isn't it sad that being kind is a weakness?

[The Wok]

What a world we live in

[Rio]

Also like... Kindness being a virtue or not can come down to the morality system too.

Like master morality vs err "unwilling follower" morality if you are a follower of the Nietzsche school of thought.

Kindness is something I have thought about for years. Because sometimes being kind is actually hurtful to people.

Like a kind teacher that passes you despite that you should have failed a class, Means you might never learn the lessons. And that might cause you issues the rest of your life.

Parents that are "too kind" can end up with 30yo kids that still live at home. Where parents that kicked a kid out at 18 might see them being a small business owner at 30.

Kindness in the short term, to avoid discomfort can cause so much pain in the long term.

[Tonepoet]

Nah, being kind is not a weakness. You just have to remember anything you do in kindness should not be expected to have a return on investment, and limit such acts according to the ability and resources you have to perform them as such.

Being trusting is a weakness, especially with people who have not earned that trust, but sometimes even with people who have. Now that is quite sad, and perhaps the most shameful aspect of our modern world. v_v

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That's was one of the reasons I was bullied in school. How does being kind make one gay anyway? :/

[GTAMAN]

skill issue

[sleeps]

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That's was one of the reasons I was bullied in school. How does being kind make one gay anyway? :/

oh yeah that. tbh idk. maybe they expect you to be "tough" when not everyone is into that kind of "tough"

[Ganger]

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Parents that are "too kind" can end up with 30yo kids that still live at home. Where parents that kicked a kid out at 18 might see them being a small business owner at 30.

Kindness in the short term, to avoid discomfort can cause so much pain in the long term.

I can relate to this.... italian males are renowned for being protected by their mothers to the point of the mother will do everything for their sons.. cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing, paying for everything and getting them out of trouble all the way into old age. I know 50+ year old italian guys in italy who still live at home and will never move out or ever plan too and once their mothers pass away, they become lost.

All they do is moot about all day, drinking and smoking at the local bar, staying up late talking to others while their 70+ old mother is yet preparing pasta, baccala and insalata back home.

Im glad my own mother prepared me for life from a early age and made me leave home at 21.. because staying at home and being looked after was going too be my destiny from birth.

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That's was one of the reasons I was bullied in school. How does being kind make one gay anyway? :/

oh yeah that. tbh idk. maybe they expect you to be "tough" when not everyone is into that kind of "tough"

Perhaps. I wasn't a trouble maker and I looked at other boys duke it out on the yard and thought it was stupid to be involved in such physical activities.

And I easily tear up which also is seen as a weakness.

Sometimes I wished I wasn't like the way I am. If I wasn't I most likely didn't have to deal with people giving me a bad time. I tried to be like other yet it didn't work out, yet I managed to grow and become stronger as a result. I am still the same but tougher.

[Irene ❤]

Being kind is strength.
- Lift others
- Help others
- Treat everyone as important

Being narcissistic is weakness.
- Judge others
- Bring down others
- Lack empathy
- Sense of self-importance

[Insomniac Jack]

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Parents that are "too kind" can end up with 30yo kids that still live at home. Where parents that kicked a kid out at 18 might see them being a small business owner at 30.

Kindness in the short term, to avoid discomfort can cause so much pain in the long term.

I can relate to this.... italian males are renowned for being protected by their mothers to the point of the mother will do everything for their sons.. cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing, paying for everything and getting them out of trouble all the way into old age. I know 50+ year old italian guys in italy who still live at home and will never move out or ever plan too and once their mothers pass away, they become lost.

All they do is moot about all day, drinking and smoking at the local bar, staying up late talking to others while their 70+ old mother is yet preparing pasta, baccala and insalata back home.

Im glad my own mother prepared me for life from a early age and made me leave home at 21.. because staying at home and being looked after was going too be my destiny from birth.

On one hand it's a quaint life of a paisano, on the other it's own version of hell.

