on others, for the high crime of exercising free will?

why use words at all?

it's a description not a label.

[Agarthan Knight]

nakoda님이 먼저 게시:

Agarthan Knight님이 먼저 게시:

If you find sex repulsive, you're not mature enough to be talking about it.

Or they're asexual and find sex repulsive, and have exponentially more character maturity for being willing to talk about it than shame people with different experiences than theirs.

Being asexual doesn't mean you inherently find sex 'repulsive', it just means you're asexual. Invest in a dictionary.

I feel zero sexual attraction to lions, that doesn't mean I find their reproduction in the wild repulsive. Only children, or those with the brain of a child, find a natural act repulsive.

[Agarthan Knight]

funewchie님이 먼저 게시:

Or they just don't care about it.

"Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity."

They're asexual.

[Barney, from Black Mesa.]

That's your incentive, OP, but your sterile behaviour is 'atypical', especially for a man. Having an inactive lifestyle will naturally lead to lower levels of testosterone production.

[Auckes]

That's the correct attitude there, OP! In life, we should take everything, with a grain of salt. No need to obsess over things or even worse, rush them.

Also, the biggest secret is this; there is sex and then, there is GOOD sex! Those are two entirely different things, like two different worlds or something!

Take your time and above all, enjoy responsibly. And don't forget, it is an interactive game; you don't do it to please yourself, you do it to please the other person so you can end up being yourself pleased.

[hehexd]

Your parents failed at creating decent boundaries in you, and now as an adult you have extreme negative views towards intimacy, I've seen your stereotype of person a million times. Ask yourself why you have such opinionated karen-like views towards something natural and basic to all biological animals, which is what you are just like everyone else (hint i answered it in the first sentence). If you werent such a fake seething manchild you wouldnt be popping yourself off to pr0n by your own logic. But you do, dont you? LOL

[Tsubame ⭐]

You have not tried it yet, first of all.

And even if you did, many people are not too keen into it, or not at all, for various reasons.

Likes and dislikes are subjective, and this topic is no exception.

So no, you are not the only one.

[Mauserich]

As I see it, you have developed quite an inhibition towards the most natural thing in the world. You should not see yourself as a benchmark. Personally, if I were you, I would relax and let people have their fun.

[Q-T_3.14.exe]

You never know until you try it.

[gza]

Life is one big lesson lil bro.

[Rhila]

for me anything more than hugging with clothes on is disgusting.
and the sexual contact only necessary to make babies.

[nakoda]

Agarthan Knight님이 먼저 게시:

nakoda님이 먼저 게시:

Or they're asexual and find sex repulsive, and have exponentially more character maturity for being willing to talk about it than shame people with different experiences than theirs.

Being asexual doesn't mean you inherently find sex 'repulsive', it just means you're asexual. Invest in a dictionary.

I feel zero sexual attraction to lions, that doesn't mean I find their reproduction in the wild repulsive. Only children, or those with the brain of a child, find a natural act repulsive.

I never said they were inherent.

But people who find sex repulsive are LIKELY asexual. Which is what the OP described.

Also, what the ♥♥♥♥ is wrong with you that you sideline straight to bestiality? and then children ...

And then you have the audacity to tell ME to get a dictionary?

And this isn't even diving in to the rabbit hole of psychosis where you thi k adults don't or can't find things repulsive.

[funewchie]

𝕭𝔩𝔞𝔠𝔨♠님이 먼저 게시:

That's your incentive, OP, but your sterile behaviour is 'atypical', especially for a man. Having an inactive lifestyle will naturally lead to lower levels of testosterone production.

Kid, I've gone 38 years without doing the nasty, and my levels are perfectly normal (as my last routine blood test showed).

So, no, your theory is officially debunked.
Stop listening to clowns on YouTube and Reddit pretending to be scientists. Or worse, Hollywood movies.
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Also, people, we're human beings, not animals.
Humans have free will.
At no time are they required to listen to a feeling or impulse (and oftentimes shouldn't).

nakoda님이 먼저 게시:

But people who find sex repulsive are LIKELY asexual. Which is what the OP described.

And this isn't even diving in to the rabbit hole of psychosis where you thi k adults don't or can't find things repulsive.

Actually, he didn't say that.

The OP simply said he hates how much people talk about it (about something that by all rights should be kept private), and how some people's entire lives revolve around sex.
The OP even outright said he's not against doing it, he's just not obsessed with it.

In short, he's a gentleman, in a world that's becoming increasingly perverse.
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And yeah, some people do think that there's something wrong, because they messed up in their own lives.
I've seen it all too often.
Someone did the deed when they were a teenager, they knew they shouldn't but did anyways, and are now consumed with guilt.
So to try and sooth their guilt, they try to convince themselves and others that "it's perfectly normal and natural. You HAVE to do it, or you'll die/suffer injury (somehow)."

And tend to freak out when they encounter people that have legit gone their whole lives without sex and that aren't bothered by it. Not even asexual, they just decided to focus on other things in life.
Is it jealousy? An inability to understand how other people can think differently?
....How would I know? I'm not a psychiatrist.

[Sir Seanicus, Esq.]

It's ok, OP...

Most users here never got any to begin with.

[Volfogg]

What if somebody hates being touched? I cringe even when poked with finger. It just feels disgusting.