[Insomniac Jack]

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Being kind is strength.
- Lift others
- Help others
- Treat everyone as important

Being narcissistic is weakness.
- Judge others
- Bring down others
- Lack empathy
- Sense of self-importance

Lack of self awareness=priceless

For everything else, there's Master Card.

[Grimmz]

i was kind, quiet and peaceful in my school days and due to that i got bullied to the point i had to be put to a mental hospital. i missed most of my teen life because i got such trauma from it that i had to spend a lot of time recovering in mental wards and receive a ton of therapy.

but i'm kind of glad that i went through it cos it made me stronger. went to serve in military soon after i was released and i got absolutely ripped. i swore to myself if i ever see those bastards again, i'd make them pay, and oh yes i'm going to take my time enjoying tormenting them.

if i was still like kind and peaceful i was back then i would probably still live with my mother and not have done anything with my life. in a way it was good that i was beat up on a daily basis.
it kind of unlocked my hidden potential.. but still i'm gona f those guys up if i ever see them again.

[craigsters]

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" is a biblical concept spoken by Jesus in Luke 6:31 and Matthew 7:12; it is commonly referred to as the "Golden Rule." "So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets" (Matthew 7:12). "Do to others as you would have them do to you" (Luke 6:31).


I'm Agnostic , but there's a saying from the bible, see above

If your good to me , I'll be good to you

If I see a child's shoe fall off onto the floor well it in the stroller in the store lineup and the parent isn't paying attention I'll go and pick up the shoe and give it to the parent

I'f I'm near the lobby door and your coming in with lots of grocery's in a cart, or both hands full, I'll open the locked lobby door ad hold it open well you get in

I'll hold the elevator door if your nearby finishing checking your mail

If I see a piece of paper that looks like money or a credit card at your feet well your at the teller I'll get your attention to what's at your feet


evangelical christianity ruined my family, so that's why I'm Agnostic and lost my religion or faith in God for now

[hehexd]

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i was kind, quiet and peaceful in my school days and due to that i got bullied to the point i had to be put to a mental hospital. i missed most of my teen life because i got such trauma from it that i had to spend a lot of time recovering in mental wards and receive a ton of therapy.

but i'm kind of glad that i went through it cos it made me stronger. went to serve in military soon after i was released and i got absolutely ripped. i swore to myself if i ever see those bastards again, i'd make them pay, and oh yes i'm going to take my time enjoying tormenting them.

if i was still like kind and peaceful i was back then i would probably still live with my mother and not have done anything with my life. in a way it was good that i was beat up on a daily basis.
it kind of unlocked my hidden potential.. but still i'm gona f those guys up if i ever see them again.

Being kind without standing up for yourself and having boundaries is called being an idiot push over

[zeke]

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isn't it sad that being kind is a weakness?

I don't know about that.... I'd posit that thinking 'being kind is weak' is a sign of weakness.

[Li77lehorn]

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i was kind, quiet and peaceful in my school days and due to that i got bullied to the point i had to be put to a mental hospital. i missed most of my teen life because i got such trauma from it that i had to spend a lot of time recovering in mental wards and receive a ton of therapy.

but i'm kind of glad that i went through it cos it made me stronger. went to serve in military soon after i was released and i got absolutely ripped. i swore to myself if i ever see those bastards again, i'd make them pay, and oh yes i'm going to take my time enjoying tormenting them.

if i was still like kind and peaceful i was back then i would probably still live with my mother and not have done anything with my life. in a way it was good that i was beat up on a daily basis.
it kind of unlocked my hidden potential.. but still i'm gona f those guys up if i ever see them again.

Being kind without standing up for yourself and having boundaries is called being an idiot push over

Yeah. But it's like when you get pushed around, harassed and bullied for ages, then when you finally hit back and give them a blood nose.. they cry and say you're an intimidating bully.

That's basically been my life since as long as I can remember. And once you cross that line... don't expect to not get hit.

So being kind isn't the weakness. It's just sad you sometimes need to get people out of your personal space.